Growing up when you are 22?

Hitomi (@kidvisions) 10 years, 3 months ago

I feel I am still a child, I behave like children and I don’t know how to act in public, I don’t assume a lot of responsibilities and I find myself careless about most of things. I feel very passive, and I don’t give things the importance they need…
In short, I just need to grow up…
Does anyone find themselves in a similar position? How to grow up?

February 19, 2012 at 7:07 am
Anonymous (2,654) (@) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

I find myself in the same position. Being an adult means to act like you care. Just don’t go to extremes. :)

John (27) (@jblisstaz) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

I am also 22 years old and know exactly how you feel. Here’s what I think about the whole “growing up” thing.

1. 22 is still really young, and it’s ok to feel young, because you are.
2. Responsbilities will come, so enjoy it now while you can. Eventually you will have kids and a family to raise and more and more bills to pay, so more responsibilities will come. Don’t feel bad for not having responsbilities… On the other hand, if you feel bored because of the lack of responsibility in your life, then go and do something about it. Find a new hobby, start exercising more, etc.
3. I don’t see the need to change the way I act in public. I think it’s silly to act more serious just because of your age. I have a good friend who is turning 30 in a few months, but he acts just as young as me, always having a great time and always positive.

vishnu (1,235) (@vizznou) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

dish ish shumptin i wrote a long tym back…. umm 4/5 years back wen i was in school. i had just seen my older cousin scold his younger brother so badly to the point of tears; and it was some small thing, jus cuz he’s older and can boss over… and my younger cuzin is such a bold, brave guy too inherently. he’s got more guts and brains than his bro anyday. so i was infuriated and i wrote this:
~n3ver gr0w uP~

There is such a thing as the ‘spirit of a child’. I have seen it in every child, and not in a single grown man.

Adulthood means taking up responsibilities, solemnly accepting an appreciation (often flattery), being well mannered, cracking a few jokes to a crowd when there is too little to make small talk, and cracking under pressure when there is too much to make possible.

it means losing the ability to be a child.

Being a child means to be happy. He observes, enjoys what he has, marvels at its beauty, eyes shining in wonderment at the world that greets him every morning. He does not follow rules, because he doesn’t have any. he knows he doesn’t have to. Rules are meant to guide someone, to show them the right path. A child doesn’t need rules because he knows he is right. He doesn’t crack under pressure, because he doesn’t feel it. Because he knows no self pity. He doesn’t know what ‘limits’ and ‘barriers’ are. He does not know what ‘to regret’ means.

His world is one of joy, purity, love, without doubt, without limits, stretching out to wherever his curiosity can take him.

Talking about love, he loves himself more than anything or anyone in the world. Its absolute love – and therefore he is not aware of it.

I regret that i am not a child anymore. I don’t want to ‘grow up’. i realized only too late that i didn’t ever want to grow up. But the spirit of the child in me was torn apart from my body and soul and was replaced by a ghost of an adult – impure, unhappy, self conscious….

I regret because i am not a child anymore. And now I count my demons all day and count them again the next! But everything’s not lost. Because why do you look up at greatness, why are you excited by an impossible idea, why do you know, you just know that even when you see no way out, you’re gonna see yourself through in the end; why do you sometimes feel like you want to run as fast as you could, why do you wish you could fly?

heed that voice, that fleeting impulse, because that’s the spirit of child in you. you’ll realize it never left you. and it never will.

therefore, with all the right intentions, my advice for anyone is, “never grow up!”
now im 21, but am very much still a child…

churchill said: “you dont stop playing because you grow old, you grow old because you stop playing”

vishnu (1,235) (@vizznou) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

but i am not tokin about not havinng responsibilities or evading them. children always face their challenges.. they are stronger thaN we like to think.
in our own life we need to face our challlenges whether its being honest and trustworthy, to finishing an assignment

stonedragon (143) (@stonedragon21) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

@vishnu @kidvisions, @john and @sasho
play and smile and never grow up.
keep that inner child free forever.

i never wanted to grow up either.
but now suddenly in the last few years i had to learn a lot about
grownup stuff, anyway let those responsibilites just empower you and not
drown your spirit.

keep spinning in circles till you fall down laughing!

Robyn-Lia (6) (@robynlia) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

When I was 22 I learned a ton about myself. Indeed I still had a lot of growing up to do, even though I had been living on my own for three years at that point. I had my own bills to pay, a job I had no choice but to show up for, yet I was living life and taking risks like I was still 16, not thinking about the consequences.

That age was a critical time in my life. It was a turning point going from child to adult. Within two years my mindset has almost changed completely.

TheSkaFish (962)M (@theskafish) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

To me being an adult means getting a job, growing a moustache, swearing a lot, being a drunk, chain-smoking cigarettes, and hating myself. Stay young!

pat (169) (@epath) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

At 22, I wasn’t very grown up except for the fact that I had been supporting myself for 5 years. Other than that, I was pretty silly. I would say that if you are happy with your life and you are doing more good than harm in the world, then act the way you want. However, if at 35 you haven’t changed, there may be some serious issues.:)

2amCoffee (2) (@2amcoffee) 9 years, 4 months ago ago

I think it’s pretty normal and common among today’s youth. I sort of have the opposite problem as well. I hang out with people that are seniors and way older than me. I find it hard to mingle with people my own age, because they’re very arrogant, drink, and they like to party and hang out. As a result when I was a teenager, I hung out with kids younger than me to be a good role model, when I was volunteering. I have two polar opposite problems, being too immature for my age, and overly mature. I’m a university graduate, and I felt I wasn’t prepared for the very competitive and adult nature of university. I always felt like a kid sitting in a big lecture hall, I’d rather play my handheld game or on my laptop. Furthermore, I like talking about life, jobs, and mature things with older adults because they have much wisdom and I respect them a lot. I feel like a 40 year old having his identity crisis, but at the same time… I’m a 12 year old who still wants to play video games all day.

Anonymous (216) (@) 9 years, 4 months ago ago

This has been on my mind for a while now.

I feel frustrated, especially around people who disrespect me despite my good intentions.

My solution is to be very discerning regarding my words, actions, and friends.

Marie (2,051) (@ARCANUS) 9 years, 4 months ago ago

I’ll be 23 in a month, and my goal for the rest of my current life will be to balance within me the mentality of a child and the maturity of an old woman. You don’t have to “grow up” to be mature. It’s about taking responsibility for ones life and actions. As long as one does that, my philosophy is that you can be as childish as humanly possible.

loops (5) (@lukeloopslinder) 9 years, 4 months ago ago

dont be in a rush to grow up, it will happen soon enough and you will then miss being “young” or being a “child”. if you have made it this far and you are reasonably happy, you are on the right path. things will unravel for you just as you wish, give it time.

Stoney Baloney (614) (@adamm0ss) 9 years, 4 months ago ago

“I feel very passive, and I don’t give things the importance they need…”

What things don’t you give importance to, that you “should”? Surely you find somethings to be very important to you… What do you mean by responsibility? A credit card payment? A car loan? Rent?

What is important to someone differs tremendously. The fact that you don’t see the importance in, lets say, the news, doesn’t make you “non-grown”. The fact that you are true to yourself, and to your ideas makes you feel younger and it SHOULD. Young is what everyone that is old wants to be. To me, it seems like you see growing up as; reading the newspaper on the bus to work. The fact that you enjoy being silly, laughing, and other things children also like, is a good thing. If we would only learn more from children, we would be a much better world. Kids don’t want to blow up other kids in other countries. Kids don’t want to rape and kill a homeless woman in an alley. The people that DO those things, are the “grown ups” you are talking about. What do you mean by responsibility? A credit card payment? A car loan? Rent?

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