I find myself troubled by the question of what should I do? What should I focus on? What should I learn about? What should I explore? Who should I spend my time with? Where should I go? I am open to anything and everything. I find value in everything, but how does one decide where to begin our how to begin when there is so very much to learn live and experience?
Perhaps this is to vague, I would love and appreciate any responses.
I had that problem pretty much till now. I started again with observing anything. Take a look at your hand, trace down the thin lines of your inside. Treat anything like this. What you could try is for one day try to be bored but don’t do anything you usually do. See what it leads you to.Is there anything you enjoy doing (something where you create something) get better at it! Be a master at it. Try out a lot of stuff. Leave your confort zone, go outside.Just try to avoid the stuff you have done till now, get adventurous. I am right now trying to get a hang of luzid dreaming and meditation (you can find both on these forums)
This really inspired me:
Don’t let the endless list of options intimidate you. Just…try something. If you like it, keep exploring. If not, try something else. There’s no limit on what you can explore. Take things one step at a time, make a decision and see where it leads you. You may find yourself somewhere you never expected.
@viner-cent, Hey thanks! I love that list and read it a while ago and realized I have been doing alot of those things since then! And I have been really wanting to get into meditation and lucid dreaming as well. And that exercise sounds like a great idea add well
I cycled through many, many spheres of thought before I found the one that made it all make sense to me. But I wouldn’t trade that journey for anything. Wisdom is cumulative.
I know you want it all now! But it’s a lifelong process with discoveries all along the way.
One path I realize that I followed (that only makes sense now in retrospect) is that I went through layer after layer of maps of the body and identity, from the gross to the sublime.
1) I studied biomechanics, dance, anatomy, massage, structural integration, cranio-sacral therapy
2) Then I learned (a little…) about the energetic body: shiatsu, Thai massage, Qi Gong, kundalini yoga
3) I learned about emotions and the psyche: Jungian ideas of complexes, the Shadow, the Self, individuation, personality types, evolutionary psychology, transcendent states, synchronicity
4) I am now studying the soul: reincarnation, past life regression, life between lives
I’m a bit older than most people on this site. I’ve been on this path of discovery for more than two decades. It has been fun all along the way. Everyone has to find his/her own way. That is part of what makes us each unique. There is no one right method.
@sandman, haha I am an eager fellow!
And what caused you to learn about those things and not others? Were these things learned in the pursuit of wisdom or some other aspiration? And in your journey were you ever troubled by doubt in your path?
@arkretz, Why did I pursue these things instead of pottery or chemistry? They caught my eye, they fascinated me in some way. I was good at them, I was exposed to them in some way, one thing led to another. Curiosity and a willingness to follow the trail wherever it leads. I read a lot; I work places where I’m part of the management so I can take all the workshops and classes for free. It also helps to get good enough at something to make a living at it.
I was studying mechanical engineering, and saw there were courses in comparative biomechanics, gait analysis, orthopedic biomechanics…it sounded cooler than learning how to design HVAC units. I had studied gymnastics as a kid, and dance came easily. I was good at a lot of things, and I kept doing whatever continued to be interesting and rewarding. Being one of the only straight guys in dance classes full of women: that’s fun, and I had lots of performance opportunities even though I started late.
It’s like when you read a really interesting book and then follow the breadcrumbs in the bibliography to see what sources that author is pulling from…
I have valued that path over diving in deep to one thing for my whole career. Depends on your personality though. It’s not for everyone!
I think the biggest bumps in the road have come from external pressure to do something or be something for someone else. It’s really hard to reject that external pressure. People often don’t understand your value system when you decide to become an artist, for instance. (Or a mystic for that matter!) The values of the ego world are different from the values of your higher self. When you start to listen to what’s truly important to you, you shift your priorities to find a way to make it happen.
Money is another hurdle. Like I said, it helps to get good enough at something to make a living at it. I produce all kinds of media now, but I still get a lot of work as an editor, which is where I started in film. I love doing it, and it leaves my time flexible enough to do a lot of my own projects, make my own films, travel, and have adventures. I know dancers who are licensed massage therapists, painters who teach art to kids. You find a way to be immersed in what you enjoy and balance working for others and doing your own thing.
The path is just a misconception, There is no direct path only your own so just do what feels right and trust your gut. If you want something then go after it and be able to know the difference between impossible and seemingly impossible. Stuff seems so complicated until you just do what you feel and before you know it you look back and see how awesome your path has been :D
@arkretz, Don’t look at life as though there is right ways or wrong, you don’t get to really choose it, it is just simply granted to you and you immerse yourself in it. Life, love, compassion, they don’t need your judgements of what they are worth, just let go of that conditioning and be part of them.
I really hate how there’s so much pressure on young people nowadays to find a career path so soon.
Figure out what you’re passionate about and then figure out some way to weave that passion into whatever you can do to make a reasonable living. I know it’s easier said, believe me, but it’s either that or get a plethora of random jobs over a few years and see which one speaks to you the most–which one you mind the least getting up for in the morning.
@donjaime23, “I really hate how there’s so much pressure on young people nowadays to find a career path so soon. ”
I hear ya man, I hate it too. I don’t even see how what society/the education system is pushing, even makes sense. How can you be expected to pick a career path when you don’t even really have a feel for that career, or only vaguely know what it is like? I sure didn’t know who I really was or what I wanted to do for the rest of my life at age 18, nor did I understand what any job was really like. So I chose to major in business because I thought it would save me from being poor and I thought I couldn’t get good at anything, so comfortable boredom was the best life I could hope for. In the end, I am still poor, loathe the office environment, and have a lot less time to get good at things.
@arkretz, exactly. At 18 who really knows anything? I remember feeling like I knew what I wanted but in retrospect was so completely naive it makes my head spin. I’m guessing almost every 18 year old is like this, and yet you are expected to make these decisions that will affect you basically forever. You are expected to pick a job without having any real understanding of what they do let alone what it will feel like to do every day for the rest of your healthy life or entire life.
Don’t like what you picked because you were forced to pick something you didn’t really understand because you weren’t mature or experienced enough to understand your choice?!? Society says, “well fuck you idiot, you should have planned better, blah blah more smug arrogant bullshit”. It makes me sick. Welcome to America, don’t forget to take your daily dose of snake oil for your health (which is actually rat poison but you’d have to be a chemist to tell). That’ll be $100.
@arkretz, Perhaps you can’t decide one thing to settle on because you either need a combination of things or you need to create your own path! Many great creations have come from desperation. Not calling you desperate in a negative way, but perhaps you feel like nothing set before you will satisfy you because you need to pick up the pieces of the puzzle and make your own picture (your own path).
@vovinawol, “I just studied everything I could get my hands on…then my path found me : ) ”
If you don’t mind I have a few questions:
-Did you have a focus you were narrowing down on for your path, or was it just random?
-How much time did you give to studying something before you decided to discard it and move on to the next thing?
-What did you do to survive while you were finding yourself?
-How did you know when your path found you?
To add on to @vovinawol, ‘s comment
I think the main problem is that you’re asking too many questions when you really should be asking one.
Where is my intuition guiding me?
Now it may take some time because intuition is a tricky thing. There are many inner voices we have. But intuition is one that you can truly get in tune with. Personally for me when I don’t follow my intuition the demons come out to play at night and keep me awake or in restless slumber lost in nightmares. Not saying that this signal is going to be the same as yours but it was definitely a wake up call for me to take it more seriously. Have been sleeping peacefully since.
Follow your intuition and you can’t go wrong in life brother
@arkretz, you make it sound like there are a lot of things you are interested in although you aren’t sure of what your “bliss” should be. I was playing with the circumstance that maybe your bliss is something new, something no one has even done before and by “picking up the pieces” you can pull bits from different options and make your own, personalized lifestyle