I was writing in regards to friendships and expectations. I have always been the kind to surround myself with many people that I enjoy and am close with, but only truly trust and connect with one or two. The others may come and go but those that I am closest with are in for the long run.
As far as expectations go I form none in regards to those I surround myself with (except the one or two that I choose to implicitly trust). It has allowed me to appreciate the diverse personalities of the motley crew that I surround myself with. I find am rarely disappointed or hurt by my friends because of this.
I feel that this is a fairly standard pattern for friendships. I’m delighted with it, but was wondering how others treat attachment/friendships/expectations/relationships. This pattern pleases me, but curiosity has led me to wonder what other patterns are formed that I may not have thought of.
Happy New Years to those who choose to celebrate. Happy (the same as every other) day to those who do not.
Friendship is very weird to me. I feel like many of the ‘friends’ I make now aren’t really connected to me in many ways. We don’t REALLY know each other, and even my humor is often mistaken for some other form.
I often want more friends, but I must ask, what do I really mean when I think of this? I want people who I can be very serious with – who are truthful and honest with me. These are more like partners, journey partners of life. They are people you go to for help and calmness.
But having all my friends fit this bill would be unsatisfactory as well. I also want adventure partners. People who make games and laugh with me. We’ll drink and be hoodlums, we’ll play jokes on people. Enjoyment. Truth and trust aren’t essential.
Then there are the rare few that are both. These are real friends. The ones who can laugh at you, and its alright, because behind it, you trust them. You know them. You can laugh at them, because you know they trust you.
Thats beautiful. Thats a real friendship.
Careful of foe-boats. lolz
I understand and agree with your sentiments perfectly. I have friends that are adventurous, friends that are “partiers”, friends with similar entertainment tastes, friends that I simply enjoy talking too, and then a few friends that are all of the above. It’s an interesting distinction to make because I expect so little (on purpose) from the majority of my friends that I have compartmentalized them in my mind.
friendship is subjective. provided there is some kind of common bond/liking, this is all that is needed IMO.