EARLY 20s CRISIS!!!!

Man of the Future (@Man-of-the-Future) 8 years, 11 months ago

Honestly I’m at the point where I want to say FUCK COLLEGE!!!!
Don’t get me wrong I’m a pretty good student I know how to apply myself. But it’s these damn loans, fees, and unpromised employment worries. I feel I might be working for nothing. I feel like I’m going to college just to pay for college. A vicious cycle!!! I’m really just pressured by my parents and family to stay in. You know they say “do what you want” but once you do that if they don’t agree with you then they get mad at you. I want to just be free from all these unnecessary responsibilities, these chains, these weights of stress. I want a better way of life because this shit is killing me. I’m stuck!!!! Any similar stories any suggestions I just need some sympathy

October 5, 2013 at 3:20 pm
Dalton (6) (@waterbuffalo) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@man-of-the-future, I feel you man. I’m also wondering whether or not college is right for me. My suggestion would be to stick it out a little longer and go with your gut. If you no longer feel it is meaningful or that your time would be better spent doing other stuff, then do other stuff! Big changes are scary, but it could be exactly what you need. Don’t feel that college is the only option.

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Mike (13) (@iPrentice) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@man-of-the-future,
The only easy day was yesterday. It’s hard to accept that you are going to have to provide for yourself and possibly a family one day. In college, or out of college, your responsibilities are never going away. Neither is the stress. In this world you are alone and it is your responsibility to take care of yourself. Do what you want to do, but realize your actions have consequences, good or bad. Put yourself in the shoes of your 40 year old self. Do you think you would ever regret getting an education?

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Anonymous (44) (@) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

I went through the same thing a while back and I ultimately dropped out of college. I went to a good school, I’m a bright, smart, realistic, genuinely able person. I just got tired of the meaningless classes and work that means absolutely nothing all so that I could get a degree so I could convince someone else that I’m worthy of hiring. I’m sorry but that just doesn’t seem right to me. I want to own my own business, because for me, if you want something done right you need to do it yourself, your way.

Luckily for me my parents were pretty okay with my decision. My final decision came when I saw that my parents had an 18,000 dollar payment to make, and all I could think about was how little I was getting out of my parents hard earned money. If you need a degree to go into a certain career path, then so be it. But if you’re going just to go, and go through the motions and get nothing out of it except wasted time and meaningless classes, by all means drop out. This video was a huge turning point for me in my decision. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rdNSkzT6UHE
I had put up with living a life that wasn’t mine for so long that I became considerably depressed.

I’ve been out of school since the start of this fall semester and I’m still not sure what to do or where to go with my time. But I am much happier knowing that if an opportunity presents itself for me, I can take it. That and I sleep better knowing my parents aren’t wasting their money on me cheating on every test I took and sitting on my laptop during class hours. I get most of my learning through the internet, I always have. I can answer just about any question that comes to my mind, immediately, where as with college, they’re just forcing information on you thats usually out dated and given by some professor who has never done anything in any field other than being a fuckin professor.

I’m starting to believe that college is just an old, outdated system where information was “housed” before the internet. And this generation is too naive and too scared to admit that the eduction system needs to be changed, and quickly. Classism provides us with the mentality that a person without a college education is dumb, yet I personally feel smarter (not that there i’m in any form of competition with anyone) than 95% percent of the college students i’ve come across. So few of them have the capacity to produce or entertain meaningful, intelligent thoughts, and are too concerned with getting their work done.

The whole system just sets up people to be useful idiots. Do this meaningless work from 9-5 and we’ll give you the weekends off, go get drunk, forget you’re living in this stupid rat race and come back on monday. only to talk about your weekend monday and tuesday, start thinking of plans on wednesday and get excited about them thursday and friday during work. then go out and repeat.

That cycle is what I do not want to be apart of in this life. Which is why i ultimately “dropped out”. I like to think that I “stood up”, for myself, and for my happiness.

This world needs more freethinkers.

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DoThatThing4 (21) (@thatguy46and2) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@man-of-the-future, listen fuck-face, difficult things are worth doing because they’re difficult. Too many people do easy shit. Grow a pair and finish college.

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Obviously, you’re not a golfer (605) (@donjaime23) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@man-of-the-future, You totally have my sympathy, amigo. Unfortunately, college is the new high school–everyone’s got a Bachelor’s these days and you really cant do much of shit without one…

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Nick Robare (11) (@journeytoparadise) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@man-of-the-future,

college can be a drag, I, as well as many people I know have the same frustrations you do. I guess it all depends on what you want to do with yourself, if college isn’t necessary to achieve your dreams drop out. Good luck man

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Man of the Future (108) (@Man-of-the-Future) 8 years, 11 months ago ago
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Man of the Future (108) (@Man-of-the-Future) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@iprentice, Damn I like that 40 year old analogy

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Man of the Future (108) (@Man-of-the-Future) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@conorq, Thanks man you really touched on what i needed to hear

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Man of the Future (108) (@Man-of-the-Future) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@donjaime23, yea that’s the world

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Man of the Future (108) (@Man-of-the-Future) 8 years, 11 months ago ago
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Jewels (3) (@Sunshine-Daydream) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@man-of-the-future
I had the same “quarter life crisis” while I was in school. I decided the only thing I could imagine investing that much effort, time and money was studying something I truly loved. I decided to study art (despite all the “interesting” opinions I heard about art majors) and the education I got (much of it outside of the classroom) and the connections I made were MORE than worth the cost/effort of college.
College is only worth it if you do what you love. And if that means taking a semester off to soul-search, so be it.
Good luck!

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TheSkaFish (962)M (@theskafish) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

I hear ya, I have a college degree already but I can’t stand the thought of taking any more school. I just can’t do homework and tests and shit like that anymore, the thought of it drives me insane. I only want to do things that help me start LIFE.

The question is, what are some interesting, well-paying jobs you can get without a college degree these days?

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bigmac22 (26) (@bigmac22) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

seems to me that in these days, its more about creating your own job than finding one. at least, i can say that it is highly distasteful for me that i have to go and work for someone else at a job i don’t really like, when i know that i have other talents that i could be developing and working with much more. our society is outdated. time to upgrade our ways of thinking.

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joyous1 (42) (@joleensmith12) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

I totally understand, @conorq, I am in community college just because I am 20 and I file for Independence so I get all of my schooling paid for. It’s very easy and If you have a cheap community college near you, filing for independence will most likely pay for your whole schooling plus books. I am getting about $400 back each semester too. No loans at all. So I am full time and I get to pick whatever classes I want. I love school and always have. I dont agree in getting a degree though. I mostly get all of my education online though. When I am interested in a topic, I can spend hours researching. School, however makes me want to procrastinate so bad. But that’s why I only sign up for classes I want to take for fun. Which are mostly environmental science classes and art.
So I only do school because it is free and fun for me, But I am not getting a degree and am actually just hoping soon to move to Colorado and live in a sustainable community off-grid. I dont know if they have those there or not. But yeah… Fuck the system. And most teachers teach you bullshit stuff I will never need to know for what I’d want in my life. Like the Pythagorean theorem, and i was required to take mythology for a science degree. I will learn more online every night than I can learn in once a week class. I also feel like when we are old enough to start our “career”, degrees wont be enough. I mean, look at how many years it takes to get a PHD or something. * years or so… pretty soon it will be like, who has the highest degree as well as who has the most money, as well as who is most socially accepted by society, as well as who can give the govmnt the most money.
Just live your life how you want to. Dont just do what society tells you to. School is a money sucker. And school does stress you out, and make u in debt which also leads to a consumer and fast paced person… I think… Just my opinions.

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Evan (4) (@CitizenGatsby) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@man-of-the-future,

I think you’re trying to prove something to people, when you should be trying to prove something to yourself doing something you love. What you got to understand is that a degree is nothing but a piece of paper, it means pretty much nothing in the REAL world. It just means you might know something about a certain subject. There’s a great saying that I love that goes ” Don’t let schooling get in the way of you’re education “, schooling does not dictate how smart someone is. What you need to do is find a subject or a number of subjects that inspire you and educate yourself on them until you can express yourself through them. You need to find you’re own path, follow your heart. What you also need to do is not let other people’s expectations of you slow you down. You also shouldn’t measure you’re success based on how much money you’re making, that’s just a superficial way of looking at you’re self-worth, you should be measuring how happy you are. It’s always a bit of a bother when someone on this site claims to be so enlightened with fancy worded posts on human existence, yet still get stressed over their social standing based on how much money their making. It’s a HUGH misconception that having a decent paying job equals security, in this economy it doesn’t. And even if you have a secure life, is that what you really want? Life’s all about taking chances, taking leaps of faith, that’s what makes life exciting. If there’s no change, if there’s no challenge, then you stop progressing, you stop learning. Everybody has that special something in them, that artistic and creative voice. Find that and put all the energy you put into school and develop you’re craft, who knows maybe that will because a job, You’ll never know unless you try, take a leap of faith.

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Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@theskafish, Well you can find an industry you like and “work your way up”. I might have the opportunity to advance to management in the hospitality industry just because I’ve been here longer than any of the other front desk people and we need some management.

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Adele (5) (@aanderson) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@man-of-the-future,
Think about what you are trying to get out of your college experience?
Are you trying to earn a degree or are you interested in becoming more knowledgeable and understanding of a particular subject?
Try switching universities. A lifestyle where you are constantly doing work that is not applicable or interesting to you is clearly not beneficial. Switch somewhere more open and with a better financial aid package.
A college education is shaped by you– you can either do the work you’re given and be “educated” by the plan of someone else, or you can actively pursue the opportunities you believe are beneficial to your education.
Reach out to professors and different employment offices about finding an internship where you can learn to run your own business. Or study abroad.
I’m not sure exactly what you want, but you need to go actively pursue it instead of feeling negatively about what you are presented with.

@conorq,
college doesn’t have to be this rat race that you’re describing. its all about where you choose to place yourself, who to choose to associate with, and what final goal or focus you go into college with.

You said:
“The whole system just sets up people to be useful idiots. Do this meaningless work from 9-5 and we’ll give you the weekends off, go get drunk, forget you’re living in this stupid rat race and come back on monday.”

The whole mindset of this forum is confusing me.
If you are doing something that you deem “meaningless,” it’s not the result of the “system,” it’s you choosing to settle with something you are given.
If you don’t like it, you have enough freedom to go out and change it, in terms of receiving an education.

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Adsy Bear (0) (@adsybear) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

I got kicked out of college and thought I was in trouble.

3 years later I’ve built a really successful business from scratch and life is great.

It’s hard work but well worth it. I would recommend it to anyone who is “waking up”

If your heart is in staying at college, stay in college. it sounds like that’s not the case so I’d move on. At least you’ve tried it.

Think what your passionate about, and design a lifestyle around it.

Then go and work like crazy to get there! Good luck!

Ps my business is http://www.damson.uk.com – let me know what you think :-)

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fucksake (26) (@fucksake) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@conorq, “The whole system just sets up people to be useful idiots. Do this meaningless work from 9-5 and we’ll give you the weekends off, go get drunk, forget you’re living in this stupid rat race and come back on monday. only to talk about your weekend monday and tuesday, start thinking of plans on wednesday and get excited about them thursday and friday during work. then go out and repeat. ”

True and theres no way to get out of it unless you want to dominate and enslave others as a manager or business owner. People are stupid. i cant wait to OD on heroin !!!!! fuck this stupid world hahaha

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fucksake (26) (@fucksake) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@adsybear, what has “creating a business ” got to do with waking up ? all you’re doing is creating more mundane stupid jobs and enslaving more people to do some stupid shit… whilst you rake in the profits of their grinding work

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Anonymous (44) (@) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@aanderson, yes, I was settling for something I was given. College, and I decided to change from college which I changed my major four times, and for the probably 100th time I looked through the college catalog of available majors and courses I decided enough was enough. The answer, for me, doesn’t lie within college. And college isn’t the only place to receive an education.


@fucksake
, so true. it’s a sad world we’re living in. I think Kanye West put it best (i’m probably gonna catch a lot of shit for saying this haha) but “I’d rather be a dick than a swallower.”

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who? (19) (@srhhrkr) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

Take a break.

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Alex Pretorius (33) (@apretorius1) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@man-of-the-future, I dropped out literally last week my parents cut me off just got a car, cell phone, and insurance in my name. Couldn’t be happier. I’m still planning on going back to school mind you but I was going to school for economics when I realized how much I hate the whole system of money in the world. I’m probably gonna go back next fall and do something like environmental science, biology, or geology, because all I want to do is travel and see nature and this would be giving me a purpose behind going the places I want as well as help uncover new things about our world. Can’t lie the dropping out and being cut off from my parents had a lot to do with the fact that I smoke but its what kept me sane and I’ll be damned if at 21 I let my parents control me anymore.

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Charlotte (51) (@11mothernature) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

hey I get you man. I’m a junior in college and only recently have actually applied myself and take it seriously, because I realize how important my interests are. I’m a music therapy major with a jazz emphasis, playing the saxophone, and I can go to school wiped out and leave re inspired. If you aren’t studying what you love I imagine it can get extremely difficult. I used to think what’s the point. Nothing matters to learn because we die and forget it right?
I’m not sure, but I starve for the knowledge. I wish I could minor in philosophy, etc.
But it’s not for everyone. and I certainly wish I wasn’t binded by an extremely regimented practice and homework schedule. But I’m pouring my heart into my craft, and I am okay with the fact that I can do whatever I like when I’m finished. Because the second I’m not really busy I get very depressed.

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