Hey this is my first post here and I’m hoping someone can help me out.
I’m a musician and want to do that full time for the rest of my life and I know I have to work my ass off until I achieve that. Failure isn’t an option for me really, I want this so much.
<h6 style=”font-family: Proxima, ‘Helvetica Neue’, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif;”>The thing is I have always suffered from a lack of motivation and get too comfortable often with doing unproductive things. Have a bad habit of procrastination too. This extends to all areas of my life, work, wanting to learn photography, acting on ideas of mine, any personal development really. I always have bursts of motivation but can never act on them, or retain the motivation.</h6><h6>One of my problems is that I don’t know how much time I should be committing to my goals. Like ideally it should be all my time but is that even possible, like I feel like I’d go crazy. Is it ok to have leisure time and if so how much? I always feel guilty when I’m doing anything other than music. </h6><h6>I need to change, I’m sick of these bad habits.</h6><h6>Thanks!</h6><h6>
“One of my problems is that I don’t know how much time I should be committing to my goals. Like ideally it should be all my time but is that even possible, like I feel like I’d go crazy.”
I definitely don’t think you should aim to commit all free time to the pursuit of your goals. That’s a recipe for burnout. It kind of seems like you’re maybe trying to focus on too many things at once (there’s a good post on Raptitude about this). Building a music career and learning photography are both really large tasks, for example. Rather than trying to focus on numerous things at once, just choose the most important thing and make that a priority for the next year. You don’t necessarily have to set rigid goals for improvement, but just try to spend at least a few hours per week working on that particular thing.
If music is the thing you want most to focus on, I’d say focus on that until you start to gain some traction (or until you determine that it’s actually not the right direction for you). The Needledrop actually has a great video about how to get your music out there as an independent musician: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJOg8o3iqzY
Best of luck, man.
Hey!! Comminting is a long time,slow process.I would suggest you to find habits(which make you feel good)stick to them,and then gradually start adding other things, this will eradicate the problem completely and you will enjoy making music too. Hope it is of some help , looking forward to your music .Peace !! :)
I also have the same problem you with time magment twards my goals. But what I try to do is find an evan amount of time my social goals and academic. But it it is also the way you prsendt your self twards other people. if you read:there are wolves in us all is states the way you presdint your self is the way people will reamber you.
You sound like me in my teens, i wanted to be a musician so bad i ended up cutting everything else out of my life and studied/made music for 6 years straight. By the time is started entering the studio and getting ready for release i realized this was no longer my passion nor something i wanted to do. I got to carried away and ended up losing my creativity and the main purpose of music! enjoyment and expression. All i will say is that your life will usually encompass far more things than just a narrow path.
-The easiest thing to do is follow your highest joy in every given moment, you seriously cant go wrong applying this concept to your life. If you feel like working on music, do it, if you feel like exercising or going out, do it!
Nothings set in stone or clear cut!
Make sure you make realistic expectations about your practice schedule. I have this book called songwriters on songwriting. I really like David Byrnes interview. I remember he said “you still have to wait on inspiration but unless you’re waiting at the bus stop the bus won’t come.” This quote helps me from getting discouraged when I feel uninspired. It’s not in vain! Just gotta wait on that bus. And practice!
Because you want to achieve the goal of being a musician for a living, you’ll use your present moment as a means of achieving a better future.
Because failure isn’t a possibility for you, you’ll be afraid, and you won’t truly commit. Everyone fails. If you love music, it won’t matter if you “fail” in terms of being seen as a success or not making money.
Do it for the enjoyment and pleasure it brings you, not for the rewards. If you do it for the rewards, you’ll be afraid of things like failing. Failure doesn’t exist when you make music for the sake of making music. It only exists when you make music for the sake of becoming successful. And paradoxically, people who are motivated by that rarely become successful. And if they do, they do so by selling out.
The most successful people didn’t try to become successful. They stumbled into it as a byproduct of doing what they enjoy. Imagine if Einstein had to use will power and motivation to do what he did? Imagine if he had to force himself not to procrastinate. The reason people procrastinate is usually because they don’t want to do what they know they’re “supposed to” do. Did you have to procrastinate in order to not play outside as a little kid? Imagine if when you were a kid, you only played outside because it would make you better at skills that would lead to success in the future. You played for the sake of playing. Einstein did what he did for the pure enjoyment and play involved. Genius comes through play, not through hard work and effort and will-power. It’s a cultural myth that success comes through struggle and hard work and dull slogging along. I don’t understand why people think it has to be so hard.