"Hanging out" with someone

 Nick (@nickcombs)7 years, 11 months ago

Have you ever noticed how you go into a different state of mind when you’re hanging out with someone? A friend, a significant other, etc. Just you and them, spending time together. It’s a different feeling than when you’re alone, isn’t it? It’s even different from when you’re just in public generally. Because when you’re at work or in class, you’re around other people, but there’s no intimacy, no strong connections.

I say this because I am a bit of a loner. I have many friends, and I’m not terrible with women, but I do often find myself just alone. It’s not a sad thing, just my natural state, I guess. But then I see others who are CONSTANTLY with another person. Just chilling with a friend, spending boyfriend/girlfriend time, you know. And it makes me wonder if our brains are different. I’m sure there’s different brain activity when you’re hanging with someone than when you’re alone. So then, are there physiological differences in people’s brains that make them more or less attracted to hanging out with someone? What do you think? Are you a loner or a hanger? Or am I the only one who feels a difference between the two states?

April 2, 2013 at 8:23 am
Living Stone (153) (@cloudstuck) 7 years, 11 months ago ago

You speak very interesting stuff my friend. I very much like this topic/discussion.

My first instincts to answer this question would be based on the loosely proven, hard to fully explain idea of spirits. If we look at the concept that each human is on a spiritual path of some sort and all are at different stages on this path (whether this path expands beyond the timespan on one life is not worth discussing because from my perspective it is irrelevant at the moment of your questions at hand). We might look at what tools/vices spiritual entities might use to grow themselves beyond their current spiritual state to propel them further down “the path.” I would make the observation that some people/spirits need a strong connection with a fellow human being to help them understand themselves at that point. It is the atmosphere/connection that is most needed for that spirit whether consciously or unconsciously known. Whereas I might think there is also a different stage on the spiritual path for others in that they might be needing more time alone, working on themselves to better there “place” on the spiritual path (also whether known consciously or unconsciously).

Whether the brains are physiologically wired differently, I wouldn’t know, but I would assume also that if they are, all that is is just a physical reflection of the true needs of the metaphysical spirit that lives within the houses of the human body.

I would also note that these observations would all be relevant to the beings location in time and space and that they would, could and definitely will change as time goes on (meaning, they might not always need a partner, or aloneness to expand their connection with their spirit).

Living Stone (153) (@cloudstuck) 7 years, 11 months ago ago

@nickcombs, also, hey! my name is Nick as well :D

Anonymous (177) (@) 7 years, 11 months ago ago

@nickcombs, true, that one may be or act different personality-wise when with another or others than when alone. i recall middle and high school: when i walked on the campus each morning i transformed into a very extroverted, class clown personality. in private, i was self-conscious and turned in. perhaps some who are around people all the time do it to reinforce the presented-image of themselves, which is one they wish to be. as well, certainly there are vivacious, fun-loving, people-loving folks that integrate and hang-out with people just naturally. we are each as we are(externally, anyway). within, our “original nature” or such, we are all one. but, you sound as if you got it together – peace, love & light to you.

TheSkaFish (962)M (@theskafish) 7 years, 11 months ago ago

@nickcombs, I think, like so many other things, that both hanging out time and alone time have their purposes and are worthwhile. It’s important to establish a balance between the two. I like to hang out when we are set on doing something, or working together, but there are times when I like to be alone with my thoughts.

J (13) (@smashtheclocks) 7 years, 11 months ago ago

I agree with @theskafish, but sometimes i get the feeling that there are people that crave constant, unrelenting contact, almost like they are trying to avoid their own thoughts.

personally, after spending any lengthy amount of time with anyone i feel the need to get away and clear my own headpspace, so to speak. otherwise i feel i get irritated and terse far more easily

Anonymous (0) (@) 7 years, 11 months ago ago

This has to do with introverts vs extroverts. Extroverts dont need people, though introverts like to think they do. Introverts dont necessarily need people, but they do usually need acceptance. Extroverts more need to accept themselves, though I may be wrong having always been an introvert myself. Introverts usually find a smaller group of friends with which they deeply relate. Extroverts usually talk to a large variety of people without ever moving on from their norms of expression.

Its kind of backwards if you look at it logically.

I like how the Conversations with God books progress: the first three books were conversations. After that came friendship, then communion, and eventually well… Home. And this does not have to be in respect to god at all. It is how friendship works.

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