Emotional & Spiritual Advice
Are you happy? Good for you. Spread the cheer. SMILE. Offer a compliment. Create something that embodies the good spirits you are in.
Are you sad? Ask yourself why? Consider how you are growing from this outpouring of emotion. Notice if there is a bond being formed between yourself and the recipient of your tears.
Are you angry? Ask yourself why? Have you expected too much of others? Have you discovered, to your dismay, that you did not put in as much effort into an endeavor as had been required? What reason has you to be angry? Anger is a selfish emotion. Have nothing with it. Shake it off like a bug if it becomes attracted to you.
Are you indifferent? Good. You will not be hindered by the imprisonments of emotion. You may not share experiences with those whom allow emotions to overtake them, but that’s alright. There is nothing to “miss” in this life. You have it all already. Indifference is essentially neutrality of the mind. Better to be safe than sorry.
Are you intoxicated with love or joy? Euphoria does not last. Trust me. I’ve taken shits I had hoped would last for days. Alas, they lasted mere minutes at best. (Sorry for the gross example.) But really, do not become so enveloped in your own experience that it becomes isolated in the wake of all others. I mean, fuck. Fuck. Maybe that’s desirable, “being in the zone” or “the moment,” but YOU KNOW what is next. YOU KNOW that you will soon come off of the high. And chances are that you’ll complain about it, or use it as an excuse to invite feelings of sadness or dissatisfaction into your psyche. There’s a rebound effect going on people.
Are you on the verge of tears? Of calling it quits? Of ruining your own day? Don’t. Please don’t. You don’t deserve that. Is there not a song or two that you can turn to to cheer you up for a little bit? Is there not a dream within sight? Is there not an event going on yearning for your help? Exist beyond your body. It is a tough thing to do, if you do not want to do it. I think we all want to though, we just don’t know how.
You must sit with silence and listen to what she has to say. I swear to motherfucking God Christ fuck stick SpaghettiO’s. Through solitude, you will find (if not create) your meaning. It worked for me. Walking down the streets of San Francisco alone, I had the realization which has since set up my life. I’ll be authoring a book (I hope) chronicling the teenage condition. Because so many motherfuckers like myself have been plagued with angst and confusion and contradictions and this and that and fuck and butt and everything in between.
Until then though, just give yourself a few fucking days to learn what it is you want to get out of, and put into, life.
What in the cat fuck do you have to lose, honestly?
You have everything to gain.
@optimystic, I love your book idea! I have an eerily similar passion about maximizing the potential of young people. The condition of the child and teenager is a product of being held back from acting on authentic impulses and performing at fullest potential. Teenagers have so much energy and passion for learning about the world that other age groups do not.That. power is completely bottled and untapped by cramming them in schools and commanding them to be docile lazy followers waiting around for “life” to start. I hope you share more about your book on HE :)
@anjelica, I’m kind of in love with the idea myself (I suppose I should be if I intend to write about it).
“Maximizing the potential of young people.”
That is an excellently succinct way of describing my message. I wholeheartedly agree with all you have said, and believe that there is a lack of intellectually liberating outlets for those our age. Sure, you can encourage kids to read fantasy novels and to play with one another and to listen to music (which is an extraordinarily power medium in its own right) and all of that, but until the psyche has been tapped, until the spirit has been forcibly altered, there will be no permanent change. In the academic realm of communications, one would say that there is the lack of a “text” pushing our demographic to greater mental and spiritual heights. And to make the gist of the messages digestible for the reader…that is where I come in.
Do you believe in spirituality, if you don’t, then you are lost to the creation of existence. I can restore your happiness, heal your loved ones of their cancer, or and disease. Secure you a contract or get you promoted..or give your business a boom. Whatever you seek. Please write to me so I can connect with the soul of your lost joy. Please you have to be above 20 to write.
I await your letters
@optimystic, “And to make the gist of the messages digestible for the reader…that is where I come in.” Yes! You are off to a good start! I have been working with young people in various capacities for over 25 years. Currently I am a substitute teacher working mostly with 4th -6th grade, though I also work with middle and high school. I trace our true existence back to our childhoods. Then we did not think, we just did. We did not plan to climb a tree when we woke-up a particular day, but if in the course of our outdoor adventures that day we came across a tree and could reach the first branches, then, heck yes, we climbed it. @angelica alluded to the same. And, in fact, every major religious revival in U.S. history was begun by young people as well as most revolutions in the world. Why do you reckon the “powers-that-be” try to indoctrinate them all from a young age? Peace, Love & Light ~ ricky
@rickyferdon, I’ve been taking note of your presence on this site, Ricky. I must say, you’ve quite the penchant for positivity (as you should!). As I was once an elementary and middle school student, I would like to extend my gratitude for the services that you and other substitute teachers give. I am partially aware of how difficult it can be going into unfamiliar classrooms and attempting to manage classes according to a lesson plan you didn’t devise. And I’m fully aware of the miniscule pay you all receive for the incomprehensibly vital role you play in the educational system. I’m sorry about that. My mother was a paraprofessional educator some time ago until she was ultimately laid off. She loved it. So much joy she had received from the instrumental role she was playing in the lives of many young people. Unfortunately she was never able to find employment afterwards, but while she was employed she had made the most of the experience.
And yes, I believe it vitally important to write this book (which had tentatively been titled “Reflections at 20”) sooner as opposed to later. For the longer I wait, the greater my words will be marred by adult jargon, and less resembling of the particular demographic’s language with which I intend to write with. On a more philosophical level, I feel that my age (20) and below absolutely yearns for a voice to guide them. We currently are being directed by less than admirable figures. It is time someone steps up to the plate and writes another Catcher in the Rye to wake up the younger generation. Of course, my book will vary considerably from Salinger’s own, but the intent will remain roughly the same: to pierce the psyche of the youth…but rather than with skepticism, I plan to do so with positivity. And not that superficial “enlightenment” garbage, but with experiences that people can actually relate to, and with messages that people are able to understand.
Thank you for your post, Ricky. And even more so, thank you for what you do for our youth.
@optimystic, Most wonderful, Taylor, and thank-you for your kind words. While there are students who only read when something is required for school, there are those who are voracious readers which always does my heart good and when I notice it I am sure to let them know that I take notice and what a wonderful practice it is! DEFINITELY go with the book. Your writing just in the thread of this post seems impeccable to me. And yes, I was just considering the past day or two about the absence of the next great book/author. Some on HE may react if/when they see your words “that superficial ‘enlightenment’ garbage”, but I get it AND appreciate it! Please feel free to send any excerpts or bounce ideas off of me, if you wish in private message here, or I kinda like email: [email protected] Peace, Love & Light ~ ricky
@optimystic, I am excited to read your book. My thing that I am passionate about is specifically the early childhood development issues surrounding the stifling of independent thinking and self-regulating that I think most cultures really fuck up that results in apathetic, destructive behaviors in adolescence.
I want to develop a philosophy about how to care for, interact and treat humans ages 0-12 that would result in self-sufficient, independent, happy adolescents that have a harmonious relationship with the rest of society. It blows my mind the way that people think of young people as incapable and unable to regulate themselves, learn on their own, and make their own decisions. I almost feel like children and teenagers are discriminated against as if they are not important members of society. They are kept so young for so much longer than it is natural to be. Then your 17 and there is no place for you in society at all. I want to study tribal communities because I see that they are accepted as people much earlier and also that the children can all pretty much supervise themselves.
Let me know what y’all think of these two articles regarding our lives when children: http://happiness-is-the-natural-state.blogspot.com/2013/01/unless-you-become-as-little-children.html / http://happiness-is-the-natural-state.blogspot.com/2013/01/innocence-of-child.html Thanx!
@optimystic, Why do you think about anger as selfish emotion? Millions of kids felt the anger Eminem expressed in his songs and helped them to not feel alone in their natural emotion.
I’ll never agree with most of you on this site about anger. :) Sorry.
@beyond, I think truly feeling and expressing your emotions is part of living an honest authentic life. It is only selfish when it becomes abusive, which is really a product of bottling up anger from the past and not expressing it and then unleashing in a destructive way. Anger should be expressed the way young children express it- you feel it, are honest about it, and move on.
@anjelica, The main problem isn’t anger, it’s pettiness, people are way more worse that we like to think. For example, just an hour ago I was talking with a person that didn’t know what the word authentic means, even though he wanted to create a business out of authenticity, he was mainly thinking about the product and what he doesn’t know as negative from the world that surrounds him. I agree though, it’s supposed to be expressed so it could be understood.
@anjelica, Nope, you’re not following one bit. He didn’t know what authentic means while he cared about the product, without having an interest in the authenticity of the product. He just refused any correlation between the producing and what is serviced.
@anjelica, From sensitivity. Not well welcomed angry rants. :) Not just on this site though, you can see it every day if you just pay attention. Pussies don’t like someone getting angry at them so much, and if something reminds them about it on the Internet, they’re going to react the same, according to their pathetic personal bullshit – with the same anger – oppressed or fully expressed. :) If someone close to you is angry at you, would you let them walk away from you or slap you and stay?
@rickyferdon, I don’t know if you are familiar with the book “Your Child’s Self-Esteem” but the cover picture is a perfect representation of your philosophy about every one being born worthy and enough as is, in joyful existence.
@anjelica, @optimystic, piggybacking off of what you both have been posting, i read a book recently that presents the idea that elders should raise offspring. the fact that we are so eager to leave our families once we hit a certain age is wrong (well, not wrong, there is no right and wrong, there are just things that do or do not serve us as a society) so what would ultimately serve us better is if the elders/grandparents raise the offspring since they have the most wisdom/life experience while the parents continue to experience life (not to say they should be out of their child’s life, just shouldn’t be the ones teaching them how to live, because really the late teens/early twenties (when most women are ready to conceive/bear children) is still adolescence itself! then when the elder ages are reached the parents are ready to pass on their wisdom to the new offspring. there’s a reason the tribal/native communities stick with their families. just something to think about. i kind of did an AH HA! YES. when i read that.