Emotional energy

LesterJohn (@lesterdeguzman) 8 years, 10 months ago

I was wondering…

From words to what people say to one another, is that merely transferred as energy? Good or bad?

The other day I came across a post about weirdness becoming creepy, and some guy mentioned a gesture of giving a compliment to a stranger about her beautiful eyes, but stopped himself, and pondered on a thought which lead him onto another which he started to wonder if the stranger would’ve found the compliment rather weird based on the majority of how society reacts to a strangers compliment as being creepy.

Someone replied to that topic and mentioned on the outskirts that even if that stranger found his compliments creepy or not, what if she were having a really bad day and that one compliment were to change her bad mood into a good one.

This came to my sudden attention and realization in the events that happened to me today. I woke up having a decent day prior to the day before. Not good nor bad but ‘ok’. With that said, I started to ponder on the idea of ‘people’s energy’.

When we speak to people, whether it’s a compliment or a mini conversation, we give off an energy, good or bad, along with the tone and words we say. This either can stress the person taking it in as a good or bad mood, or in most cases of a superficial narcissistic society, a ‘wtf’ mood of attitude (categorized as the creepy compliment). Even with people you know for a really long time, like family or friends. When you fight or love. Where that fight or love left off from can easily be picked up from where it left off and you don’t really have to say much because that energy is so strong that the reaction you emit from it stays with you the following day, leading to either a good or bad day, but we choose to forget due to our fast paced lives…

January 25, 2013 at 8:15 am
BirdFlyingHigh (152) (@birdflyinghigh) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

Your energy is only as strong as your belief in yourself. So if you felt like giving a compliment, you should give it. As soon as you start to question your own energy, it becomes weaker and weaker. Once your energy is weaker, you begin doubting yourself and imagining yourself as the bad guy – which makes the other person more likely to imagine you as the bad guy, hence you becoming “creepy.”

So if you want to do something, just do it. And stop thinking about how other people feel about it all the time. You can’t control their reaction and you have to get over wanting to.

LesterJohn (9) (@lesterdeguzman) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@birdflyinghigh, ofcourse. But that’s not where I wanted this to go.
Let me get this into deeper detail on my thoughts about ’emotional energy’.
A buddy of mines texted me right after attending his court date, he wanted to hangout. When we met, he seemed a little off so it was cordial of me to ask how the court thing went. He brushed it off with a response something similar to ‘i don’t want to talk about it right now’. I nonchalantly changed the subject and asked how work was going, and the response i got was sort of like an ’emotional stress’. Nothing came good out of it. I didn’t really have anything supportive to say hence that I never seen him like this so it came towards a long moment of silence. And due to the fact of the words that were expressed last, that lingered in our minds, i felt this bad energy he was feeling, like I was getting sucked in this bad mood he was in. This came to thought of realizing and pondering of ‘people’s emotional energy’.

Aline (22) (@aleen) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

I think everything is energy so thougts, words, actions, etc are all energy! When we talk, the words we say can be good or bad depending of our feelings-intentions. For example, when a stranger comes to you and say “You are very beautiful” with a pervert look and a weird voice like he wants to put you in his bed, you will feel a bad energy but if another stranger says this same compliment with a sincere look, his words will have a different energy from the pervert, it will have a nice and warm energy which will touch your heart.
Every words will have their differents energy depending of the intention of the speaker. ;)

babsita (2) (@bcven) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

What you might have been experiencing is “emotional contagion.” There is a lot of research done on this topic in various fields, including interpersonal communication, and it’s quite fascinating. Ones emotional energies do in fact rub off on those around them!

LesterJohn (9) (@lesterdeguzman) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@bcven, brilliant! Emotional contagion. It is quite fascinating. I would have never guessed that. Thanx lad!
@aleen, i appreciate the opinion, thats true, you’re so right.

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