Think about it. We are guaranteed to change our whole life within a year if we go all out to achieve it. It is not a fun process though, you have to be strict with yourself. You basically spend a whole year working on yourself and avoiding short term happiness for long term happiness. You would get used to the strictness after a month and in a year you are guaranteed to be in a better scenario than you are in right now.
I don’t know about you but I am doing badly in school, I eat crap, laze about all day, play video games, do anything that gives me short term satisfaction. I have been doing this for over 3 years now, and my scenario has not changed much. This is obviously not the way forward.
I am seriously thinking of doing it, going through hell for a year so that I can be in a far better scenario in the future. What do you think?
It may work for some, but I think a balanced life of being compassionate to yourself in present and the future and going after both short and long term happiness is best for sure and steady progress. I think committing to changing your life for a year will hopefully make you see that you can spend your whole life in changing yourself and it doesn’t need to be a forced and unpleasant “hell”… just being mindful of your needs and wishes both now and later on. Its good that you want to build willpower and feel more control but don’t forget that understanding why the situation is how it is and why you don’t want it to be that way in the future will let things drop easier and lay beginnings to new habits that cause a powerful change. But I’m not sure since some would find it helpful to restrain and be more cut throat. Personally whenever I tried to approach things this way, I failed and it made me feel worse every time I tried to begin again and life became a bunch of empty beginnings until I focused on the why’s of my harmful habits of instant gratification and the how’s of being more like who I want to be.
Being self-disciplined doesn’t necessarily mean “hell”. While cutting out shitty habits and seemingly useless parts of your life may seem like a heavy task at first, knowing that those things no longer serve you is 9/10s of the struggle. You’ve convinced yourself, now just do it.
When going through a similar “life purging” period, the Fight Club quote, “… by the end of the first month, I didn’t miss TV,” popped into my head frequently. Once you put in the initial willpower to stop partaking in life-wasting activities, poor health habits etc., the mental change follows shortly after.