Getting laid.

Alex (@staylucky) 8 years, 9 months ago

Let me just start by prefacing that this is not a brag post. If anything, what has happened over the past few weeks feels like a total fluke, which is why I want to open the topic up to HE and see whether anyone has any theories or similar stories.

I have always done ok with women. Not mind-blowing. Not stud-level. But I can talk to them, make them laugh, know what’s appropriate and what not etc etc. So getting laid does happen once in a while. But over the past 12 days something very odd has happened, and that is that I have gotten laid 4 times with 4 different women without even trying.

I know the first one and had slept with her twice before. The second girl I know from college but there was no hint of anything happening between us and the final two were randoms who invited me back to theirs at the end of the night.

What I am wondering is, seeing as this is absolutely ridiculous by my standards, is there a possibility that women can somehow sense something, which in turn made the next woman easier to score with than the last? I definitely have felt more confident since this little momentum started picking up, but I’m interested to know if anyone else out there has undergone something similar or know of anything (pheromones perhaps?) that might be working outside of what can be simply seen with the eye here?

February 16, 2013 at 1:46 am
Nick (554) (@splashartist) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@staylucky, that’s a possibility! You may be more subconsciously more confident without you even noticing.

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Kyle (131) (@kyle) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

I know exactly what you’re talking about. I think it’s just the up in confidence, but I would love to know if pheromones is a possibility.

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Cody (472) (@versai) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

people usually appear ecstatic the day after getting laid. Since the girls don’t know your streak, it probably is really attractive to them that your self-esteem and confidence are so high. If you’re feeling better than ever, you probably are. Keep the rhythm going? hah

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Anonymous (2,654) (@) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@staylucky, A woman’s perspective on this would be useful. Maybe you just became irresistible!

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Anonymous (251) (@) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@staylucky, I reckon it was purely confidence. And also that by the 4th girl you were probably so not bothered about getting laid that that’s why it happened. It’s not attractive or all that endearing when a guys main focus is getting laid. He doesn’t even need to be all ridiculously obvious about it. I guess it boils down to signals rather than what’s said, you know, you pick up so much from people, without words.

They say you find love when you’re not looking for it for instance. And it’s much the same in that if you’re actively looking for something, that comes across in your actions and behaviours. And in turn, some people find that unattractive.

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YHVH (462) (@spaceghost) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@siantastic, I haven’t tried to find love or get laid in 4 years yet I haven’t done either in 4 years. I also don’t go out either….

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Anonymous (251) (@) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@spaceghost, Well, there are always exceptions to every rule. You say you don’t go out…it sounds like @staylucky was probably pretty social during this time. Things won’t come to you from absolutely nothing. For ‘vibes’ to be picked up on they need to be felt by others.

I’m not assuming you interact with no one by not going out much, but the more people you interact with, the more opportunities you open yourself to.

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Anonymous (24) (@) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@staylucky, ..it doesn’t need to mean anything. It could just be that you’re in luck right now. It is a very common thing.

But… Confidence is a turn on.

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Monika (24) (@money) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@staylucky, i think that after you get aid the first time your confidence boosts and girls can DEFINITELY tell when a guy has confidence in himself which is really hot. So the next girl either sensed that or something which boosted you even MORE thus attracting another chick and so forth. If your confidence is powerful, almost nobody can resist. Unless your hideous or something but I take it that you aren’t soooo yes.

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Jeslyn (594) (@jeslyntweedie) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@staylucky,

Could be you.

And it’s the season for it.

This time of year, when the days have started to get noticeably longer, and it’s starting to stay light out later (northern hemisphere)–men and women both are noticing the extra energy they have to spend.

People are remembering what it’s like to be really horny after a winter of longer periods of darkness and ‘hibernation’ habits.

But yes, I’ve noticed this too, 4 different old flings that do not know each other have all contacted me in the past week saying something along the lines of, they miss me. It’s that time of year man. Enjoy it I guess, haha.

I live in a very cold and snowy climate, and in the winter it gets dark here around 4:00 pm. So when it starts to heat up even marginally, and when the sun stays out longer–the effect it has on people and their willingness to go out/find partners/expend energy is very obvious.

Cheers to mating season bud! Hahaha.

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Alex (345) (@staylucky) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@siantastic, I think not looking for it has a lot to do with it tbh, so you’re onto something there. I never go “looking for it” but when you brought that up it made me realise that with the last two girls I genuinely wasn’t trying at all , even though I was happy to sleep with them. They both completely pursued me, which I didn’t actually consider until you suggested it. The only input on my part was that once I realised they were both spending their time with me exclusively that I returned the feeling of focusing my attention solely on them.

I have been social these past few weeks, but I don’t know if it’s anymore than usual. I’ve gone to some new places and hung out with some new people though, so you’d most likely have to factor that in.

@jeslyntweedie, I live in Australia, so the seasons aren’t usually as bad as up north (trust me, I remember from when I grew up there haha). But that wouldn’t surprise me either as it’s summer here and the last few months have been beautiful weather.

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Anonymous (251) (@) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@staylucky, and because you would have appeared so nonchalant about the whole thing, I reckon you were seen as a bit of a challenge :)

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Stoney Baloney (614) (@adamm0ss) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

“An Audi S5 increases your chances by 250%.” Scientific study by me.

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Alex (345) (@staylucky) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@siantastic, Haha a challenge you say? I didn’t realise this applied the other way around.. Seems like that’ll be the game plan going forward!

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Whootytooty (1) (@whootytooty) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@staylucky, January-March are the months for breaking up. So you are probably catching girls that are on the rebound or finding girls that give it up easily. I recently broke up with my boyfriend and have been contacted by guys I haven’t talked to in years. Tis’ the season for some pleasin’! haha

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Grand Kahlib (76) (@kahlib) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@staylucky,
i think phermones is a good guess. our bodies go thru cycles and sometimes we probably peak sexually or something. anyway, i have had similar times when they just couldn’t stay away (it’s unusual for me too though)
. i have this idea i call the sexual ladder. basically it’s like i get laid by the sheer power of probability at some point. maybe i perform well or something, and my confidence is boosted. also my body is like “sex is goooood” and i start sending off signals (be they phermones and/or subconcious gestures and/or vibes). other women will pick up on that so my chances are increased. so i get laid again, and the process repeats at a higher level. you know, rinse and repeat.
[as an anectdote, women see men who have a partner as more attractive.]

the thing is, i’ve taken a good climb on that ladder but at some point i always fall off!

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Jay (87) (@jaygran7) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@staylucky, maybe you’re like the character in DNA¬≤.

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Anonymous (251) (@) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@staylucky, Oh definitely!

So new plan…never give a fuck. Nailed it. :)

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