how do you escape the past..
Im ashamed of some things that have happened in the past and how I have acted in certain situations. Im trying to change my life around and make improvements but I can’t stop thinking about it. I can’t help but think people will just keep judging me on things that have happened in the past instead of seeing how I have changed. help
@breakonthrough, I have been through the exact same thing. I always just stayed strong and trying to stay positive to show that i have changed. It takes time things like this dont just change over night. And if people are still judging you i would say fuck them because if they are failing to see the new “you” and see that you have changed for the better than that probably means that those people arent your real friends or people that are insecure about themselves because if they cant see the good in others how can they see the good in them selves?
@breakonthrough, The only way to let go of the past is by living in the present. Do not be concerned what others think of you for their perceptions are based off of their own consciousness level.
2 books that could benefit you are “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle and “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz.
Keep moving forward and creating the best for yourself in the moment…
thank you I think a big thing I struggle with is others perception of me and what they may think by what I do or say which I understand is ridiculous because that person has no right to judge or make assumptions but its hard to not let that get to me sometimes but I definitely agree by living in the present and focusing on what is happening it will help to let some of that go hopefully
@breakonthrough, me too. I’m also ashamed of how I have been in the past, things I said, things I did, ways I treated people, company I kept, views on life, time and other opportunities I wasted, and so on and so forth. I am ashamed of my past lack of character. But what’s done is done, you can’t change the past. However, you can learn from it. You can learn to not make the same mistakes twice. It’s all you can do, but it’s also all you need to do. Remember, who you are tomorrow is decided by the things you do today. To avoid regret, make choices today that you can live with tomorrow.
i’m in the same boat friend. i tried the whole staying positive thing but that didn’t work out. last night i decided to pull away from all the people i’ve wasted the past few years of my life with and if you’re afraid of how people will respond to the changes you’ve made maybe you should do the same.
Past… Oh the past! Everything you did in the past brought you to your present! Brought you to the gift you’re living right now. So, do not hate it that much, because you will hate your actual situation too and will never pass this barrier! Please, don’t do that, guilt is a feeling that does nothing for you! Don’t feel heavy for years uselessly! Life your life and make it worth while you can. Have answers to the questions you can answer NOW! What you made wrong is just more one obstacle that you will pass with good preparation.
If you acted wrong, you learned what is the good way to act in that situation!