girls and head games

Tine (@tine) 8 years, 10 months ago

hello ladies, i have a question and i do not mean to make anyone uncomfortable with it, but considering the anonymous format a website provides, i figured this would be a good place to ask,

when you ladies are… ‘going down’, what is running through your mind?

lets pretend i am asking you about a time when you actually liked the guy, then pretend like i am asking about a time when you didn’t really care or like the guy,

see, as a man, i know what i’m thinking while being given the amazing gift you girls offer, but i don’t know what you’re thinking, though, based on the usual and effect of most experiences i’ve had, i’d say whatever it is is nice,

but, as i write that, i can think of how a negative motivator, such as insecurity, might effect what’s on the mind and how this translates to the sliding action,

so, lets hear from you, i’m not looking to be a dick or try to embarrass, but please only reply if you are truly comfortable with the topic and do not mind graphic language,

February 7, 2013 at 7:26 pm
Watercolour (13) (@watercolourgem) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

My first thought as I am sinfully indulging in his happiness, is that I should have worn safety glasses! hahaha

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Bryan Hellard (307)M (@xyver) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@tine, Ha, I was thinking that you were talking about a very different sort of head games… But I’m sure this will turn out just as interesting…

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TheSkaFish (962)M (@theskafish) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

I’ve always wonder why girls do this, myself. What’s in it for them, besides a mess?

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DaJetPlane (994)M (@lytning91) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

I mean, on the real, the girl I dated for about 4 years basically was very vocal about just how much she loved giving it (definitely wasn’t complaining either).

Based on the time I spent with her, I think she liked the fact that she could take a masculine partner who can put in work, and have total control through such a seemingly simple act. She took pride in her ability to do it well and understood exactly how powerful of an act it was.

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Anonymous (0) (@) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

Read the Tao of Badass. Its great, and I torrented a pdf of it for free.

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heather (1) (@heatherrwhitmore) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

:)…
Honestly…I enjoy knowing that I am the reason he’s getting off.

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Kyle (131) (@kyle) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@theskafish, Vitamin E? lol

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Anonymous (251) (@) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@tine, Haha, nice title! Honestly, if he’s into it, then I am. If I wasn’t that into a guy, well…I wouldn’t end up in that situation.

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Christian (40) (@christian92) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@theskafish, You only come to that conclusion if you think egoistically, as in, what is in it for ME ? But that’s not true love, it’s not how love works. If you truly love another, don’t you think making that other person happy will make you happy, too? It’s a deep connection where you can only be happy if your partner is happy. I once read a quote that said something like “When two people are truly in love, they want each other to win” Now think about that and you will realize that it’s an endless spiral.

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Anonymous (2,654) (@) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

Some pleasantly weird replies here. What are guys thinking when they go down on girls? There has to be a category for perverted threads. Why don’t people just ask each other what they’re thinking! It could be something dangerously important!

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Kristian Jaded (75) (@mentalkink) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@theskafish, Do you not go down on girls? What do you think is in that for you, the attraction of having a your face between a girls legs, or the ability to provide your woman with ultimate satisfaction?

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Kristian Jaded (75) (@mentalkink) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

Personally it will depend on the situation, BUT In a situation where I’m really in into the guy, and am fully into the situation that’s happening (and not thinking about what I’m making for dinner later lol) I’m usually thinking about what I’m doing, I like the satisfaction of being able to get my man off (with my mouth), of course I’m also thinking about if I’m doing it alright, trying to focus on the technique, momentum, figuring what he likes and wants. Its the whole reason why I’m down there, to get it right. And I mean, if a someones going down on me, I want them to get it right lol And now and again I might just get lost in thought, thoughts of sex and getting off – which I think you really should do during sex acts, get lost in the pleasure, stop thinking about other things and focus on seeeex. :)

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Beni (110)C (@beniandtheuniverse) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

It feels empowering to me. I take control and I rock his world.

In the spirit of COMPLETE honesty though I’m thinking about a lot of shit that could pull me out of the mood. I’m thinking about the last shower he had, what his balls look like (should I touch them?!), hoping I won’t gag (how unsexy)…. and so on. Not ALL the time, but sometimes…..

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Anonymous (359) (@) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

I guess im just enjoying all the sensations. It’s sexy and gratifying. If I start thinking too much then it doesn’t feel like a genuine experience and I would probably have some thoughts and feelings I needed to express. Even if it’s casual sex I don’t engage in it with people that I don’t feel connected to and comfortable with. if I felt uncomfortable in any way I would probably start thinking and would be distracted from all the pleasure and happiness of it

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BirdFlyingHigh (152) (@birdflyinghigh) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

If it’s going well? Then I’m thinking about what he’s feeling.

If it’s going poorly? Then I’m usually singing a song to myself in my head so I can keep up my rhythm…. LOL

I don’t really give head to people who don’t like it, though. And why do we do it? Because it’s like the freaking A bomb in our sexual arsenal.

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TheSkaFish (962)M (@theskafish) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@mentalkink, as far as ultimate satisfaction goes wouldn’t regular old vaginal sex be the better choice? Idk, I always thought this was one of those things that was essentially the guy’s idea, like anal sex – I just don’t see any tangible upside for the woman.

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Marie (2,051) (@ARCANUS) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

With the right person, meaning the person I truly feel good around, making him feel as good as possible makes me feel as good as possible, and vice versa. The end.

@theskafish, “I always thought this was one of those things that was essentially the guy’s idea, like anal sex”. This is suggesting girls don’t really want sex. Which is untrue. And I’m not sure whether it’s better for the guy to go vaginal or get head, (maybe a subjective matter?) but for girls it’s often a different experience. Also, the clitoris is twice as sensitive as the penis and many girls don’t get vaginal orgasm. That way getting head is more intense for the gals.

Either way, what makes sex good is not the sensations and instant gratification, but being present and comfortable in each others’ company. That is my opinion..

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Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@theskafish, Girls love dick just like we love pussy, is that really so hard to figure out? We’re not living in the Victorian era yknow, women don’t have to hide it these days.
Plus, there’s a whole bunch of mental and emotional stimulation aspects to it. Layers, mate, layers. It all adds up.
That, and, oral sex means more exposure to sex pheromones which means more arousal.

Besides, the slimy reward they get for a good job is very nutritious. And the affection they get from the dudes is very useful.

Just try to see it from a woman’s perspective, and it will all make perfect sense.

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Kidd (1,059) (@kidd) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

It’s a turn on for some girls. I guess it’d be called a “penis fetish” if the penis wasn’t already sexual.

I mean, men and women alike can get off on just sucking fingers and toes. That’s a little more questionable than “head games” if you ask me, lol!

On top of this, some research indicates that sperm has an antidepressant effect to it, so…

Edit: @manimal gets it, haha

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Anonymous (359) (@) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@manimal is right

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Misty Grey (1) (@xmisty) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

there’s something empowering about being able to have complete control over someone with just your mouth.

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Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@theskafish, There is no one sexual act that grants ultimate satisfaction. It’s all about variety and having a good time. If you’ve had the same food every day since you were born and haven’t tried anything else, you’d enjoy a different food a lot more if you tried it. Even if you’ve been eating lobster and that other food presented is some weird smelly Hungarian sausage.

Does it matter whose idea it is? Pleasuring your partner is a great sensation too. Besides, oral stimulation feels good, it’s biological, we all like putting stuff in our mouths and tasting stuff.

Don’t you love licking hot sweet pussy?

As for anal, there’s a lot in it for the ladies too. Physically, it’s a great way to hit the deep spot indirectly and trigger some intense orgasms. The ass is very sensitive in general, stimulation feels good. In a sexual content, most stimulation feels good, even if it’s normally unpleasant in other situations. The more you feel, the more you get turned on. That’s why slapping, spanking, pulling hair, scratching and such is so popular.
Other than the physical aspect, there’s even more mental and emotional stimulation of many different varities involved.

No offense, bro, but I think you should educate yourself a bit about the sex. Not really talking about reading, although some books could offer good info. I’m talking about trial and error, as well as contemplation.

Sex is great stuff. Even if you’re not on the “receiving” end (which is pretty much a silly illusion.) There is no winner or loser…

It’s FUCKIN TEAMWORK.

~Peace~

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Tine (366) (@tine) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@watercolourgem,

lol, i like your thought, girls that consider it from this perspective, in my experience, are the ones who ‘go-to-town’ which = mind blown.

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Tine (366) (@tine) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@lytning91,

i agree, i am turned on by the idea that they ‘know’ they are taking control, they are aware of their affect on my mind, and they love this

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Tine (366) (@tine) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@cosmiclemonade,

will do bud

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