I am quite pervert,i dont really wanna be,I just cant control myself at these situations.
one day I needed 1 euro for something urgent so I asked one female friend,while she was searching I stared at her breasts,butt and belly(I am sorry,if this distrubs you).I think her friend saw me staring at her,it was embrassing.
one day I had to go to someone’s home,they invited us for dinner.There were 2 girls,1 was older than me and other was 1 yr younger than me.they were both hot.I ducking stared at them almost all time,I tried to do something else and I listened to music but when they come near me my eyes start staring at them without my control.I start staring at butt,breasts or belly.
I ducking hate this,this makes my heart pound faster and faster.I start acting weird.This makes me nervous.
Does this happen to you ?
ANY SOLUTION ?
You are human. You are biologically driven to reproduce with the opposite sex, and this entails that you be physically attracted to the opposite sex.
Do you think a male gecko asks itself how it can stop staring at female geckos, or a male monarch butterfly, or a male cockroach (or vs. vs., females observing males)?
Your honesty is much appreciated. Do you identify with any particular religion?
Learn how to give sincere compliments. That’s all, really. You’ll get slapped a few times but have great stories to tell.
I went through this same thing last year…oddly enough I was going through it at the same time as a friend of mine…For the longest time we would secretly take pictures of hot girls and their features and such; level 1 was butts and level 2 was boobs. It was actually pretty epic. But surprisingly, as wrong and morally reprehensible it was It didn’t effect me all too much, so don’t worry about that. In fact last night I was at a girl friend’s house and just watching tv with her. Momentarily I thought about how much I wanted to make out with her and such and then considered how although it was tempting and I could have easily gotten her to be down with it, I was convinced her feelings didn’t mirror those of mine. Which is why I didn’t do it.
No matter what’s going on in life, no matter what, you’ll always be going through some phase of subliminal self improvement. Whether it be checking out girls to doing drugs, just do whatever comes naturally to you.
…And that’s all I gotta say about that.
i kinda have the same problem checking out guys’ packages. Old guys, young guys, friends’ boyfriends and husbands, even family. I hate it to. I think it changes the dynamics even if it’s so subtle it wasn’t really noticed for what it was. I think it’s kind of a power move and debases the guy I’m interacting with. It’s like I’m sizing them up or something. The more I try not to do it, the more awkward I get, and ashamed. Seems like it’s kinda getting better now that I’m getting older, but I really wish I didn’t do it. Wish my interactions were free of what is so obviously a lower chakra energy.
@dontknow Oh boy, a guy is worried that he stares at womens breasts and butts for too long…
You know thats what you were designed to do, right?
You know it is ok? Right?
I am working on this as well where i am addressing a lot of unconscious guilt regarding sexuality and my masculinity. Stop trying to control your urges. Stop feeling shame regarding your urges.
It is your attempt to repress that is causing your anxiety and your problems in life. Let go my friend. Embrace your sexuality and don’t feel bad that you have these “basic urges”.
Your sexuality can be spiritual if you learn to listen to it and not repress it. Hope this helps.
What you give power to will over power.
You already made the first step to overcoming yourself, and that is being aware of yourself instead of being a zombie like people who have no self awareness.
The next step is staying aware. Be aware of how your mind is making you feel, realize that the voice inside your head is being louder than reality. Be aware of your surroundings. Stay alert, and calm & the answers will come to you.
I highly recommend that you check out The Present on http://www.truthcontest.com.
How is this a problem?
You are attracted to breasts, butt and bellies (haha my favorite on fit girls), why do you want to suppress this?
It is a part of your nature, your body desires reproduction, and you are looking at three body parts that play various roles in that process.
I am a teenager too, and I see no point in trying to deny this part of myself. I enjoy it, and to be quite honest, I have seen other girls doing similar stuff to me (eyeing my arms, chest, and once my crotch). Its not weird, it’s pretty natural.
Let me guess, whenever you tell yourself not to look, you end up looking anyway? Or the desire only gets more intense? This is suppression showing you its failure. You can push a buoy down into the water, but its only going to float back up. Let it be.
This article really helped me. Possibly you have a porn addiction.