Friend thinks she has Aspergers

Adam (@moonglade) 8 years, 4 months ago

So yeah my friend is convinced that she has aspergers but I find myself disagreeing. She hasn’t been officially diagnosed by a doctor but shes been searching the internet about the condition and she is convinced she has it. I have met a few people with aspergers syndrome and she hardly seems like any of them. She is quite socially apt, maybe even more so than myself which is why I doubt she has it. She use to be a bit socially awkward but I think in the adolescent teenage girl sense. She says that the reason I don’t see is because she fall on the lower part of the spectrum and also girls a very good at hiding it.

She sent me this video to further explain

But the girl in the video doesn’t seem like she has aspergers to me. Maybe it’s because she’s older :/

If anyone has any experience with mental health could you please give me a more comprehensive idea of aspergers and whether my friend has it or not.

April 6, 2014 at 2:51 pm
Anonymous (291) (@) 8 years, 4 months ago ago

I am no professional, but a very, very dear friend of mine has Aspergers. And you would never fucking know.

Aspergers IS a high functioning autism, and because high functioning autisms are very controversial, this syndrome isn’t as researched as it should. It displays itself differently in many people.

My friend, we will call her H, is absolutely brilliant. She can tell you historical figures birthdays, place of birth, states without thinking twice. She can tell you anything about anyone, memorizes books and can regurgitate them faster than anyone I’ve ever met.

She had a slightly hard time with social anxiety, a hard time reading peoples emotions, and somewhat a codependency issue.

She was diagnosed by several professionals. Just because its labeled as an autism doesnt mean she’s retarded. She is fucking brilliant, focuses and obsesses, may get OCD. May have tantrums. They see things differently.

I didn’t believe it either. But the more I spent trying to understand, the more i realized she was just brilliant.

Adam (118) (@moonglade) 8 years, 4 months ago ago

See your friend seems like the “idiot savant” type of aspie that I am familiar with. The ones who can tell you all about dinosaurs or some other obscure topic but can barely hold their own in social situations. The thing that throws me off is that my friend doesn’t have anything like that, atleast not that I know of, and she is very good at reading people. I guess reading people’s behaviour would be her “aspien super power” but to me that seems like somewhat of a paradox.

Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 8 years, 4 months ago ago

It’s not really like you either have it or you don’t. The difference between an aspie and a neurotypical person is not like an on/off switch, not like black and white, it’s more like a spectrum where people are spread out.

And where the defining threshold level is drawn, that’s really fuzzy, depends who diagnoses you. Because there’s not been that much research on it, and many professionals don’t know what they’re doing so they work by comparing the patient to stereotypes and stuff, which can give lead to very bad conclusions.

Aspergers is little more than a label, just like ADHD. And having such a “disorder” doesn’t mean much, and doesn’t mean a person is weird or anything.

Adam (118) (@moonglade) 8 years, 4 months ago ago

Thank you for your input guys. I guess I thought aspergers was a more drastic ‘mental illness’ (don’t know if i should call it that) than it actually is. I guess my bias was thrown off by meeting people with this condition who were very far down the spectrum.

My main concern was the whole self diagnosis through random internet searches. It seemed a bit sketchy to me. Ethier way I think shes going to see a speacalist soon so this will all be cleared up.

Jay (9) (@StoneAngel) 8 years, 4 months ago ago

My nephew was diagnosed with Aspergers syndrome recently; I was in shock when it happened. I thought it was over-the-top because even thought his bahaviours match the symptoms, I saw a depressed & friendless teenager. On top of that, he was always shy.

I think many of these “mental illnesses” that psychiatrists and doctors give away are nothing more than a people having a hard time dealing with their life problems. Sometimes, we get lonely, depressed, grieve, or we are shy like my nephew. It seems like modern medicine comes along to many of these people and says they have a problem and uses pills and other modern therapies to fix the condition, when I think there was no issue from the start. Some people are just in bad places in their lives while they figure their shit out. Some people are anti-social, shy, or depressed.

Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 8 years, 4 months ago ago

I’m guessing Aspergers can be helpful. I mean, I just read that having a strong maniacal interest towards a field as a characteristic. What does it mean to be social anyway? Are you allowed to say “get the fuck out of here” or you’re social then?

Imaginary disorders keep spreading like a disease.

I wasn’t supposed to rant but some irrational fears are driving me mad. People with licenses use diagnoses for selectively keeping people nice and controlled. If I have the symptoms of aspergers, ADHD, multipolar disorder, OCD, schizophrenia and am a psychotic sociopath, because it’s boring otherwise, everyone is going to be free to blame me in nice formal language when their bitch-ass needs aren’t being met – because they’re so much better than me after all and someone needs to take the blame for not enjoying them. By showing I’m afraid of my own emotions, which is a symptom for how I can’t cope for being an unimaginative dumbass like the people with licenses.

I feel better.

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