( @conniesoe) 8 hours ago Reply TRASH
This guy and i lived in a somewhat small circle of friends for the past 10 plus years. Although we never hung out and talk much with each other, we knew what each other doing or dating all these times through mutual friends. It seems odd when he asked me for our first date about a yr ago after chatting up in mutual friend’s wedding. We talked about it, claiming tht it wasnt weird for us to go out for dates, but we somewhat lied i guess. After two dates, he seemed to hesitate, but still keeps in touch with me. A few mths after, i heard from my cousin tht he asked a close friend abt what does she think abt me and him. This friend overreacted and asked him if he sees us being together. He told her tht he likes me.
There were couple more times after tht he asked me out in the course of one year, but we just never did end up going. I felt tht he didnt put an obvious interest and therefore, i didnt want to consider it tht much. Around this time, i was also considering to get back together with my last ex, whom he knows in person.
About a wk plus ago, he blurted it out to me that he finds me interesting and cool to hang out with me. He is considering to continue dating me, but admitted that what stopped him last time was tht my first 2 exes are his hang out friends until today. I only have 3 exes in total. He asked me too about my last relationship with my ex and even goes further by asking if i still have feeling for him. He said he’s afraid once he moves on with his decision to date me, i still have not gotten over my ex. We talked abt an hr on the phone and with him still contemplating about dating me. I told him to do whatever feels right for him. If it feels wrong for him, then dont date me. He got a bit dissapointed and said ‘its easy for you to say that ya?’. In the end, i suggested tht he shouldnt think too much and we should just go out with each other first and he agreed.
On the day tht we are supposed to meet, i didnt get any confirmation frm him if it’s still on. So trying to be smart, i just messaged him in early afternoon saying tht if he’s okay to reschedule it to tmw because i hv an early flight back to the city and need to hv a chillin night. He said okay. But, the next day, he told me he had to leave to other city for urgent business and will b there for few days. When i asked him when he wants to reshedule it, he said he will let me know. I havent hear frm hm since tht day. No message even on v day. It has been 4 days now.
My question is whether this guy is playing with his words when he told me he likes me or if its possible for a guy to be this confused because of my exes whom are his friends?