“It takes courage to love, but pain through love is the purifying fire which those who love generously know. We all know people who are so much afraid of pain that they shut themselves up like clams in a shell and, giving out nothing, receive nothing and therefore shrink until life is a mere living death.”
— Eleanor Roosevelt
You need to be brave to fall in love and be loved, however, if you do that you will find a great satisfaction and happiness. However, the majority are cowards and they prefer to pretend with a wrong person than work a bit more to find a right one.
I understand it too well. I think a large part of me is in the category of being shut up like a clam.
Love is work, love is dedication, love is by nature, painstakingly generous. Those who “love” or operate from a place of “love” are altruistic and good natured and idealistic, which many people see as a weakness and something to take advantage of at worst, or as something awkward and naive at best. Those who “love” look after others always, they see the value in all human life as paramount. Most people however, are not this way. This may be quite disappointing to people who operate from a “loving” standpoint, because they are willing to go that extra mile when most aren’t, it’s easy to see their efforts as a waste. (although it is actually courageous and amazing) What people do in the love standpoint is often in service of a high ideal and intense human connectedness.
But in a world where many people operate on a survivalist or materialistic standpoint, and often cannot be reached by the love standpoint. This love approach to the world or humanity is not something to broadcast.
Love is the most powerful force in the universe. Being in love is the most beautiful feeling which can’t be expressed in words. But loving someone doesn’t means that the person will always stay with us. Nothing is permanent , life at each moment is changing. To love someone , lot of courage is required . we need courage to completely accept someone’s flaw’s and still love them for who they are. when that person is not with us , courage is needed to feel that pain but if we genuinely love that person then amidst that pain also we will feel joy of loving that person.Those people are very unfortunate who never get courage to love someone.
There is a type of love which is only fleeting, and there is a type of love with “respect”; allowing for limits, boundaries, and loses. It does take courage to love like that (with respect), and most will not …they will have a fleeting love that leads to nowhere but an empty death.
While i agree that love is the greatest feeling there is, i personally think that If someone isnt afraid of the pain it brings (and it always does), he/she hasnt trully experience or have a grasp of what real love is.
When i say real love, i mean both romantic and unromantic. I have been in romantic one, but as a father, i can refer to unromantic one on this as most of the people can relate.
I wont trade with anything in the world my experiences with my 3year old son. But with such great and pure love, comes great concerns and worries that i wouldnt have for any other person. Sometimes i just stare at him wondering what would life be to him if i just disapear from his existance (or vice versa). Or simply if he one day get home from school and find me and his mom absent, what will he do. Just thinking of things like this and some other silly imaginations brings so much pain to my heart that i one day came to a very weird conclusion. That, now i know how deep is the feeling of genuine love for another being is, if presented with second chance, i wont opt to engage myself in it.
I have no shame admiting that i might be a coward for that, but since am already in the game, having that feeling makes me better at playing it (i guess) and prepare myself for inevitable ending.
There is a liberating beauty in love, but unfortunately there is a harsh pain that can accompany that. I’ve never encountered this quote, but I’ve referred to Bob Marley’s which is very similar to me. He said: “The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.” Or something along those lines. That’s the reality of it. You should seek love. It’s allows for a relative perfection in one’s life. However, do not expect that road, as with any in life, to be without bumps.