How To Run Away

TheAfroVegabond (@TheAfroVegabond) 8 years, 7 months ago

I am 17 years olf and me and my soulmate are going to run away…. We are seniors in high school who belive there is more to life than going to college and getting a good career. we want to travel the world, meet amazing people and life an awesome life of freedom. We both have pretty good lives, and we are just looking for something more. Right now we have about 1500 dollars and a car. We live in waukee iowa and we aren’t sure where we wanna go, preferably some place warm cheap and by the beach. I am looking for some advice as what to bring with us, where we could possibly go, where to sleep, how to earn money, pretty much anything will help!

October 9, 2013 at 6:35 am
TheSkaFish (962)M (@theskafish) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond, not to be a downer or anything, but you should realize that you will likely be poor for a long while choosing this lifestyle. It will most likely be frustrating far more often than fun. Plus, you need to consider your health…you say you want to live near a beach, but you have to make sure you have adequate shelter from the sun. And you have to make sure you stay hydrated.

I would also strongly recommend finishing high school. I can definitely understand why people say college is overrated, having gone through it myself and feeling like i haven’t really learned much of anything. But you said you’re already a senior…you’ve put this much into it already, I’d at least tough it out for these last 8 months. And while you do, take more time to ponder your decision, or if you are set on this, then take more time to prepare, learn survival skills, self-defense, trade-able skills, and so on.

I really don’t think this is a good idea though…..it may seem like it from the outside, but I believe that once you’re on your own, you’ll be working a LOT more than having fun. Instead of a regular 9-5, mere survival will be your 9-5. Don’t you think you will get bored of that? Being forced out of necessity to do the same things over and over? If not school, then on the road. Different details, same concept – long days spent doing necessities, little free time to actually do what you want.

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savmot (135) (@savmot) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond, ‘ but what if i dont care about getting a job’

What you don’t care about now, you might care about very much in the future. So for that sake it won’t harm you, or take you very far off your desired path just to get it done with so it’s there just in case you ever need it.

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Anonymous (14) (@) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond,

You’ve only lived for approximately 1/7th of the time you might be expected to be here. I would put more thought into the rest of your life before jumping in.

Finish High School. It’s the best thing you can do for yourself right now, and if you don’t… it will certainly come back to haunt you at some time or another.

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x (75) (@ParalyticDreams) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

Look man I understand why you dont want to finish Highschool. Im in the same position you are right now and I go every single day, psychoanalyze the people around me, see their fake personalities and it drives me insane. I learn things that are just common logic and that aren’t actually mentally pushing me. But I am trying to take this as a blessing in a way. You have to learn to just let go and tough at the difficult situations. Just let life roll on by and before you know it, the year will be over.

I would highly recommend finishing highschool. The first quarter is already almost over and the rest is going to fly by. Notice how everyone older than me and you on this thread are telling you to finish Highschool. It is because they have had the exact same thoughts you are having right now. But getting a job without a highschool diploma is extremely difficult. ESPECIALLY if you dont have any working experience as it is.

My advice would be to just finish these last 7 months, get a job in the meantime, save up even more money than you already have, and then you can go as soon as that last class is over.

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Stfrancis (110) (@Stfrancis) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond First of all, earning your high school diploma is at least one socially recognizable accomplishment that even odd job providers will appreciate and something you can take personal pride in. Second, I don’t think you should disregard education so easily. Even if traditional public and higher education don’t seem to be your calling, being an educated person is not only supremely useful in life, it is also supremely enjoyable and helps you to appreciate the details and circumstances you will encounter especially if you plan to travel a lot. You say you don’t care about getting a job, but believe it or not you will. You don’t have to be an office slave or some uptight corporate lawyer, an occupation can be an extremely fulfilling part of life especially if you find something you’re passionate about and good at. This includes manual labor, or some sort of trade skill like carpentry, farming, masonry, or electronics. 40,000 may sound like a lot now, but that kind of money, between two people who are traveling on a regular basis will last you about 3-4 years max. Then what?

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who (557) (@season) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond, I know what tip you’re on but like, this country fucking sucks. It’s really wealthy, but nobody gives people jobs like in the movies, no place is way cooler like in the movies, everything is homogenizing. Spirituality, uniqueness, thoughts and male rambunxiousness are all shit next to raw value generation. I sorta tried what you are thinking, and the problem is your girl will leave you eventually if you don’t have money, even if she thinks money is evil, because women hate poor dudes. Try being at the head of the pack rather than taking off on your own. Think about the idea of making a new map when we have Google Earth. Think about who is cooler, the smartest dude on here answering questions, or Jordan. Movies are made to distract you from the fact that if you just got a job and worked your ass off you could go on vaca to anywhere in the world you wanted to, as many times as you had the cash for. There really is nowhere to go anymore because everyone has facebook. Everyone has to eat. You are on camera in your own backyard.

Three years ago I would have shot myself in the head for typing that, so I could be wrong. And things are different when you’re 17 rather than 22. Come to Mass and throw things through people’s windows or spraypaint your name everywhere. Idk man get all the crazy out as early as possible when people accept you for being different.

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inna (95) (@paintedbeings) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond,
Dropping high school potentially closes your opportunity to further your education should you find something you’re really interested in and want to pursue in the future.
And don’t forget that riding off a lump of money and odd jobs isn’t the best way to learn about surviving in the real world long-term – its about applying yourself directly to it. What you’re about to do sounds like a great way to get away and learn about yourself – but its only one of the many ways, and not a phase to get permanently stuck in.
Also, 40k seems like a lot of money, but also could be blown in few years on random expenses instead of being INVESTED into something you’d enjoy and benefit from. Just be weary of that because your view of value of money may change as time goes by.

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Andrea Zapiain (99)C (@AndreaZapiain) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

I know that you truly believe this is what you want, but you don’t. I know I’m no one to say such things, but I’m sure of this. You don’t have to run away to learn from yourself, and if you want to travel there are other ways. Why not finish high school and then take a year off? That way, you’ll have your high school diploma and you won’t hurt the people who love you, because they will know of your plans. I understand what this great expectations must feel like, because I am not much older than you are. Please, please, from someone who cares, don’t do this. Think things through, you’ll realize that it’s not worth it to hurt the people who love you. Give yourself time to analyze things. If you need anything, contact me.

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who (557) (@season) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond, Yo sorry for lying to you. I just took a trip to Boston and now am back in the woods and my human brain says:

Do whatever you want. That is why you want to do it. Never forget this.

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Universaldrifter (8) (@universaldrifter) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

Plan to leave as soon as you graduate high school. Gives you more time to plan and prepare. Look into places and keep saving your money. Maybe even travel on the weekends and check a few places out, might find one that works?… But go for it sounds like even in the worst case scenario which is having to come back. Betcha it beats any prior experiences

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TheAfroVegabond (0) (@TheAfroVegabond) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@equalsd, @theskafish, @savmot, @alruble, @paralyticdreams, @stfrancis, @season, @paintedbeings, @universaldrifter, @andreazapiain, sorry for the late response guys, but ive made my decision, at first i decided to try waiting till graduation, but one thing led to another and now me and my soulmate are headed for denver! I’d still appreciate any advice that you guys have for us, thanks! :)

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Alex (141)M (@alexishungry) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond, Whether you like it or not, getting a high school diploma is really important if you want to get a job at all. It will be significantly harder, (A LOT HARDER) to get one without. You’re less than a year away anyway, finish high school. Trust me and everyone else telling you you should.

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iXfactor (115) (@Xtine) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond, the best advice has been said…it’s basically november, wait it out 7ish months and graduate. the worst is over, enjoy this last bit of 12th grade bc it is the last time you will ever feel attached to this matrix we live in (i know the goal is to escape it, but after a while of hustlin’ you begin to miss the comfortable and safe lifestyle…im telling you from experience). you and your soulmate will not be well-received by anyone– hs dropouts are more than social stigma,its a developmental part of life that if is skipped out on will forever cheat you of a piece of life. you are free to be who want to be, but a hs dropout stains your identity forever.

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The Adventurer (8) (@mmcteague) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@theafrovegabond, finish high school man, if you know this girl is your soul mate then one day you are going to want to have a family with her and one day you’re going to have to support that family and it’s going to be awesome

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jollypunk (1) (@jollypunk) 8 years, 6 months ago ago

@TheAfroVegabond .. I ran away. Think about it a little more. You cause your family a lot of anxiety, stress, and emotional torture. When you run away, you are not the only one involved, as much as you would love to think so. You and your love have your whole lives together to do what you wish. If you have a plan, I think that’s fantastic. If you know how to keep yourself alive without a job and school – FUCKING KUDOS! Because not many people can.. But, you have to think about the people you’re leaving in the dark. It’s not fair! You could do an exchange program with your boyfriend. It’s where you go to another country for a year of school. You could plan it so you both go to the same place. I moved country on my own at 16. For my love. It thought me a lot, and I regret nothing. But looking back on it, I wish i had thought about it a little more. Because time gives you perspective, and although love is beautiful, is can be bittersweet too.. it can block your ability to see objectively. Just be aware, and think of things from an objective point of view, without the existence of your own ego or anyone elses. If you decide to runaway, I wish you lots of luck. :)

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Lionheart (15) (@TigerRush) 8 years, 6 months ago ago

YO @theafrovegabond,
Let us know what happens

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Kris (328) (@kjbaran) 8 years, 6 months ago ago

Follow your bliss! Take note though that a smart man may learn from his mistakes, a wise man learns from the mistakes of others.

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TheAfroVegabond (0) (@TheAfroVegabond) 7 years, 11 months ago ago

Wellz…. if anybody cares, me and my lover went to colorado, planned on staying for like ever but ended up getting caught by the cops in like 5 days, because we’re awesome. We both ended up graduating highschool, and it feels pretty average, as expected. And now im pretty much just chillen :)

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stormcloudmafia (19) (@redriffle) 7 years, 11 months ago ago

my suggestion, is to invest yur 1500 dollars towards bigger, greater, and many more adventures for the souls of mates.. Not everything is a rush for now. You are correct, there is much more in life than college and “careers”… my suggestions however though… is perhaps to consider the options of spending not the full amount of time college requires, but a good and great amount of time learning and researching the stock market. the skill of not so much investing, but trading. learning the means and ways of the market will come with great insight and knowledge about whats going on around us in life. being aware of the technologies, and plans the future is creating and producing today, can offer means of a “career” that of a wallstreet wolf. where perhaps just a week of sitting down with what you learn can come back in return with the means and funds needed to continue and expand this concept of a greater, or more importance for life, to be lived threw all the possible amazing experiences earth and earths “people” have to offer. I would see this as a great possible place to take the experience with ones soulmate, as a great starting or stepping stone, in realizing proper and logical progress in expanding ones knowledge with the means to provide the needs needed to provide the desired and somewhat needed way of life for love to expand with out the drama or stress of failing to plan how to create this vision of life you two share.. otherwise… at somepoint, will either of you, if not both, end up having to settle of a “career” or job not gratifying as a means to be living life.. let say if you find your future to hold childeren? 1500 bucks aint gunna provide much shelter, food, and structure the seed or child of love can breed.. plan plan plan. and stick to the plan untill youve reached the plans ended where no plan is needed to live. planing not to plan, is planing to fail. i wish you the best of luck….p.s if want any wallstreet pointers, just ask and i cant offer a list of possible companies as means with options weather dat trade, sort or long term.

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