Help quitting smoking please..

Andy (@a1993h) 7 years, 3 months ago

I apologize if this is a recurrant question here but here it goes..

It seems like I’m in a perpetual cycle of quit-start with smoking cigaretted. For example, hadn’t smoked for 3 days and then decided to buy a pack last night. I have literally tried hundreds of times to quit since I started 4 or 5 years ago. I managed to stay off them for 2 months recently then hopped right back on. The reason I find it so hard is because I know that if I relapse one more time it’s not even that big a deal since it’s happened so much before.

I’ve kept a list of pros and cons of smoking, meditated with the intent of quitting, reciting mantras of non-smoking throughout the day etc. When I buy that pack or light up again, I know after the first one I’m gonna want to quit but my will power in that moment is so weak that I just give in. Also, drinking is my biggest trigger. Even if I know I’m going out that nigth I’ll buy a pack because I know it’s gonna happen anyways.

Can anyone who can relate to this please give me some advice. I’m so sick of cigarettes and just want to be through with it. Thanks :)

September 30, 2014 at 12:12 pm
Kris (328) (@kjbaran) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Only for sufficiency will the gears of change turn. When you have sufficiently gotten over yourself you’ll stop. I speak from experience always. You suffer because you enjoy it.

Baxter (16) (@Baxter) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Ex smoker here myself ,almost 3 years clean now. I’m sympathetic to smokers it’s a tough drug and habit to quite . I hated myself for smoking ,the smell on my clothes in my car etc . I’m also am a health buff ,I eat well and work out 5 days a week ,but for yrs smoked the average of 10 cigarettes a day . Not so rare seen many people leave the gym and light up a cig in there car .
In fact I was embarrassed for people to know I smoked and often hide it . One evening I ran out of cigarettes and said screw this I’m not running to the store anymore to get my nicotine fix anymore I was sick and tired of that monkey on my back . I went cold turkey and it was a ‘BITCH’ gain 20 lbs but it was worth it . I was as much as addict to cigarettes as a addict is to heroine.
Bottom line and heard other say the same when you ready you’ll do it . I had no plans to quite when I did and failed many times before . You’ll do it eventually and there is lots of free help out there if you need it .

Anonymous (17) (@) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

This actually makes me go back to the rock ‘n roll lifestyle. Nah. I don’t know if you’re aware about the facts about smoking, but if you’re not, you should be.

One of them is the guilt that comes from it, which is what is detrimental to your health. No living human being can live with guilt with whatever they decide to do with their bodies, yet the guilt comes from other people. Not from a substance.

What helps is a substitute and not leaving yourself vulnerable to the withdrawal that actually damages you more than smoking.

If you smoke marijuana, you should know that the amounts of tar you take in from smoking it is more than smoking tobacco, but there isn’t any guilt to it. Yet. Don’t believe in bullshit.

If you want to change your habits, you’re going to have to change your lifestyle. You must know why you want to quit. Most people only think about quitting. Again, mind that confidence itself is critical for your health.

The less hard on yourself you are, the better you’ll be. Don’t focus on a result that won’t make you feel good.

When you love what you’re doing, you are not going to suffer from it as much.

Always listen to your body, whether you’re starting or ending a habit.

Whatever, take it easy.

josephm (772) (@josephm) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

pretty sure tar wouldnt even make the warning label

Anonymous (17) (@) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

I know it’s not the addictive substance, but usually is the reason to quit.

jazzz (30) (@jazzz) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Being sick and hospital bound to the point i couldn’t even smoke if i tried certainly works. I’m also pretty sure that taking mushrooms had a big part to play in dampening my cravings for tobacco.

josephm (772) (@josephm) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

boomies made me disgusted with them against my will

YHVH (462) (@spaceghost) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

You have to change your attitude about it. Maybe you aren’t quite done. I went through several attempts to quit before my attitude changed about it. When that happened it was easy to commit and now here I am 1.5 years later with the attitude I had before I started smoking, which is that I am against everything about cigarettes and can’t stand being around it.

Gare (9) (@fossilfuelsrule) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

I’ve been in your shoes the past 2 years of habitually quitting. It never lasted that long, and usually starting back up again a day or two later. All it took to buy another pack or bum a cigarette from a random person was drugs, shitty day at work, or seeing a friend light one up.

I wanted to quit extremely bad, it came to a point where every time i did smoke, i felt slightly guilty and shameful. That wasn’t enough to quit.

I made a pros and cons list, which really is a no brainer. Pros, cigarettes create a pleasurable stimulant. cons, they fuck up your body physical and mentally, and are expensive as shit in the long run. Even this wasn’t enough.

I went on vacation for about a month, and my environment was changing from day to day, and i was busy swimming, reading, just enjoying time with my family. I had planned to quit as planned many times before, and without barely noticing i hadn’t smoke for days, which led to weeks, the the whole month. I didn’t know what was really happening throughout my vacation. Yes, i still had cravings, but i was just to busy doing other things, or too exhausted to care to go get some.

Anyway its been months since I’ve bought a pack. Well your probably not going on a vacation for a month anytime soon, BUT that is beyond the point, the moral of the story is taking your focus from not smoking to doing other things. I stumbled on an article where people only have a finite supply of will power per day, meaning eventually, you will break. SO, instead of focusing on ‘not smoking’ simply don’t even think about the craving. I know this sounds extremely apparent, but when the thought of buying a pack, start fucking dancing or something, or instantly shift your thinking from something else. Since it is an addiction your brain will try and make the choice for you without you thinking. So you have to trick that sly mother fucker. Granite, I will still have a cigarette on rare occasions but in no way was it the habit i once had which consisted of 1/2 to 1 pack a day. I guess when you do decide to quit ‘again’ haha, after your last cigarette of a pack don’t think this will be the last one you ever have, think, ” I’m going to be in control of my life and quit this fucking habit.” It is definitely a lot easier said then done. Also- stop being a bitch :)

Anonymous (0) (@) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Have you tried slowly weening yourself off of them, rather than trying to quit cold-turkey?

Milo (57) (@milo) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Ive got a friend who smoked cigs since we were in middle school. This guy could go thru two-three packs a day. Then one day about a yer ago. He just stopped. I asked him how he did, and he said cause he was just done with it. I said “oh okay” cause like, what the hell does that mean anyway. And then he goes on and says, “If you’re not ready to quit, don’t. I like smoking so much I knew I wouldn’t be able to quite till I was really ready. And now I’m ready to quit. So I did”
And I said something like, “Power to ya” hahaha.
But seriously, you know how people like to burn a cig after a meal? Well this dude would smoke during his meal. We’d all be eating sandwhiches in front of subway and he’d keep right on smoking.

2Goats (20) (@2Goats) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

@a1993h You have to change your identity. You have to be everything and anything else but a smoker, ex-smoker, recovering smoker, etc. Your new identity should be of strength, of leadership, and health. Ingrain this new identity within yourself so deeply that if someone was to offer you a cigarette that you would immediately and instantly reject it, believing that you used to be a smoker, but now you are a new person. I recommend “Awakening the Giant Within” if that wasn’t all that clear

Anonymous (53) (@) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

TRy resorting to natural tobacco until you clear the adulterants they add to cigarettes. The catalysts they add are more addictive than the tobacco. These added chemicals are designed to potentiate the nicotine and keep you addicted.

Zayn (17) (@Apollo777) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Glad to see you have a desire (unlike so many people) to drop the habit, it gives me the impression that you have a desire to be the best version of yourself that you can be, or at least you’re moving in that direction. Just for that you should pat yourself on the back, so many people still remain in the dark completely unaware of how unhealthy that habit can be for someone physically, mentally, spiritually. Unfortunately most people have to hit some kind of bottom when it comes to their addiction, but if you are on here looking for guidance why take it any further?

You need to fully understand how cigarettes have a hold on you, from the nicotine ingrained in your cells, to the mentality that had you sucked into the habit in the first place and decide that you will rise above.

Physically, its easy, yet hard at the same time. Sweat that shit out, drink a ton of water, work out, eat healthy, organic fruits/ vegetables. You know, foods that nourish and cleanse your body. Im sure deep breathing (basically the opposite of inhaling death) will help and once your lungs begin to heal you will might actually enjoy the feeling of nourishing your cells more efficiently. These tips will aid in you breaking the habit.

Its a mind shift, from negative to positive. From the dark to the light. Keep working on developing that love for yourself brotha!

jazzz (30) (@jazzz) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Also another method that seemed to work for me but takes some commitment is starting your first cigarette 1 hour later (or what ever time later) than the day before. Then also at the same time slowly make the time earlier for your last cigarette of the day. But the morning ‘ciggie’ is the most important to focus on. But you’ve probably tried this anyway.

Annie M (0) (@AnnieM) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Hi Andy, I stopped 3.5 weeks ago and found using Emotional Freedom Technique and stop smoking meditations on YouTube. I’ve been trying to tackle the emotional attachment to smoking and viewing it as splitting up with an abusive partner who you love but will eventually kill you. On day 2 of stopping I had a massive clear out and washed anything that smelt of smoke which helped keep me busy. I used a bead necklace thing to twizzle in my hands to keep them busy. The EFT cycle is very helpful as it takes about the same time as smoking a roll up and text support from friends when you have cravings. I ain’t gonna lie, it’s hard and I’m having trouble sleeping but the further away you get from having that last smoke, the more you have to lose by lighting up. Good luck! Oh, it may help to think of the smoking industry as corporate drug dealers making you sick for profit, making you pay for health care and pay for champix/ecigs etc. Whatever works eh

Andy (15) (@a1993h) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Thanks for the wise words, folks. Haven’t had one in 7 days now. I have heaps more energy and CAN SMELL AGAIN. Didn’t realise how much your sense of smell is inhibited by smoking. Don’t feel the desire to smoke anymore. An observation I’ve made is that now and in the past when I refrained from smoking for long periods, I let go of cigarettes instead of try and give up. Your words have clarified the reason(s) I wanted to stop.

I think that quitting is portrayed wrongly in the media because it makes it out to be more of a chore than it ought to be, thus making it so. Perhaps this is intentional, an attempt to perpetuate the idea that quitting is near impossible, so people will continue to feed the huge industry of tobacco..

PsychKnight (1) (@Frostyy) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Ugh… im smoking a rollie right now

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