Emotional Detachment mixed with Hyper Empathy

 Kristina Alexandra (@lookitskristina)8 years, 3 months ago

Is it true that emotions, and senses are just like muscles and skills, once unused become dull, weak, and almost nonexistent.
I have lately become extremely detached and have absolutely no ability to connect to individuals I once considered my “friends” or family.
The closest I come to being somewhat emotional openly with others is under the effects of drugs/alcohol which I try to avoid at all times. Even then it’s just my own depressive shit that I hold inside to being with. So this means I spend a lot of time being very lonely, and depressed. Which I don’t quite know how to cope with. I look at people with friendships and relationships and can not comprehend how can they honestly even give a shit about another person without it benefitting them some how in their own agenda.
I still feel hyper empathy in terms I can sense how others feel, react, to the point it affects my own functioning and wellbeing. But to actually willingly care about it, I have to force myself out of societal norms that I have to exude sympathy, care, or use my hyper empathy to give them what they need to feel better, deep down none of it is genuine.
My physically needs also have become nonexistent, that touch makes me feel extremely uncomfortable, and thought of another person of the opposite sex is just blah on any level aside from platonic conversation. Even hugs from my mother, or grandparents make my skin crawl.
My question is I’m still an extremely kind and caring person, I still try to go out, and see friends once in a while for the sake of maybe “fake it, til you make it” But I can regain being the caring, social butterfly that I once was, or will I eventually disconnect and just become a sociopath down the line?
Is it possible retrain your emotions and senses to feel again and actually enjoy the simple things?

January 22, 2013 at 12:55 pm
Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 8 years, 3 months ago ago

@lookitskristina, “Is it true that emotions, and senses are just like muscles and skills, once unused become dull, weak, and almost nonexistent.”

Nah, huge misconception. Emotion is just feedback. Certain actions produce certain emotional response.
The mind works in habits. The more you make yourself sad, the more you make yourself sad, and more and more. The more you make yourself happy, the more you make yourself happy, and more and more.
It’s really that simple.

It’s all just ego patterns.

“Which I don’t quite know how to cope with.”

This one is really simple, drop the negativity. It’s alright to be alone.
If you’d rather not be alone, then don’t.

“Either act or forget, complaining is silly” -Stefan Sagmeister

“I look at people with friendships and relationships and can not comprehend how can they honestly even give a shit about another person without it benefitting them some how in their own agenda.”

Great observation, weak conclusion.
It really DOES benefit their own agenda, and that’s why they do it, it’s just subconscious. They think they’re being loving and caring, but at the depth of it they’re really just being selfish. We all are.
The ego wants to be unseen, that’s why we have such silly ideas, the ego is covering its tracks. Social life and empathy are just the work of instincts and ego, it’s all selfish at the core.

“My physically needs also have become nonexistent, that touch makes me feel extremely uncomfortable, and thought of another person of the opposite sex is just blah on any level aside from platonic conversation. Even hugs from my mother, or grandparents make my skin crawl.”

Going apathetic, are we? This is not a good sign.

Look, it’s only gonna get worse if you seal yourself up like that. Been there, done that, I know this shit from experience.
Gotta let all that shit out, let go, clean your mind up a bit. The only way out is through, you must let all the bullshit out or things will only get darker and darker.

It’s like mental constipation. Pushing it out will hurt, but keeping it inside will only make it grow more and eventually it will have to come out anyway, and it will hurt a lot more.

“Is it possible retrain your emotions and senses to feel again and actually enjoy the simple things?”

Yup.
It’s all ego, and the ego is fully malleable. There is no real you, only what you’ve currently made yourself. Deep down, you are the only one in charge of you.

“Fake it till you make it” doesn’t work on things like these. Because it’s not about a superficial skill, but a deep set issue.
Just dig into your own mind, find the problem and eliminate it.

Just let go, enjoy life.
The problem isn’t the “cold hard truth” of reality. No, that doesn’t change anything.
The problem is your attitude towards it, your dark projection.

Things are the way they are, it’s neither good nor bad. Just enjoy and make the best of it.

Peace and love
//Elion

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Kristina Alexandra (13) (@lookitskristina) 8 years, 3 months ago ago

@manimal, thank you for your detailed and insightful explanation of my symptoms/negative outlook, yeah a positive out look is a great cure, which Im trying to develop but its very fleeting from one day to the next but I guess it takes time and practice.

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Kaity (0) (@Kaity-Nanni) 9 months ago ago

Hey. Just wanted to say you put into words everything I feel daily recently (but hindsight maybe since I could remember?) I stay social & I am not insecure but wow such a contradiction because I feel a very consuming feeling that reminds me I am aware I am trying too hard or I am detached & it’s become an insane snowball effect. Just trying to look out for myself who knows I gotta stop entertaining negativity. A slippery slope to fall into. Hard to pull back out. Haven’t made actually progress but I’ll get there too. Keep pushing. 

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