Hey there, I know that you guys are some of the best people to ask this question to. I hope I picked the right sub section.
I am really struggling in my life, I am at my lowest point ever. I recently was diagnosed with severe depression. My life is messed up and I really need to look deep inside myself and do a lot of thinking.
Do you have any techniques or tips to help me get into the zone. At the moment I have been putting doing this deep thinking off and distracting myself through other activities like video games.
Also, I don’t want to take any drugs of any kind. I am open to them, but I am at home with my parents etc. and so it is not possible.
I think the golden key is that you’ve been putting it off and distracting instead – being depressed can make this things-to-inspect pile a lot bigger and more intimidating. Do small bits. Research some answers to what interests you the most, take baby steps to grasp more general subjects. Also look at people’s experiences with what you’re struggling with – this helps you grasp perspective. Inspected material will call for action, experience, and more inspecting. Things turn a corner and show you new directions. Prioritize in what you feel hurts and bothers you the most at the moment as first, and make that a habit. When overwhelmed, show yourself compassion – no need to be violent to yourself or cheat your future self out of progress and leaving the pit of unhappiness bit by bit by distracting into activities that make you forget yourself and your real situation. You’re putting off taking any action at all by looking for technique that will make it easier but nothing will be more profound than the feeling you get when you did something for yourself that you were scared to do, ask, or think about. Prepare your mind by ceasing avoiding via escape on a regular basis.
I don’t know what are your goals with ‘deep thinking’, but if it is self-improvement, I don’t think there is any way of doing it, it’s a path you need to create by yourself. Maybe you should try some meditation, there is plenty of articles here about it, give it a try, see how it works.
I sincerely hope you manage to go through this phase, keep in mind that this is your opportunity to grow. I had the same experience, I was once in the lowest point of my life, but after that, I just accepted it and I just grew up a lot, and I became a much better person (comparing to myself in other phases).
Merry Christmas :)
Agree with meditation! Its difficult to spend time with yourself and your mind when you feel the way you do about yourself when depressed (did that make sense?) but its a gigantic step forward to understanding your emotional triggers that make you pull the brakes and escape reality. I think excersising can be really powerful and act like a meditation because you’re shaking up the whole system and sometimes a the brain will roll the dice in a new way after a workout.
Also, keep in mind that a lot of things are dipped and colored through depression right now, and if you try too hard to commit or force yourself forward, expect a lot to change, etc – it will bite you in the ass because you’re more sensitive to failing or feeling like a failure/ incapable, turning around, giving up, or finding things pointless when depressed.
For example, alleviate this pressure by seeing yourself as someone who is ready for SOME introspection into an area of your life that will add the biggest (or more immediate, or more desired) change into your life with little effort on your part – and take some action in that department. If it takes lots of effort and time, see if you can just put all it on paper for starters.
there can be some options to kill Depression..and these options take time to work.i am going somehow there the same phase but these things will work ..
1 Join a Gym ( there u will meet new friends, work out will help u a lot, for the first few week u will feel bored, than results will be good…
2 make a Gf, a gf can be very beneficial, but good relationship, if a bad one u will get more depress..
3 have a Golden Retriever pet, they are very very loving dogs, they will love u so much, it will help and works for me..they are very beautiful both inside and outside.
4 take good and healthy diet.
5 don,t think too much, too much knowledge ,self awareness can also hurt u, don,t do too much introspection..especially when u are depress..
6 Do something creative ,listen to beautiful music, walk in fresh air, start to watch lot of movies, download them from kickass torrent, it will distract u a lot.
7 Play Video games brother as u mentioned, i play Tekken 3, i am a Tekken junkie, and when i play good , my brain reward me with feel good Neurotransmitters..
8 I also live with my parents and 10 pm is the last time to return home, they are strict, but i do experiment with Lsd and shrooms, doing that again on 1 Jan at Hill station, if u can do Magic mushrooms, they are very good for ending depression, they decrease activity in those areas responsible for depression..they also end obsessive thinking, now researchers are trying to make a pill out of shrooms to end depression..a good Psychedelic experience can be helpful in many ways, to be honest brother , i am very depress person, and one of the happiest moment of my life was my Lsd experience, and don,t be scare of bad trip stuff its non sense…finally its up to u, but a good Psychedelic experience can help u a lot, if not completely..love Acid and shrooms :) i understand your problem of being at home, but for 2 days for tripping u can go at your friend room or can go for travel, its your choice..
9 Share your pain and problems with your close friends ,your parents, or anyone who is closer to u, sister , gf, Dear it helps a lot, it release your emotional tension, many times we got so lonely we never share our pain , and never feel light, built so much tension…share it out, this is why even bad Psychologist do good therapy because the patient got somone to whom they can yell all there pain …
10 Make your will power strong and be determined, say to yourself I WILL FUCK THIS DEPRESSION, think like this daily and do your hobbies , take good diet, exercise, slowly slowly depression will go, there is no wonder cure , Psychologists will also advice u many things, but IN THE END ITS YOU WHO HAD TO WORK ON Yourself to FUCK DEPRESSION and i am sure u will do that Dear….
I think you should stay away from drugs. They can help you under supervision but if you just do it with your “condition” then you might even make it worse or even make you go suicidal.
I know this is hard to comprehend but all depression is just of the mind. If you don’t strongly* believe in depression then it won’t affect you. It is basically a nocebo effect. It is your choice* to be depressed. It is really hard to find good doctors, most doctors are honestly book worm retards. Don’t listen to them if they “diagnose” you with something. If you honestly believe* in getting better, then you will. People underestimate the power of belief. It is super hard to believe in something that your mind doesn’t want to but that’s the cost of the benefit.
As to help you: try meditating. It will align your chakras which will eventually get you back to a top-notch stage. Also try lucid dreaming. There are actually really good articles on this site to get started. Just search “lucid dreaming” on HE. If you have deeper questions about this “belief” thing, just message me. I know it sounds absurd just hearing about it but it is truly amazing once you know how to accomplish it.
Definitely consider getting your testosterone levels checked. My levels were very low for a long time and were a cause of my depression, anxiety, poor mood, poor appetite, brain fog, lack of motivation, lack of desire, and a lack of just about everything that makes living enjoyable.
But if you aren’t already working out, I implore you to do so. You have to weight train, use heavy weights (follow a 5×5 program) and you’ll increase your testosterone levels naturally.
And as for the drugs, I agree do not take any. I went to a psychiatrist and they prescribed my Wellbutrin but all that would have done would have been masking my underlying issue with androgen deficiency.
“It takes more courage to examine the dark corners of your own soul than it does for a soldier to fight on a battlefield”- WB Yeats. No doubt that it takes courage to examine your life, so my only advise is not to get discouraged. This type of meditation is something people rarely do despite how important it is. Keep questioning and examining yourself, and you will be better than most people who sleepwalk through life.