Going after what you want. Period?

 Devin Ford (@devinford)9 years, 8 months ago

So I wanted to through out what I think to be an interesting question. Picture something, or someone you want. Not a foolish, irrational want, but a rational, full thought out want. One in which you have no problem sacrificing other activities for. Do you keep at it and attempt to get that want no matter what? What if there are road blocks?

The obvious answer would be YES! Screw the road blocks… and thats what I believe as well. But what about these types of situations?

-Going after a girl you love… but shes about to get married? You know the marriage is not "meant to be" (as in theirs) but do you still go after what you really want? Or watch it pass?

-A life somewhere that, as a direct result, means you will no longer see your family/friends nearly as much, if at all? Such as moving to Alaska (or wherever you really want to, when say, living in NY beforehand).

-Being in a long-term relationship, when suddenly things are dim and you want to move on. Your "partner" sacrificed all they had, left their state, job, and friends for you, and now you live together, do you have the courage to stand up for what you really want?

These are some toughies, any thoughts?

January 16, 2011 at 8:51 pm
Big Mike (0) (@wizzy) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

These are some tough situations but I feel like the first one is pretty selfish IMO but I guess it’s mainly situational. Also the love interest has her own free will which could complicate things. The second sure go where you want planes fly everywhere. The third is definitely selfish. If you really loved someone enough to marry them you shouldn’t ditch them. You should have thought about what you wanted before you got in the commitment.

[Hidden]
Rachel Willis (11) (@rachelwillis7) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

“A life somewhere” is not selfish whatsoever in my opinion. Every person needs to do what they need/want to do to get what they need/want. I believe people need to find what makes them come alive and go do it, and if that involes moving, so be it.

[Hidden]
Big Mike (0) (@wizzy) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

Sure but completely separating from your family/friends is somewhat selfish.

[Hidden]
Rachel Willis (11) (@rachelwillis7) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

You would physically be separate, but you could still stay in contact with all the electronics and make visits when possible. This topic has really been on my mind lately because I am possibly moving to NYC for college this year.

[Hidden]
Ben (231)M (@benjamin) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

^^ I don’t think selfishness applies when dealing with something one is passionate about. Hogging all the big slices when your family orders pizza is selfish; moving away in pursuit of happiness is doing what you want to do with your life, which is what everyone needs to do.

[Hidden]
Big Mike (0) (@wizzy) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

Yeah for sure he just said not seeing them at all as possibility and that’s kinda extreme.

[Hidden]
Devin Ford (1) (@devinford) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

Awesome comments!

I honestly do not see any of them as selfish. You can only live one life, and thats yours.

If you love someone then go for it, no matter what. If you fail and it doesnt work out, at least you tried, if you didnt try how would you know?

Leaving home to better your life is, in my opionion not selfish either. Of anyone, your parents and friends should certainly understand. Otherwise, you can argue, they are the ones being “selfish”.

Ben, Rachel I completely agree!

[Hidden]
DaJetPlane (994)M (@lytning91) 8 years, 4 months ago ago

Resurrection: All of the greatest decisions in life come from losing something. The balance of high and low makes it such that you cannot have one without the other. Losing something is the only way to truly gain anything. These examples provided feel challenging, but that is because they are of value.

The day you find yourself settling for what you have is the day you have nothing.

[Hidden]
Alicia Lee (146) (@aliwine) 8 years, 4 months ago ago

I think it’s selfish to remain in a relationship when you no longer have feelings for someone. It would be best to break it off so both parties can become truly happy. After all if one isn’t happy the other is going to know it and feel it even if they won’t admit it.

As for the moving, everyone is entitled to growth. Moving is often a part of that and family should understand.

[Hidden]
Wohoo (10) (@bigdadi91) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

And what if these ARE selfish? I mean, why does it matter?
I want to be happy. I have only one shot at life. I want to feel the happy hormones in my brain. Selfish seems to have a negative meaning, but I think this is bullshit.

You can say that this is selfish, thinking that you are “above” me because I’m selfish, but who is the happier in the end? Who had more joy in his life? I’m pretty sure its me, because it doesnt matter what you think about me.

[Hidden]
load more