I was watching both Ann Romney\’s and Michelle Obama\’s speeches recently, and I came to a realization. I find myself to be a democrat simply because I agree more with their overall stance on issues.
But one thing that I noticed is that no matter what Republicans say, I always find a way to oppose it and rationalize my opposition. It could be something that I may have agreed with before, but simply because a Republican had said it, I disagree.
I dislike that I have become so biased that I cannot take anything a Republican says seriously.
So I ask you, fellow HEthens, what do I do to become less biased and to take what others say with a clear and positive attitude?
I try to read things and learn about things that make me uncomfortable, to find things that I might find disturbing and wrong and look at the point of view of what caused that and what a person’s motivation and justification might be, I try to justify it myself. When you do this with things that make you extremely uncomfortable, it will come naturally to take even small biases and see them from all points of view.
Stop following the labels.
Go educate yourself on the entire spectrum of political views, follow whats going on in the country and world, formulate your OWN opinion, create your OWN ideas on these matters, then listen (don’t watch, listen) to what these people have to say. Get into debates with people, hear others opinions, find open minded individuals who don’t give a fuck about the political title, but who are more concerned with whats REALLY going on.
The problem with Americans is we have been raised to be either Democrat or Republican, and we have to hate the other. We do NOT have to hate the other party merely based on their opposing ideas. Both parties have so much to offer, bullshit aside, its up to YOU to decide who aligns with what you’re interested in, and its up to YOU to decide whether or not you want these people representing YOUR ideas.
It doesn’t help our political system sucks any way, but seriously. Get out there.
@alexa, I didn’t say that I was all out democrat. I said that overall I tend to agree more with their beliefs and ideals. That doesn’t mean that I agree with all of them. I realize that there’s a ton of bullshit from both sides, but to me it seems that the majority of it comes from those who label themselves Republicans. I’m not sure what it is I think that.
I live in a house with three other friends, and we get into debates with some frequency (a recent one about how Apple is a good business with bad morals). But they really aren’t open-minded anymore than I am so the debates tend to go nowhere. The biggest difference within my housemates is that two of them are studying to have jobs that pay well, and so they agree with Republican ideals. I’m a jazz major and the other whom agrees with me is going to be a teacher, so we both don’t plan on making a bunch of money, and our ideals lean more toward democratic.
@racastillo, And I wasn’t claiming you were either or, to be honest with you I don’t care what party you align your views with. What I’m more interested in is your views on politics, where you stand, not which party you affiliate with. That only goes so far in the grand scheme of things. If we were to get into a discussion, I would like to hear what your views are on certain matters, why you disagree with an opinion, why you feel the other one is correct, how you feel an opponent can change to be more open, accepting, etc. It’s really amazing what conversing can do when trying to become unbiased.
Getting your voice out there is a great way to separate that, find people who agree with you to talk with, find people who don’t. Those who don’t may be ignorant and arrogant but that experience gives you more baring. If that makes any sense. Your roommates sound like they’ll be impossible to talk with, but don’t let the three of them deter you from trying to learn more. Don’t let a few bad examples of one party make you hate them even more. You know?
@racastillo, You’d be surprised how much people are willing to go on about when you’re like “I don’t agree with you, but I’d like to hear why you feel that way.” It opens alot of doors. Of course not many people are willing to be so nice about it because, well, its politics. Haha.
But hey! If you ever want to talk politics, you’re more than welcome to shoot me a message and we can share ideas and views. I love political discussions, I love learning why people feel the way they do, it helps. Best of luck on your venturing.
In this scenario I wonder if unbiased is even obtainable. I say this because it seems the platform for each party is designed to contradict the opposite’s view, the ideas themselves are in conflict… if I were a sneaky manipulator I would design it this way to create divisionary lines, to give people something to conflict about, a distraction. Smoke and mirrors. And I say this because core issues, the real problems, are not addressed or are downplayed, and the ones that do not really matter are the ones talked about and cause the greatest partisan division.
But this is just my overall impression. I wonder if you are not the source of the bias and it is the situation itself causing the problem.
What @alexa, said. I’d also like to add that unless you are EXTREMELY rich, neither party will help you, nor wants to. At least Republicans are straight-up about that….Democrats act like they are friends of the people, but they don’t give a rat’s ass either….both sides just say what they know people want to hear, just in different ways to give the illusion that the two major parties are different from each other when in fact they’re pretty much the same….corporate/elitist dictator #1, or corporate/elitist dictator #2. It really frustrates me when people, especially non-elite, can’t or won’t see this. There’s proof everywhere that things have kept on getting worse regardless of whether or not the Republicans or Democrats have the presidency.
-The war is still going on, costing huge amounts of lives, resources, and money, all the while dividing both the world and our own population.
-The cost of living is still raging out of control, and there are getting to be less and less jobs available that pay well and those few jobs that do exist are getting harder to get into. And those jobs that do pay well take up a ton of your time….even jobs that don’t pay well take up a ton of your time, because you’ll have to get 2 or 3 of them just to survive just so you can keep on slaving away. It really bothers me that this is so, because I believe this life is all we get, I don’t think the afterlife or reincarnation are real.
-Big Oil still pretty much owns the government and thus dictates the pace at which alternate energy technology improves, and we continue to lag behind other countries in terms of alternate energy even though we’ll have to switch over anyway, there’s no choice here. As the amount of oil decreases, the cost of it increases, which curtails your ability to make fast, efficient, long-distance travel. It took Lewis and Clark FUCKING YEARS to cross America and back (something that takes mere hours today)….if oil runs out and there is nothing lined up to replace it with, we’re all going on a one-way ticket back in time. I don’t want that.
-and more stuff I’m sure that I can’t think of at the moment.
But yea, pretty much if either Republicans or Democrats win, we the people lose. And if you want something different, you have to do something different….no sense in voting for the same people who never deliver….we always complain about politicians being dishonest but people never consider to just stop voting for these parties which have been proved dishonest time and again.
Life is all about perspective…that’s why we find first world problem jokes funny as an odd example.
So the best advice I could offer would be to always try and look at a situation from different perspectives.
Try and think of why the Republicans would believe in whatever it is you disagree with, it should help you find peace with your differing stances.
You might unquestionably believe in Allah and cannot fathom why a child would believe in Jesus. However if you try and look at it from their perspective, the child might believe in Jesus because that’s all he’s ever known in his upbringing.
Even if you cannot determine why someone holds a certain opinion or belief, this act of seeking to understanding should be enough. Some things you cannot understand. Therefore, even if you disagree completely with someone, take it with a grain of salt. It doesn’t mean your belief is any better. Just accept that you have differing viewpoints and you should be able to have a “clear and positive attitude”.
@breathe, Yeap. Perspective perspective perspective. We all speak more or less than same English language, but internally we are all having totally different conversations and are each writing our software in different ways. I have a very liberal and passionately Democratic friend that I met on a trip to Chicago recently, and what began a few weeks ago with me asking him lots of questions from a perspective he’s not used to and him just saying I was wrong over and over again has turned into some really interesting discussion and a lot of learning on both our parts. It’s frustrating but if you can really get someone to open up and answer questions and explain what THEY think you can learn to translate your ideas into a language they get. At the very least, it’s a fun little experiment. Just remember, if we don’t know what we don’t know, how can we fault anyone else for not knowing what they don’t know?