How do you guys get over financial fears?

 tearoom (@tearoom)7 years ago

I’m from an immigrant family, so memories of poverty are hard to shake off. I frequently catch myself worried about how I’ll be able to help my aging parents and their health costs out or pay for expensive dental care (I have fake teeth that need to be redone every so often). I make alright to survive and have plenty of plans for improvement but find myself thinking about finances more than I’d like throughout the day. I’m afraid of losing my freedom – free time – for having to take on more days or more jobs as the ridiculous costs rise. I make art but it doesn’t make consistent income but its the only thing that keeps me sane all my life. If I start getting less than one day off during the week to continue to pursue artwork, I seriously freak out and get on gun ownership list at the pawn shop because I just can’t see myself living trapped with responsibility and filling someone else’s shoes in professions that are valued more than creativity. Advice on this?

June 3, 2014 at 8:54 pm
domu (0) (@domu) 6 years, 9 months ago ago

There are people I have met over the years who worry and there are people who don’t; it’s that simple. Some people are comfortable living by the seat of their pants and don’t give much thought to how they are going to achieve A, B and C. Even though A, B and C can be pretty major things to worry about. I am a worrier and it sounds like you are too. There isn’t much you can do about this in the short term other than the usual advice of healthy lifestyle, meditation etc. The best advice I would offer is to focus on your passions and make time for them, the other stuff will fall into place as time passes.

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Baxter (16) (@Baxter) 6 years, 9 months ago ago

Wow I’ve suffered affliction most my life and really done some work on myself to get ride of it . There were some hard times financial times in my childhood too. I could have a quarter million in the bank and still worry about having enough .One thing I do is to remind myself those times in my childhood are in the past is not my situation as a adult today . Actually the better I get about not worrying, the more money seems to come my way . Worrying just draws that which your scared about closer to you like a for filled prophecy. If your being overly tight with your funds often you miss out on opportunities to make more money ,but don’t because you fear to take the risk .
This is what works for me ,when I start to worry about money and the future .I put myself threw a series of self questioning . Am I broke today ,no !
Do I have enough money to pay my bills this month ,yes ! and so on ………… Then I say to myself stop it ,just stop worrying about something a few years down the road is nuts because the fact is I may not even live that long . Yes I’m very healthy and my parents lived till there mid 80’s but that does not mean I will . Just had a 34 yr old friend die 2 weeks ago of cancer . I assure you she’s not worried about money now nor was the last few year of her life and being sick . Just putting things in perspective.
Stop assuming you’ll live forever and enjoying today and just stop worrying .
Personally being older then many here I just got tired of doing it to myself . Your just plugging into old memory cells that not longer serve you today . You’ll battle these emotions probably the rest of your life. But I’ve learned to recognize them fast and rid myself of them within mins.

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ShinyBug (1) (@ShinyBug) 6 years, 9 months ago ago

Problems exist only in the future, right now there aren’t problems, only situations. Focus on now and your mind will stop talking slowly, so you will see the situation you are in as it really is and you will act in the best possible maner.
I’m sorry for my bad english, I hope I’ve been clear enough.

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Branson (0) (@Brannyydg) 6 years, 9 months ago ago

you’re a great person

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ShinyBug (1) (@ShinyBug) 6 years, 9 months ago ago

I’m not used to getting compliments, but thank you :)

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Anonymous (17) (@) 6 years, 9 months ago ago

I personally think of scarier things.. like a world without music. Holy shit. No. I hope you’re well because gun ownership is scarier.

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Ray (4) (@brainofmorbius) 6 years, 9 months ago ago

I think the fear of not enough money is another aspect of the fear of death. You can never fully get “over” it.

All you can do really is focus on the belief that the universe is an abundant place, and that if you want to you can spend your time doing things that make you far more money than you could ever spend…

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JonH (1,139)C (@IJesusChrist) 6 years, 9 months ago ago

Meditate… also realize the world is a large place. Being a bum on the beach for a year is not impossible. Just remember nothing is forcing you to do anything.

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josephm (772) (@josephm) 6 years, 9 months ago ago

this.

you dont even need to meditate though – we are FREE

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