how do we take chances that scare us?

T (@tanniar) 8 years, 1 month ago

I always hear people say to do what you love. but how do you do something you love when you’re not sure you can succeed in it? Im 19 and in college and according to my family i ‘should’ know what i want to do by now but what i want to do may not be something they agree with.

i guess my question is, how do you take chances that scare you?

October 28, 2013 at 8:59 pm
SinD Rae (19) (@araeya09) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@tanniar, The biggest reason people fear to take a chance is failure right? But, what really is failure? The way I see it is the only way you can fail is not trying at all. The word “mistake” carries a lot of undeserved negativity. Making a mistake is one of the best things that can happen to you because it is saying “hey, this isn’t working! Try something else already.” The more mistakes you make the closer you get to the answer.

Don’t let the veil of society blind you from seeing you really can do anything you want to do in life. It’s like this, if you want something really bad, I believe the world is going to test you, break you down, make you bleed, and the only way your gonna get through it is knowing beyond a shadow of a doubt, that’s what you want.

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Conner J. (1,558) (@connerj93) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@tanniar, I hate that. Here I am, stuck in an insignificant city, with no direction, and with no idea of my future, and I’m being forced to make decisions about my life when I don’t even fully know who I am yet. I’ve always battled school, not that I dislike education, but the atmosphere I’m put into suppresses creativity and creates stress that blocks out ambition of my own vision. I don’t know where i’ll be in ten years, don’t check for me, and neither do you. Worrying about your future is a product of society, when in reality we all end up at the same destination.

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inna (95) (@paintedbeings) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@tanniar, my best advice for this would be to research and/or contact a person who is successfully doing what you want to do and interview them, then weight in your risks and desires (pros and cons). I think its important to also take into account the reason they would disagree and apply it to current world. What is it that you wanted to do?

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Filip (2,818)M (@filipek) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@tanniar, We are all asking ourselves these questions, whether you are 19 or 60. Your family tells you you should know by now because that is how we are brought up and what society tells us.

Do not worry, you do not need to know anything by now. It can be difficult to find out what one is passionate about. I would suggest you to cross away the things you do not like and search in that direction. It is easier to cross away things that you do not like, leaving things you like, rather than searching for what you like.

To answer your question how do you take chances that scare you: you either do or you do not do it. There is not much philosophy or theory about it. There will always be worries or fears that will keep you from taking the decisions you want to take and eventually you are the only one being able to take that step. Be open minded to what life brings you and you will see beautiful things arising on moments and places you will not expect it.

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John (12) (@johnharris67) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@tanniar, I’m 45yrs old and I still don’t know what I want to do. I have had an amazing life (so far) mostly due to going with the flow, doing as I feel (not as others think I should feel) and refusing to be forced into a generic mould fashioned by the popular status quo.
You want my advice – do what makes you happy, and yes, that does mean taking chances and going against the grain. Try it, you may just find it’s invigorating and ultimately life-changing. It’s YOUR life after all. You arrived alone and you’ll leave alone, the bit in the middle is all about choices. @araeya09 hit the nail on the head pretty much.

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JBenjamin (0) (@thelahn) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@tanniar I’m of a similar age, and I’ve thought about this a lot recently. I have come to the realisation that throwing yourself in the deep end can be the only way to actually do something, because once you’ve started the fear subsides and your are actively thinking about whatever it is you are doing, rather than pondering the possible outcomes. Another thing I would add is that you are 1 person in such a big world, just about anything you do will mean nothing, whilst this sounds a bit negative, it is meant to be completely liberating as it means you can do whatever you want.

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daniel (24) (@dany) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@tanniar,
Everybody has a reason for every action that he/she takes.I found that a better understanding of the deeper reasons of why I take a certain action diminishes the fear of dissipointment,it puts my life in my own hands,gives a more clear perspective.I don’t have to relly on someoane else input of whether i’m doing the right thing or not.

You scared only of failure and your parents reaction if they don’t agree with your view.
You need more balance in your life,and that balance is build on your consciounce decision of living a full life by doing what you love.

You already know that failure is inevitable,that your parents will give you crap for not agreeing with them,you already know all this. What you are asking here is a step by step method through which you can bypass all this,but you also know that it doesn’t exist.

Work on understanding and accepting what you already know, through introspection.

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