I think that we would all like to consider ourselves to be nonjudgmental people but I feel that we all judge others to some extent. So what do you secretly judge people for?
I know personally, I never judge others based on natural appearance but I do judge others sometimes for the way that they present themselves. If someone acts ignorant or if they pose themselves to be a member of a group that I feel is disrespectful or rude I typically have that voice that runs through the back of my head no matter how hard I try to be accepting.
Alright, so whether or not we like to admit it, people are always slightly judgemental. A lot of people say that they don’t like to judge, and some people even say that they don’t do it, but human beings are set up that way, unfortunately. I, personally, try not to judge people but it’s hard not to. Let me tell you guys that judging does not only apply to outward appearence. I do not judge a person on their physical features but instead, their appearance on the inside.
I’m going to confess here that sometimes I can be a little prejudice. I have a flaw of thinking that I’m good at reading people and sometimes I turn out to be an ignorant fool. So I guess my answer to your question is yes and no.
That probably made absolutely no sense. I’m sorry. :/ But I hope I got my point across to you lovely people! =)
At first, I am always somewhat judgmental.. whether its the way they look, the sound of their voice, their attitude ect I always make a light assumption on whether or not I could possibly be compatible with this person… then I SNAP THE RUBBER BAND THAT I WEAR ON MY WRIST (thanks to the 50 life secrets and tips jordan!) and give them a chance… and that chance gives me the opportunity to look deeper… Most of all the people that I meet seem to be arrogant, cocky aka my shit dont stink type… The kind that talk more than listen (no one on HE of course cause we’re all level headed, open-minded, down-to-earth people and the bees knees of course) so in a sense when i meet someone I am judmental on how compatible I could be with them… I think stereotypes fall into this too… Its hard for us as humans to not be judgmental or stereotypical, but I find that society has sculpted most people to operate this way….
I really like all of the replies to this so far. At least we are honest about it.
Matt, I feel you. :)
I am often asked about my ethnicity by random strangers, and I always see that they treat me accordingly to how they feel about what ethnicity THEY think I am before they get the answer.
Well I have to say I am really enjoying reading these replies so far. I def feel what everyone is saying. Like everyone else I as well try my hardest not to judge anyone by appearance or by the first things that come out of someones mouth. I usualy give them the benefit of the doubt first and try not to judge them too early but like Alex said above, once they say something “fucktarded” is when I make my judgement on them lol.
I love how honest everyone is about all the topics :)
I’m judgmental of teenagers. You know the ones, those skinny little 14-year-olds hanging around the party where no one is under 22 hoping to sneek a few hits or score some free booze, those eye-linerd, skater-shoed, over-sized hoodied hooligans!!!!! Also I judge girls who talk like the Kardashians. Yeah, yeah, they probably aren’t as empty-headed as they make themselves appear, but you know what? They are annoying and about as deep as a puddle!!! But those are easy and relatively uncontroversial targets. I prefer to keep my darkest, innermost judgements, well…innermost. I will say this: I judge people most unfairly by their success. If someone is more successful than me in any area, socially, sexually, in the workplace, whatever, I tend to idolize them. Later, of course, I realize they are not gods gracing me with their presence, and some of them turn out to be quite shitty. And if someone is less successful than me, I tend to think less of them. Some of them still turn out to be shitty, some of them completely surprise me. And that’s about as honest as it gets folks!
I have to agree with you…I am judgmental of teen girls who dress far older than they are. Ya know, the ones roaming in pairs or threes, always with clothes more fitting for Lady Gaga or one of Hef’s girls than a 15 yr old…. I instantly view them as vapid and shallow.
I hate to say it, well not really, but yeah, I’m judgmental. Everyone is. I’m sorry, but if you come up to me and the first conversation we have makes me feel like I’m talking to a wall, I’m going to think you’re dumb. That doesn’t mean you aren’t nice or anything, but you’re still dumb. Things like that.
We aren’t judgmental because we want to be. We’re judgmental because of other people who makes us judgmental.
I’m judgmental to an extent. I immediately notice the obvious about physical appearances, but I look past that. I observe how that person treats others, as well as how they present themselves. I give everyone a chance at a friendship unless I notice immediately that they treat others terribly.
I think we are all subconsciously judgmental to an extent. Often though our immediate judgement or preconceptions of other people can be very far off from the truth, it’s important to remain open minded.. Perhaps we should aspire to look upon others without the compulsive judgments and labels of the mind.
I’m incredibly judgemental, and I hate it! I really try noy to be judgemental, but it just pops into my head when I see someone I don’t like. I tend to judge a book by its cover, and even more when they have, what I consider innappropiate behavior (like the “fucktarded” reffered before). I’m known in my circle as “the one who has no hair in her tongue” (spanish meaning i always say the things I think straight foward without caring for the other person), but of course there are many people who don’t like that,and then I feel horrible for not having more touch, and being a bit more delicate. It an impulse! :s
Well, I always try to love everyone for who they are, but I am certainly no saint when it comes to judging people. Firstly, I am judgmental of people that have greasy hair. I’m not talking about you haven’t washed your hair for a day or two greasy, people who look like they went swimming in a deep fryer greasy. Is that so bad though? I just like to be clean.
Great topic. I think are all judgmental, some more than others, but all in some way or another. I agree with you luly, I get very frustrated with myself about how judgmental I can be, and it feels somewhat like hardwired responses now. I mean that, say I’m walking down the street and I see someone who is fat or a redneck or has/is something else that triggers that response in me, I immediately judge them.
I don’t want to be that person. I am wondering if any kind of judgmental attitude is useful at all. Maybe its a defense mechanism from generations of collective karma. I don’t know.
What I do know is, in times where I have been in more of relaxed and happy and have been meditating more, I don’t get those responses as much.
Maybe as we humans evolve more spiritually we won’t judge as much and we will get closer to a world with out violence. meditation is the only way forward in my opinion.
I am the most judgemental person I know. By judging, I know and predict, by not judging and feeling bad about judging, I cannot know, understand and feel, so I could help people, buried in false hopes and unneeded compassion.
I’m pretty judgmental, I’ve just started to learn to recognize when I’m judging someone and calling it what it is. It’s a double edged sword, because my intuitive judgment has kept me out of trouble sometimes, but it’s gotten me into trouble more.