Everyone Seems To Be "In a Relationship" These Days
Currently I’m a collegiate. Everywhere I look – people are in relationships. On all of the social websites, apps, etc; People are either getting into a relationship, getting married or having kids. Keep in mind that this is my age group of High-School to Mid 20’s.
Has society conditioned us to the point that we need to be in relationships? I swear there are some people that honestly can’t stay out of a relationship. Are people becoming less independent and more dependent? Obviously relationships offer security and comfort but I’m beginning to suspect something more insidious at play.
Please offer comments/thoughts/opinions.
@beyond, Like I talked about earlier – the messages in our pop culture and all – people have no idea what love is. Love is not unconditional. Love is purely conditional. ‘I’ll take care of me if you take care of you’ type of thing. Wanting the best for someone rather than accepting their sickness. If they lash out at you it is tantamount to the behavior of a fictional demon in an exorcism.
@beyond, People are so interested in getting from you that they don’t even see you. Their entire interface with you is happening inside their head – it isn’t out front.
I for one see people, out of a deep-seated pain in my stomach for humanity. I feel your pain and your fear – I don’t care what you think about me. I just want resolve.
@danfontaine, Haha okay. I’ve just started playing with this too, especially eye contact and I notice how much that many people want to avoid any stranger knowing that they are looking at them. I ride the bus so I have ample time to see this happen, I find it sad and a bit ridiculous.
@stonedragon21, Well good advice. Definitely don’t get hung up on it. Loving yourself is exponentially more powerful than the love from another – as it grows within yourself and just flowers and explodes.
“you shouldnt feel bad if you dont have an inttimate lover at this point.”
When you said this I took it that you meant to say having an intimate lover is something people should strive for but shouldn’t worry about.
Like @beyond, said, Some people just love each other! That kind of romantic love falls into place and is beautiful but I think it is foolish to seek that. Follow your own bliss.
@danfontaine, archangel. you know you took the words out of my mind, i thought after i clicked reply i should have added that. love the one your with. meaning YOUR SELF.
jordan gave a good advice about this earlier this week if you missed it. the best relationship you can have and one which never ends is with your own self.
so you might as well give yourself a big valentines hug right now!!
@beyond, I don’t think people need each other in that sense though. That whole living with someone and being miserable/being afraid of other people are two ends of the spectrum of the ego’s behavior – the persona, facade, snake.
@deej, Keep working on it – if it feels uncomfortable just know that pain is weakness being released from the body, as much as I hate to quote fitness junkies lol
@stonedragon21, Thank you for that hug <3
@aestheticbrah, It’s crazy that you post this because just recently this was my EXACT thoughts. I’m in college as well and all my friends around me are getting into relationships, or whining about their shitty ones. I’m sitting here like wow, jesus everybody is jumping into this stuff so fast. I won’t lie and say that I don’t want to be with somebody exclusively sometimes when I feel lonely, but it’s a lot of pressure when everyone around you has one. I don’t know if I REALLY want a boyfriend or if I just feel like I should have one because everyone else does. In all honesty if all my friends were single and we went out and hooked up with different people all the time, I’d probably feel as though that was normal and wouldn’t think twice about having a boyfriend. I do want one, but I’m not gonna jump the gun and get into a relationship with someone who isn’t right for me just cause of pressure, you know? There’s plenty of guys at my disposal I could get with easily any night, but I often question who’s going to be the one that I want to be with and who will be worth it in the long run? Is it wrong to wait these days?
hmm I would say the opposite where I’m from. I would say that’s somewhat true, that people need to feel wanted. But from what I see I can’t say that people are become more dependent, what I see is less… What I see is people fearing the commitment.
Personally I don’t want to settle down until I know I won’t miss my freedom. I’m perfectly happy on my own.