For the first time in my life, it has finally become utterly clear to me what love is.
I thought I knew what love was.. I thought my last relationship was real love. And I’m sure at certain points I experienced it. But how could it have been love when we continued to make each other unhappy for no reason? How could it be real love when you can’t help but intentionally hurt someone? That’s not love. That’s attachment. Pure ego-driven attachment.
I’ve come to realize what love is. And the quote that I’ve read explains it as perfectly as this:
“I think love is the felt experience of connection to another being. An economist says ‘more for you is less for me.’ But the lover knows that more of you is more for me too. If you love somebody their happiness is your happiness. Their pain is your pain. Your sense of self expands to include other beings.
That’s love, love is the expansion of the self to include the other. And that’s a different kind of revolution. There’s no one to fight. There’s no evil to fight. There’s no other in this revolution.”
-Charles Eisenstein, Occupy Love
I have never felt so connected with the universe. Each day my love for it grows. Or maybe it has always been there but I was so blinded by my own ego that I couldn’t feel it yet. All I want to do is help people. Heal people. Especially ones who are depressed and suicidal. The ones who are afraid, lonely, mad, insane.. I feel love for them. All I want to do is share the love I have with humanity, all other creatures.. this entire planet. Share with them my bliss and the wisdom I’ve gained throughout the past couple years of my life… so that they too, can experience it. I feel like that’s what I’ve always been meant to do. I see “myself” in every human. Every plant. Every animal. Everything. The atoms in our body came from the same stars we all look upon at night. We are all intrinsically connected.
It’s incredible… I just feel such a strong sense of connection to everything. I have never felt this before in my life.. but it feels like I was always meant to feel it. Like it was some sort of dream I had forgotten. Nonetheless it’s here. And I want to share it.
I’m sure there are plenty of you out there who are experiencing the same thing. It’s a beautiful thing.
@stephaniekaitlyn, Looooove this idea. every man’s pain, your pain. Every man’s joy, is your joy. It’s such a hard thing to put topics like this into words, but you did a good job. I love that place of enlightenment where there is realization that the worst thing we can do with our lives is let our ego get in the way of enjoying community and respect for all strangers. There is no reason to waste time boosting our own self-image. Everyone is equal, everyone is united. Don’t judge, don’t hate, don’t sweat money and the small stuff. We are all connected, here to share and enjoy good vibes and company (:
@stephanie..I could not have agreed with you more on the difference that you draw between Love and Ego Driven Attachment.
The worst part is when you would like to actually “Love” someone but it reduces itself to just “Ego driven Attachment”.
I am amazed to know that people who think like you exists..!!Cheers!
This is beautiful! THANK YOU for sharing this! :) I have been learning how to love everything a lot over the past few months. Some days I just want to help everyone and everything I see and thank them for being who they are. I don’t always feel this way, which sometimes irks me, but to be able to learn to experience life in this way is amazing. It makes you care for the people around you and not your image or possessions.
People thinking like this do exist. I was thinking like this 6 years ago.
@stephaniekaitlyn, I’m a little late to the party, but I just wanted to say your beautiful insight made my day and my gentle heart smile :-) your point on ego-driven attachment reminded me strongly of one of my favorite books, “The art of loving” by Erich Fromm. I hope this day is full of smiles for you :-)
Like the post, it was succinct and thoughtful. For me its understanding that the microcosm (or self) is part of the infinite macrocosm (universe), and as a conscious being this understanding enables me to empathize with others cogs in the cosmic mechanism, as I’m sure the microbrial life that makes up the microcosm would, given sentience.
Just discovered this topic, and had to say, I completely understood you! This reminds me of a “poem” (that doesn’t actually rhyme at all!) that I wrote a little while ago when I suddenly realized that my previous ideas of love were so selfish. But when you actually feel love, the difference is huge. I hope it makes sense!
Let me love you
Because I want to be the fuel to your fire,
Changing the world for a better.
There’s only so long you can go on like this,
And I am here to replenish your energy every step of the way.
The most wonderful life.
I want to love you
Because you keep nothing for yourself.
I want you to see that
Everything you gave away
Came right back to you in another way.
Despite being so selfless,
I want you to feel like you have everything a man could want.
I want to kiss your shoulders
So that the weight you carry on them
Feels a bit lighter.
So that for a moment
The chips seem to disappear.
For as long as I can remember,
I’ve imagined a thousand moments with the man I end up with.
In every scenario, while I laid in his arms,
The only feeling I would expect is that
Of being taken care of.
Feeling whole, safe, and calm,
Because I found what i needed.
Never did I expect it to be this way,
Where “I” am not the one I’m thinking about.
All I want, is to love you, serve you, be with you.
This is love. I know now, this is real.
This is me finally understanding,
That love is not about me receiving.
It’s about me feeling whole through giving.
It’s about feeling calm knowing that I’ve found a purpose.
It’s about feeling safe knowing that we’re on a mission together.
I want to hold your head in my chest,
But also be wrapped in your arms.
Inside me, and all around me.
There’s nothing I want more than
To hold your hand, in both of mine,
And feel the warmth of your pulse.
Your voice is the first one I want to hear every day.
The rhythm of your breath will be my meditation.
To fall asleep to the sound of your heart beat.
I feel the exact same way. Especially wanting to live my life trying to heal people but my problem is I don’t know how to go about it! I don’t know in what way or how.
I was wondering if you have brainstormed and what ideas you may have(: I feel a little lost and I really want to figure out what way I can help the world so I start my path