How To Run Away

TheAfroVegabond (@TheAfroVegabond) 8 years, 12 months ago

I am 17 years olf and me and my soulmate are going to run away…. We are seniors in high school who belive there is more to life than going to college and getting a good career. we want to travel the world, meet amazing people and life an awesome life of freedom. We both have pretty good lives, and we are just looking for something more. Right now we have about 1500 dollars and a car. We live in waukee iowa and we aren’t sure where we wanna go, preferably some place warm cheap and by the beach. I am looking for some advice as what to bring with us, where we could possibly go, where to sleep, how to earn money, pretty much anything will help!

October 9, 2013 at 6:35 am
Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond, hey, you only live 2 hours from me! :) Do you have work experience of any kind? Are you going to finish high school before leaving?

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Stfrancis (110) (@Stfrancis) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

While I encourage the drives which motivate this, I don’t support your decision. Life is not a smooth as it seems planning from your bed room, and it isn’t easy living on your own away from parents and role models. Also you will be abandoning the people who love you in this world causing them intense suffering that I guarantee you have not really comprehended. I would think your decision through more.

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Stfrancis (110) (@Stfrancis) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

Also if you’re going to skip college, at least earn your high school diploma. If you don’t, you will regret it for the rest of your life.

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Zachrie (28) (@Zachrie) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

Ah the youth… don’t we all want to do this. It sounds so wonderful and easy.

Okay, I don’t wanna be on the negative here but geez. I dont know what answers youre expecting but you need to realise these questions youre asking are very hard for other people than yourself to answer. You can go anywhere. You can do anything. It’s not like there is a general place for “people on the run” to make a living.

You need food. You need water. You need shelter. You need an income. Bla bla. These things exist everywhere. But its YOU who have to put in the effort. What can you bring to the table? What skills do you have?

Its all up to you.

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Luigi (1,453) (@luigiblue) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

I don’t know who wrote this but it seems to fit your situation and maybe it’ll help motivate you a bit.

“Did you know, you can quit your job, you can leave university? You aren’t legally required to have a degree, it’s a social pressure and expectation, not the law, and no one is holding a gun to your head. You can sell your house, you can give up your apartment, you can even sell your vehicle, and your things that are mostly unnecessary. You can see the world on a minimum wage salary, despite the persisting myth, you do not need a high paying job. You can leave your friends (if they’re true friends they’ll forgive you, and you’ll still be friends) and make new ones on the road. You can leave your family. You can depart from your hometown, your country, your culture, and everything you know. You can sacrifice. You can give up your $5.00 a cup morning coffee, you can give up air conditioning, frequent consumption of new products. You can give up eating out at restaurants and prepare affordable meals at home, and eat the leftovers too, instead of throwing them away. You can give up cable TV, Internet even. This list is endless. You can sacrifice climbing up in the hierarchy of careers. You can buck tradition and others’ expectations of you. You can triumph over your fears, by conquering your mind. You can take risks. And most of all, you can travel. You just don’t want it enough. You want a degree or a well-paying job or to stay in your comfort zone more. This is fine, if it’s what your heart desires most, but please don’t envy me and tell me you can’t travel. You’re not in a famine, in a desert, in a third world country, with five malnourished children to feed. You probably live in a first world country. You have a roof over your head, and food on your plate. You probably own luxuries like a cellphone and a computer. You can afford the $3.00 a night guest houses of India, the $0.10 fresh baked breakfasts of Morocco, because if you can afford to live in a first world country, you can certainly afford to travel in third world countries, you can probably even afford to travel in a first world country. So please say to me, “I want to travel, but other things are more important to me and I’m putting them first”, not, “I’m dying to travel, but I can’t”, because I have yet to have someone say they can’t, who truly can’t. You can, however, only live once, and for me, the enrichment of the soul that comes from seeing the world is worth more than a degree that could bring me in a bigger paycheck, or material wealth, or pleasing society. Of course, you must choose for yourself, follow your heart’s truest desires, but know that you can travel, you’re only making excuses for why you can’t. And if it makes any difference, I have never met anyone who has quit their job, left school, given up their life at home, to see the world, and regretted it. None. Only people who have grown old and regretted never traveling, who have regretted focusing too much on money and superficial success, who have realized too late that there is so much more to living than this.”

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TheAfroVegabond (0) (@TheAfroVegabond) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

I don’t plan on graduating from high school… just doesn’t seem worth it. I’ve never had a job, my girl has been a waitress thats all. i know i’ll be hurting the people that love me, but i believe that everybody is responsible for their own feelings. i was adopted at the age of five by my aunt and uncle, i know they love me, but we’ve never had a great ralationship. my skills… well im pretty much good at everything i do, im smart, im athletic, but not much real world experience, but im a really good dancer!

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Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond, I do highly recommend that you graduate from high school first, and I think pretty much everyone here will agree with that. It’s not impossible or even difficult to get a job without a college degree, but no high school degree will make things significantly more difficult for you. If this plan is really worth it, it’s worth waiting a little longer. Just finish your school and maybe pick up a couple days of work somewhere in the mean time so you have some experience to bring with you wherever you go.

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TheAfroVegabond (0) (@TheAfroVegabond) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

@luigiblue, That is exactly how i feel about everything! i dont wanna regret my life, and i probably dont realize how hard it will be to run away, but i think i need to struggle a little bit. I just feel trapped by society and held back from being who i truly am

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TheAfroVegabond (0) (@TheAfroVegabond) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

@tangledupinplaid21, ive thought about this alot, an it seems like a pretty “safe” plan. the reason i wanna do it now is because i’ve been waiting my whole life for things. waiting to graduate elementry, waiting for highschool, waiting for college, waiting for summer break, waiting for the weekend, just constantly waiting and not living. and i think i can gain experience on the road.

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Tatler (43) (@tatler) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

Make sure you have some practical skills that could land you a job before setting off @theafrovegabond,

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Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond, It’s awesome that you are conscious of that, but speaking as someone who moved out of my parents’ place at an early age and has experienced many different living styles, your future self will thank you if you get your diploma.

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Filip (2,818)M (@filipek) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond, I would advise you to listen to @stfrancis, wise words. Really really take it into good consideration whether you want to drop out of high school.

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savmot (135) (@savmot) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

You don’t need to run away. Finish high school, because if eventually you decide you do want a job, and a house (You may never decide this, but right now you don’t know what you might want in the future) you will be forever playing catch up – Right now, I’m doing the degree that everyone I went to school with did 12 years ago.

So, finish high school, despite how much bullshit it is, get a job or find some legal way to make as much money as you can, work your ass off, save as much as you can, then just decide where you want to go, what you want to do and do it.

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Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond, Also, if you’re not 18 yet you could legally forced to return home if found. So that is something to consider as well.

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Nicole (0) (@bethechange) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

couchsurfing.com, wwoof.com, hostels, hostellinginternational.com… some of the things that have made travels significantly more enjoyable and less stressful. I would suggest graduating high school before you leave. It is only one more year of the full life you have ahead of you. But when making a huge decision in my life, I set aside time to openly ask in meditation and wait to receive an answer. If I am completely open and honest, I will know, in my heart, what is the next step.

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Anonymous (127) (@) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond, Why the dichotomy between owning the life you have, and living the life you want?

You can do EVERYTHING you want WITHOUT running away. There is INDEED more to life than going to college and getting a good career. (Sidenote: wouldn’t the obtainment of a “good” career be a desirable thing?) You can travel the world WITHOUT running away to do so. You can meet AMAZING people WITHOUT running away to do so. You can live as freely as you wish WITHOUT running away to do so.

You’ve got to fight the romanticized idea of running away; it’s most likely not going to be worth it.

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TheAfroVegabond (0) (@TheAfroVegabond) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

@optimystic, i kinda see what your saying and i think that you make a really good point. and i know that running away isnt going to change anything, and that i have to change myself first, but its just that i dont want to do all of those things here or in high school.

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Psychonaut (133) (@psychonaut) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

@, WHy has anonymous not yet been removed from this site?

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TheAfroVegabond (0) (@TheAfroVegabond) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

@stfrancis, to francis and everyone else saying i should finish highschool, i was just wondering how things will be easier if i have a diploma as opposed to not? i know there will be more job opportunities and what not, but what if i dont care about getting a job, an instead i want to travel my whole life working odd jobs where ever i can to get enough money to get to my next destination? also, i have about 40,000 dollars in the bank that my mom left me when she died that i get when i turn 18

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TheAfroVegabond (0) (@TheAfroVegabond) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

@bethechange, thanks for the websites, would using the couchsurfing one be safe? and thats a good idea, i’ll meditate on it, how exactly should i go about that anyway?

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Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

@psychonaut, I think when someone gets banned or deletes their account, it automatically makes their name say “Anonymous”.

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Anonymous (127) (@) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond, How about you move somewhere else for a couple of months or a year, see how you like (or don’t like) it, and then make another decision then, having had your feet dampened by the experience(s)?

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TheAfroVegabond (0) (@TheAfroVegabond) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

@optimystic, since im only 17 and still live with my parents, wouldn’t that still be considered running away?

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hi ellen (4) (@equalsd) 8 years, 12 months ago ago

It seems like getting odd jobs will be difficult in this economy. Graduating highschool will just make it easier. You’ll seem far more responsible to prospective employers.
Either way I’d make sure you have some experience and maybe references in the food industry. Small businesses are more likely to take your help for a day or 2 and just pay you in cash.

but at least your gf does that and you have 40 grand. so I’m sure you guys could stretch that for a couple years. sounds amazing and good luck

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