How can I stop watching porn/hentai/hentai manga/naked women pics.

 Awaken (@Awaken)7 years, 4 months ago

I masterbet alot, that my penis seems burned from rubbing too much
when I see beautiful women I start thinking about her in dirty ways
I CANT take off my eyes from boobs and asses
in our class there are some hot girls , i cant stop starring at them – boobs and asses
nowadays – it’s their fault , they put some eroitic clothes, there was a chick with big ass , started dancing erotic dance while teacher wasnt in class, I couldnt take off my eyes.
when in net I go to porn or jentai sites at first
while doing drawing I draw naked women

IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME ?
SORRY TO WRITE IN VULGULAR WAY

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TheSeer (168)C (@drallarnnat) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

It’s actually not their fault. Women can wear whatever they want. That’s an important thing to understand. DO NOT BLAME WOMEN FOR YOUR OWN SEXUAL URGES. That’s how rape culture is continued. Use your willpower. Exercise control over yourself… A side question, is english your primary language?

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Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Why all the capital letters? I’m thankful to women for my own sexual urges. Are you out of your mind?

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TheSeer (168)C (@drallarnnat) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

The way he is wording it is as if he is blaming women for his own sexual urges and lack of control. The capital letters designate the most important point I made which is that, as said, don’t blame another person for your own sexual attraction towards them. “It’s their fault” that he can’t stop staring at them is the same mindset that, as I said, perpetuates the whole rape culture victim blaming issue.

Obviously a certain environment can trigger sexual urges, but you need to be internally capable of feeling sexually excited for this to even happen. I don’t think I’m out of my mind at all, I don’t really know how to even leave my mind ( haha, non duality joke for y’all). Anyway, even your wording of ” I’m thankful to women for my own sexual urges.” doesn’t make sense to me.. Someone you are sexually attracted to can trigger sexual urges, but that is just a trigger for something that you already possess. You mean you are thankful that there are attractive people that you can enjoy looking at? You may call it semantics, but I find it slightly offensive ( not personally) that in this culture women are the ones at fault for someone else’s sex drive and lack of control of sex drive. This is a generalization as obviously not everyone in our culture is like this, but there is most definitely a sub-culture of men who sexually objective women and this subculture blends into the rape culture. Even without women present, heterosexual men will experience sexual urges. It can be fun to play the game and flirt and date and meet someone who really excites you, but that doesn’t mean it’s their fault that you perceive them in such a way. Even if they are trying to be attractive, they are not responsible for your ( not talking directly to you, just in general) sexual urges. Do you get what I’m trying to say? I feel like I’m running circles around the point I’m trying to make.

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Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

“even if they are trying to be attractive, they are not responsible for your ( not talking directly to you, just in general) sexual urges. Do you get what I’m trying to say?”

Seriously, no. I don’t get it.

Why do you keep using the word “fault” for having sex drive, which is basically a good thing? I’m not being sarcastic here, there’s nothing wrong with urges you just make big jumps from urges to rape. Of course people should control themselves, or use their sexual energy for something artistic. But… I don’t see anything wrong if it’s a mutual play of sex drives. Don’t get me wrong, I’m firmly against people excusing themselves that “we are animals” because that’s not the whole picture either. I’m actually always on your side of the argument.

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TheSeer (168)C (@drallarnnat) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Fault as in cause. I don’t see anything wrong if it’s a mutual play of sex drives either. I suppose we are on the same side. However I am using rape as the main topic because indeed what Awaken said was that “it’s their fault” he has sexual urges, when in fact it is not and saying that is if you research rape culture, is one of the central aspects: saying it was the victim’s fault for arousing the attacker. That’s what I was getting at.

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Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

What do you mean not their fault? It’s fucking biology, there’s no changing it. Men are wired to respond like that, as long as his nervous system is functional his urges will be triggered when women do certain things.

Blaming the male in question is not only incredibly fucking stupid, but downright hateful and corrupt.
Rape culture is not a real thing, it’s a stupid buzzword used by hysterical, irrational ideologists who can’t get their heads out of their own orifices.

Some things turn men on. That’s biology.
Some things turn women on. That’s biology.
Some things can make a person dangerous. That’s biology.

It isn’t chosen, it’s fucking hard-wired. One can suppress and ignore, one can judge and hate, but that’s just fucking pathetic and harmful.
If you can’t handle human nature, go make “friends” with a fucking Tamagochi.

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TheSeer (168)C (@drallarnnat) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Rape culture, actually, is a real thing. I would present the evidence for you, but if after reading my post you didn’t do the research yourself then it’s only natural to assume that you don’t really care about the actual debate, but are just looking for a nice online conflict.

Just because women can trigger ( not cause ) a male to feel an increase in sex drive doesn’t mean it is the woman’s fault that the man lacks control or even that the man feels it. It is nobody’s fault because sex drive is a part of our nature. It is biology’s fault. You say ” what do you mean it’s not their fault?” but then go on to say ” It’s fucking biology.” Yes, it is indeed biology and not the woman’s fault. Still, using that as an excuse to lose control is non-sensical.

If you’d like to talk biology and how humans are “hard-wired,” then I should say that you possess a prefrontal cortex capable of exerting control on so called “urges” and capable of using higher reasoning to understand and recognize the difference between sexual nature & healthy expression and turning bodies into sex objects as well as the detrimental effects that can have. There is a line. Using animalistic instincts as an excuse to lack control is clearly an invalid argument considering we possess Executive Function. There is a difference between suppressing and ignoring and exerting control until this nature can be expressed in a healthy way. I am not attacking Awaken. I was simply addressing the issue that stood out the most to myself upon first reading it.

Oh and also, I did enjoy your last line about making friends with the tamagochi. Clever stuff! I hope this debate continues to be a debate. I don’t know you so for all I know, we’d make good friends! My argument is purely directed at your argument and how you presented it, not at you personally, mate!

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Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

There is no evidence because there is no real research because it’s not a real subject. It’s ideologist opinion wankery. I know all the “points” and implications that it involves, if I didn’t I wouldn’t call it bullshit just like that.

“Rape culture” is just another one of those crazy concepts that only serve to validate idiots with severe victim complex issues. Helps them unite together and make scapegoats so they don’t have to do anything about their inadequacies.

Women DO cause men’s sexual lust and vice versa. If you don’t understand this, you seriously need to read up on biology and neurology before making further claims. Yknow, real hard unbiased science with real research and no ideology or desired outcome.

It’s not about blaming others for losing control. Look at the scenario, the little perv was just sitting there and some girl starts doing an erotic dance in front of him.

See, erotic dancing is an art that humans invented. It isn’t biological, it isn’t automatic, there is no physical urge to do it. It’s chosen.
Being turned on by a sexy body in motion on the other hand, that is biological and inevitable. It isn’t chosen. There is no controlling it, a lot of idiots think they can control it but their bodies nonetheless react the exact same way. They just make themselves unconscious of it.

You can control your actions, but not your instinctual urges. If he had raped the girl, that would have been a case of “losing control” and blaming her. Just being turned on is not a case of losing control and blaming someone for it.
Blaming the guy for being turned on by her deliberate dancing, though, that’s definitely a matter of unjust blaming and irresponsibility.

Higher reasoning doesn’t change anything. And, by the way, your standpoint is not one of reason in the first place but one of ideology and ego.
Being turned on and “objectifying” attractive people IS healthy, it IS the natural order. It IS automatic and inevitable, no matter how much some people like to think they’re above it there’s sufficient proof that they’re full of shit. The only people who don’t do that are the ones who are clinically asexual due to a birth defect.
Furthermore, sexual objectification is a minor issue compared to most of the social objectification (natural and man-made alike) that nobody even notices.

The executive function statement is irrelevant and out of place. It literally doesn’t apply here at all, and isn’t directly related to the subject either.
Attraction happens and goes through three different stages before it even reaches the frontal cortex that may or may not resist the attraction, and even if it doesn’t approve of the attraction it’s still there. And this is all on the subconscious, primitive level, it has yet to reach the conscious and egoic parts of the brain that you can influence.
And even when it does, the only reason to suppress it is social conditioning, fear- and shame tactics. Being a good pet.

And guess what, suppressing it is usually what makes little pervs. The more you blame and shame the pervs, the worse they get and the more join their ranks. Just look at Japan…
The more a human has to suppress his/her true self, the more demonic he/she becomes.

The debate has just started, my friend. You have yet to contribute, and I’m not so sure you can argue on a scientific level, seeing how your previous two posts were nothing but propaganda and empty claims.
It seems you don’t even know enough about human biology to really be making these claims either.

If you need proof, just say so. Or you could be a smart feller and search for it yourself.

But then again the question is… do you really want to know the truth or would you rather cling to your beliefs?
If the truth is what you seek, look it up. Stop listening to ass hats.

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TheSeer (168)C (@drallarnnat) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

I do indeed want to know the truth. What I was saying is that the capability to feel attraction, should certain stimuli occur, is not the woman’s fault. But logically, it is not the man’s fault either, it’s just nature. So, part of my argument is void. Somehow I was blind to that.

I do agree that suppression of such natural urges is most definitely unhealthy. How one deals with these sexual urges can be just as unhealthy. It seems that it all depends not in what the urges are, but how one deals with those urges. Your statement ” The more a human has to suppress his/her true self, the more demonic he/she becomes.” Definitely rings true.

So yes, I’ve been arguing that one may control these urges, when in reality the only way to control them is suppressing them, which is unhealthy, and actually isn’t really controlling but ignoring. Really, what we have control over, is our conscious responses, and this is, I believe, what I’ve been trying to say.

I would say that in my mind, I was arguing against someone who had actually done something wrong, thus such emphasis on control. Awaken actually though, didn’t harm anyone, and my response was more emotional-based because of the blaming ( which I still believe is not the woman’s fault. They didn’t create our biology anymore than we did.)

So, your last post opened my eyes up to many flaws in my arguments, leaving much of what I said void. I wasn’t arguing just for the sake of arguing. If I’m wrong or misinformed I definitely want to learn the truth.

This is the part of your post that opened my eyes to the flaws in my argument:

“The executive function statement is irrelevant and out of place. It literally doesn’t apply here at all, and isn’t directly related to the subject either.
Attraction happens and goes through three different stages before it even reaches the frontal cortex that may or may not resist the attraction, and even if it doesn’t approve of the attraction it’s still there. And this is all on the subconscious, primitive level, it has yet to reach the conscious and egoic parts of the brain that you can influence.
And even when it does, the only reason to suppress it is social conditioning, fear- and shame tactics. Being a good pet.”

However, your perspective on rape culture still seems nonsensical to me. If you truly believe rape culture doesn’t exist, then I ask you this:

Imagine a woman you were close to was recently raped. Imagine you two are in college and that she took it to the president, and he/she said they would do what they could. Then imagine that nothing happened except a suspension, and that when taken to court, the attacker is shown sympathy by the media because ” he had a good future ahead of him. He was an athlete, an A student, and was on his way to a steady job. Now his life is ruined.” Imagine sitting next to the girl who was raped days after the trial, and watching the media show sympathy for the fate of the attacker rather than for the trauma that the girl and her family has suffered. Then imagine looking over to see if she is okay, and see her start to cry because she thinks she’s made the wrong choice because she “just ruined a poor guy’s life” even though he had taken something sacred from her. Watch as guilt consumes her and a battle within her mind begins as she wonders if this was all her fault. After all, if it was wrong of the man to do, wouldn’t the media be supporting her? This is rape culture. It happens often. I don’t listen to “asshats.” That is not where I was introduced to such a topic. I didn’t learn about it through some brief web search or some silly news article. I learned about it because a friend of mine was raped, and I was the only one she was able to turn to at the time. It destroys peoples lives.

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Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

You’re really good with words, mate. And you’re one of the few people on this site who can actually argue on a mature level. I like it, big respect.

Nobody is to blame for human instinct. Not that it’s something bad in the first place, there is no need to blame anyone for it.
However, a lot of the time people like to trigger each other and then point fingers. The person who got triggered is judged and labelled, the person who intentionally made it happen is seen as a victim and gets away.

As for the rape culture example, that’s a very vague example. It’s about crime in general, not rape specifically. The guy would get away just as easily if he’d maimed a person, or violently robbed someone, and countless things like that. A lot of people see rape as a very special crime, and in a sense overreact and lose perspective. Even when it’s a lesser crime.

Besides, the scenario you presented seems quite common in the states… but there’s a whole world outside your borders where things are different.
Awaken clearly isn’t from the same culture as you, probably from some part of the world that isn’t very connected to your part of the world, judging by his terrible English. Whatever culture is from, I’m sure you know little to none about it, and neither do I… yet you play the rape culture card. See how that doesn’t make any sense at all?

Yeah it sucks that people get raped, but it’s always happened and the way people handle it these days just makes things worse. People blow it out of proportion and make it a bigger deal than it should be, and that makes it much harder for the victim to handle the situation and cope with the trauma.
On that same note, not every victim reacts the way you described, it’s a cultural and personal thing that doesn’t have to be that way no matter the circumstances.

Another thing to note, nobody gives a fuck when a man gets raped. Those women always get away. Nobody gives a fuck when women falsely accuse men of rape sending innocent people to jail, those women always get away.

Speaking of false accusations, this is one of the main reasons a lot of rapists get away. There are so many false accusations these days that the legal system have to raise the criteria for evidence and such, it decreases the credibility of real victims.
The people who go around shouting “Rape culture! Rape culture!” are usually the ones responsible for most false accusations.

So I’m afraid you really have been listening to ass hats.

I don’t have any friends that have been raped, can’t relate to that scenario. However, I myself have been raped, I know that the whole thing is terrible.
It doesn’t have to destroy lives though, people have been raped for as long as people have existed, and it’s only recently that people ruin their lives over it or commit suicide. It’s blown out of proportion, I know that’s a very harsh thing to say but that’s the way it is.

Rape happens. Life goes on.
When life gives you shit, feed it to your plants and harvest. What doesn’t kill you should make you stronger, if it doesn’t you’re doing something completely wrong.

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TheSeer (168)C (@drallarnnat) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

All good points, actually. The viewpoint you offer is very alternative to what I’m “used to.” It IS viewed as a special crime and many peoples’ reactions to rape is probably, as you said, shaped by the cultural idea about it, which puts rape on a level that no other crime is on. Still, it would be a horrible experience. And you’re right, it’s viewed as way less awful when it happens to a man ( in our culture.) That doesn’t seem right or rational whatsoever. I thought I was looking at things completely objectively and then you show me my biased attitude! I really appreciate that.

The fact that you went through it and are able to come out and say what you say shows how strong you are ( or have become.) Your objective viewpoint especially in a situation like this is really impressive & respectable. Thank you for offering your perspective. It was a fun debate.

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Thinker in Training (0) (@tennissports) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

I’m pretty sure that things that turn men adn women on have a significant amount more to do with psychology than biology…

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Anonymous (57) (@) 7 years, 1 month ago ago

You’re such a noob. @manimal,

I can’t even suggest this is your first life or something and you can avoid blame for forgetting, I think you’ve been up your own ass so long you’ve forgotten the point of this life thing.

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Anonymous (7) (@) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

ahahaha :D

are you seth from superbad? xD

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MonkeyZazu (1,865)M (@monkeyzazu) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Read this blog post: https://www.highexistence.com/how-porn-rewires-the-brain-is-porn-bad-for-you/

“Punch yourself in the balls every time a sexual thought occurs in your mind.”

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Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

On the bus, on the street, at the fair.
Punch your balls everywhere.

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Awaken (1) (@Awaken) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Hahaha

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Light Yagami (3) (@L.ight) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

man that’s funny

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Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

by becoming conscious and having some will power and working at it, the same way you overcome other addictions. don’t beat yourself up.

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Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Don’t you mean “Don’t beat yourself off” though??

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mar (63) (@fatimaanzana) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

read some good stuff, a nice book, find better things to do, do exercise, eat healthy, avoid conversations of that type with your male friends, do not go to places where you know you will stare at women (just while you learn to control yourself) don’t be a slave of your instincts! you are not an animal, YOU control yourself.

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Alex Eastman (71) (@alex) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Yes. You need to get laid. lol.

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Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Wow, what a dick.

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Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Okay, I’m going to explain this otherwise my bubble is going to burst. This kid doesn’t know how to socialize and you’re telling him “you need to get laid”. You’re a fucking dick just by calling me a dick irrelevantly on a random topic where I actually complimented someone. I don’t even

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Alex Eastman (71) (@alex) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Fair enough, my wrong.

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Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

So much butthurt up in this.
Whatsamatter shoe opener? Dry spell? Porn addiction? Social anxiety?

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Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Dry spell from genuine emotion. Too much numbing shit tickles my nerves.

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Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Oh well, who needs that stuff?

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obi (3) (@superpooper) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

cant lie, i laughed pretty fucking hard

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Light Yagami (3) (@L.ight) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

lie ? why ?

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Ray Butler (1,423)M (@trek79) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Sex drive is a natural and acceptable feature of our identity but we have to remember it isn’t the only feature of our identity, over indulging it may be bad but so is repressing it. Women are human beings, not sexual objects, I tend to think that being sexually satisfied can allow us to view and treat others as human beings, not as objects of our satisfaction; both discipline and appropriate indulgence can keep us balanced so that our behaviour isn’t irrational.

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TheSeer (168)C (@drallarnnat) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Amen.

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Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Every human is a potential sexual object. Being someone’s sexual object is a good thing, it’s evolution and stuff. Means you’re doing things right.

Being someone’s sex object (or idol, or nemesis, or whatever) doesn’t mean that’s all you are, or that you’re somehow being clipped or dethroned or belittled in any manner.

Besides, it is a quite well-known fact that people generally become “better people” when they have these thoughts/feelings about somebody, due to natural reflexes that mess with your neurotransmitters. Men become stronger, women become less selfish, and regardless of gender you’ll be much more inspired and happier and better at social stuff.

The human biology is wonderful. The socially conditioned ego is rubbish.
People got it backwards.

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Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

They don’t become less selfish but their energy is definitely channeled. :) Indulgence in most of the cases leads to only more indulgence. In his case – overindulgence which is on the border of healthy and unhealthy.

And shit, I am a fucking weirdo when I get struck by anhedonia and can’t get my addictions right because it’s a rare condition.

If an ass is shaken but there’s no one to see it, does it make a sound?

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Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Potato, rotator.

On the border? Right, just like Prague is on the border between Asia and Europe…

Name one person who isn’t a weirdo…

Last time I checked, the sound of a shaking ass is heard and not seen. Last time I checked, the presence of eyes and/or ears does not change whether or not something happens.

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Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Well, if you don’t see a shaking ass, the effect of the sound produced from it won’t be the same. I’m pretty sure I nailed that one.

The fact is the whole talking about masturbation and sexuality bring a whole new level of pressure on people I simply don’t understand. I fixed my teeth last year and my dentist told me “Now you can probably get married!”. “Fuck that, don’t you know how many bullshit you have to put up with if you get married? Being in a relationship with someone creates unreal, impractical, not so much worth it balance between good and bad things where you have to try really hard or hope for someone to stop being a delusional cunt.” Of course, I nailed that one too. It’s boring talk. I mean what the fuck is this “You need a woman, not masturbation.” Like people have never been with women in the first place and get fucking headaches to fix your masturbation problem. I’m just disappointed by everyone.

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Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

That pressure comes mainly from the idea that you should do something specific because someone preaches it. The focus from those nonsense advices all over is on the preaching itself, not on the fun you’ll actually have. It’s like it creates some illusory pride without the actual fun just to look good in front of other people. Fuck that too. I am other people. I don’t see fun in following an over-pretentious’ idiot guide to feel right about everything.

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Ray Butler (1,423)M (@trek79) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Feeling right about everything is delusional in my opinion, people who seek it are doing themselves no favours, a person needs to feel right about the right things and wrong about the wrong things, otherwise they will just do too many things wrong.

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Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Haha. Feeling wrong about everything is delusional too, but it’s often the case. That’s why I think the more pretentious someone is the less fun he’ll have. With porn, specifically, the world is going in a weird non-private direction with an ever-growing chance for kids to find their parents’ videos on or someone finding their ex on something different than a social media. That obviously has an effect on people’s minds to wonder what’s right and wrong. The thing is if a person feels they masturbate a lot and gets scared to ask people what to do when they can’t control themselves any more the answers will be to find the real deal. If a person feels they have no luck with finding the real deal, though, because of no luck with relationships – the answers would be entirely different, because you don’t just find a “nice girl” or a “nice guy” so easily. No one even knows what “nice” means. :)

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Ray Butler (1,423)M (@trek79) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Yes, feeling wrong about everything is a major sickness; a lack of confidence in our own ability to judge things correctly leads us into the arms of religious organisations or some kind of group-think cult that abuses your strength as a unit toward their collective agenda.

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Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

This sounds so bad just by reading it. That’s why people should observe different collective agendas with curiosity, even experience some to have a better understanding, which eventually will lead to having confidence from the experience. Unfortunately we don’t live in a perfect world and this will create prejudice as well. You can’t get to know something or someone better if you’re only looking at its cover. I think that’s why it’s called cover.

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Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

It’s not about preaching, or having fun, or “doing right.”
It’s about biology and basic mental well-being.

It’s also about not going down a path that’s guaranteed to make you miserable, and likely to flow over and hurt others, which in turn is likely to put you in jail or a looney bin.

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Ray Butler (1,423)M (@trek79) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Yeah, for sure, a woman would solve his dilemma, the mistake I think a lot of people make is to be only one or the other; sexually attracted to her or intellectually attracted to her. After sex, and you no longer have sex on the brain, you want to still be interested in her.

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Ray Butler (1,423)M (@trek79) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

And if you don’t bang her right and often then you may lack the sexual desire that all relationships need.

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Ray Butler (1,423)M (@trek79) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

I agree with that, it depends on what you find fulfilling though; we are inherently sexual beings, if you are a regular Joe or a philosopher, so satisfying that nature is vital either way. But where a regular Joe values the physical relationship and intimacy it provides, the more philosophical of us value plutonic and mental stimulation.

So I tend to thing sex is a blessing to most, but a burden to the cerebral, despite its fundamental place in our nature. That a cerebral person may connect by intellectual stimulation, first that drive must be quenched or else they will only view another as an object of that desire (depending on sexuality of course) that is why men can be profound with men but babble superficially for a woman (again depending on sexuality).

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TheSeer (168)C (@drallarnnat) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

I would hit the like button on this post but that function was taken away. Great post, interesting and in my opinion accurate, viewpoint.

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TheSkaFish (962)M (@theskafish) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

@awaken, there’s nothing wrong with you, but you should check this thread out. It’s long but you should read most of it, it may help you:

No Porn: No Masturbation: 30 Days

Part of your problem is that you are watching porn. It’s reinforcing these thoughts in your head. Break the cycle and stop watching porn. Eventually, after about 2 or 3 weeks or so, the cravings should start to disappear. Think of yourself in a new way – from now on, the new version of you doesn’t watch porn. It’s not that you are trying to quit or even that you did quit. You simply don’t watch it. There really is no “how do I stop watching porn”. You just stop watching it, stop going to those sites. If your thoughts suggest it, realize that you create your own thoughts and therefore can’t force yourself to do anything you don’t want to do. You want a woman. Porn is not a woman, it is video clips on a screen. It’s not what you want. You don’t want to watch it anymore so don’t do it. Let it go. It’s nothing.

The other problem you have is right here: “I CANT take off my eyes….in our class there are some hot girls , i cant stop starring at them”

Again, you need to tell yourself a new story. Right now you are telling yourself that you can’t stop staring at them – instead, tell yourself that you can. Tell yourself that you don’t care. Remember the interests you had as a kid and go back to those. Or read a book, listen to some music (that doesn’t have a sexual vibe). Take up a new hobby. Work out. Do something so that you have something going on in your life.

And as others have said, learn to socialize. You need to become decent at socializing before you get to sex and relationships. Learn to just have a good time with people, specifically with girls, without feeling out of control.

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Alex Eastman (71) (@alex) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

I’ve got two examples that may help (to make up for my rude comment earlier).
Dry rub: Not meaning no lubrication, but no porn. You can masturbate without it, it just takes imagination!

Channel your addiction into something positive. Every time you’re horny at home, first do sit ups or pushups until you’re tuckered out, then do it again. You’ll likely not be horny after that. (or if you are, consider it a reward for exercising) If it doesn’t take your mind off it, it’ll at least be doing something positive along with it!

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TheSkaFish (962)M (@theskafish) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

@alex, I like your second suggestion best. I don’t think Awaken will start to get better until he completely quits both porn and masturbation. Channeling sexual energy into something else seems like a good way to go.

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