You can’t try to be happy. Happiness is not the goal, it is the path you travel to reach the ultimate goal (whatever that may be for you)
It is so east to be happy, but humans just over complicate things. Now i’m not saying that EVERY human over complicates happiness, but in general, more often than not we do make it harder on ourselves.
Can we all share some ways in which we all keep a smile on your faces and our hearts?
@huntski, gratuity stone. sounds stupid, i know it sounded stupid when i first heard of it then i tried it and it changed my whole perspective on life. if you dont know what that is, it’s a stone or small object you keep with you always and whenever something goes wrong or you’re faced with a negative situation, you find your stone (or object or whatever you choose, it can be anything) and give thanks for everything you have in that moment. it makes you more grateful and overlook the petty things that go wrong in our lives and helps us to remain positive.
@jbc3817, cool, I really like that that works for you and eases your stresses. Is amazing how something so small can trigger all the right (or wrong) feelings.
@huntski, I find happiness in making others happy. I’m a bartender in a small pub and you’d be amazed how the smallest of interactions can make another person feel good, and in turn make you feel fucking awesome. As an example, one night while I headed to the back of the bar, I stopped and gave a middle aged woman I’ve become great friends with a kiss on the cheek, all fine and dandy, no big deal- on the way back to my bar she stopped me and said “You don’t know how much I needed that today, thanks Jenna-bird.”
It’s the little things like that, that make me happy. I’m surrounded by smiling, laughing, happy people because that is the atmosphere I create by being silly and weird (I guess the alcohol helps, lol) and that’s why each day is a happy day for me.
People do make happiness hard, because they spend their time being worried about it- it’s counter-productive. “Stress less” has been the motto I’ve been passing around lately, can’t hurt! :)
@huntski, I have grown to feel like happiness is merely the opposite end of the spectrum from despair. So in focusing on it we become unbalanced and suffer more. Too many ups intensify the lows.
Rather, I feel like appreciation is the best fit line – the zero axis. So in all things, if I can break it down and find my way back to appreciation, then in that way I have performed “alchemy” and converted that thing into something useful.
So if we define “happy” as the overall sense of well being that we all seek, then I would say focusing on appreciation leads to “happy” quite well.
You know what.. my life has never been anything but complete happiness and unconditional love. I mean that.. I FEEL it. It’s real. What I do every day to keep myself happy is to try and make other people happy.. I look every single stranger in the eye and smile at them. That’s energy.. and happiness is fuckin contagious! Spread it like a disease!