How to stop crying & get myself together.

Hitomi (@kidvisions) 10 years, 1 month ago

We haven’t seen each other for a while now, my little sister got ill and I had to look after her.
Last night we had a fight and he was ignoring me trying to avoid argument and told me that it would be better if we do not talk via the net or the phone because it only creates problems and he was avoiding me, because he knew that I would start a fight and it seems that he didn’t want to fight.
Now, he still doesn’t wanna talk to me and I didn’t stop crying from the moment I woke up till now (around 3 hours ago) I miss him and I know he does, but I feel so hurt and neglected, like I have been taken for granted.
I know that what happened is nothing serious but the emotions are doubled because of distance. I feel very tired and I really miss him.
Should I ignore him too? Should I beg?
I really don’t know what to do… All I know is that I want to stop crying and get myself together and fix this (but I wish this time it comes from him… that he fixes it this time, because I have always been the one who did it…)

March 26, 2012 at 9:44 am
Anonymous (2,654) (@) 10 years, 1 month ago ago

@kidvisions, your partner? I had a problem like this, although I was the one who didn’t want to talk on the phone, and on the internet, because it really gets frustrating and torturing. The people who are most close to you are usually the people who you share everything with. You just miss that. I’m sure he’d want you to be strong. Of course, he’ll also want to breathe.
Consider if you aren’t the one who takes him for granted to feel so sad about not getting what you need. It won’t hurt. Slap yourself.
Don’t ignore him. Don’t beg. Feel good and dream. Don’t be a victim. It’s kind of repelling to men. :) Write something. You may exaggerate your own situation for some reason. Listen to this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qaH2pbtEDck
Listen to something else. Have a glass of wine. Write something. Write how incredibly crazy your worrying is. It may come something good out of it. :)

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Hitomi (67) (@kidvisions) 10 years, 1 month ago ago

@Sasho: thank you! I really feel better after reading this!
I actually wrote a song and recorded one I have always wanted to record and sent it to him and he loved it! But I still feel bad but I guess you are right.
Maybe I am the one taking him for granted, but the thing is I am too sensitive it’s killing me!

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stonedragon (143) (@stonedragon21) 10 years, 1 month ago ago

kidvisions. i am thinking of you. what sasho wrote is so ON . do what he says, write your song, do something creative. try to pull yourself up out of this hole. you are the only one who can do it girl. i know you can!
we are all cheering you on. the sun is shining , it is spring time! find some joy with in your own heart.
take care! we love you!

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Luigi (1,453) (@luigiblue) 10 years, 1 month ago ago

“You could love me or not
But either way I’ve got to
Wake up to face another day tomorrow morning
You could love me or not
But either way I’ve got the sunrise looking in my eyes” -Dub FX

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Hitomi (67) (@kidvisions) 10 years, 1 month ago ago

Thanks! that’s so sweet!

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Hitomi (67) (@kidvisions) 10 years, 1 month ago ago

It is difficult after being hurt to let go and just forget about it and forgive, but when you love, you gotta do it!

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Luigi (1,453) (@luigiblue) 10 years, 1 month ago ago

I know how you feel. I’m going through something similar. It hurts when this person who has been apart of your past and planned to be apart of your future just suddenly vanishes from your world. It sucks but you gotta move on. There are so many things that remind me of that person and everywhere I go it makes me miss her but once again, the sun is still shining..move on. Love is a beautiful thing and humans are capable of falling in love more than once. Take advantage of it and find someone who will appreciate that love. :) I hope everything works out.

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Ditty (10) (@aditya) 10 years, 1 month ago ago

Huh…I’m going through a similar thing…I don’t understand why someone has to avoid a conflict…I really have no clue how “not talking about it” helps, I myself didn’t get over this yet! But some good music might help…just thinking about it certainly wouldn’t…a friend of mine told me about not letting “relationship thing” rule your emotions and rule your life…it is just there…be selfish a li’l…its OK :) Don’t ignore or don’t beg…Just be the normal kidvisions you are :)

I feel you on how not-so-easy to just forget and forgive is..I myself cant do it so easily…But isn’t this “keeping your calm” all about?

Just do not react so much…be an observer like they say…things will be alright :) I hope you both will be all good very soon…Change of perspective would certainly help :) Its helping me…I’m trying too… :)

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Anonymous (2,654) (@) 10 years, 1 month ago ago

Selfish – I need you so I can love myself.
Selfless – Be yourself for who you are.
Egoism – I want you only for myself.
Altruism – Don’t change even for me.

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Hitomi (67) (@kidvisions) 10 years, 1 month ago ago

@Luigi: He did not leave… he is just avoiding conflicts and it seems that he needs to breathe. I have to admit that I have been quiet clingy, anyway not everything should work as we want it does it?

@Ditty: I don’t understand that either! I always thought that talking about it would help, but it seems that he got used to me letting go at the end and not insisting… anyway, it is how it should be.


@thanks
Sasho!

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Hitomi (67) (@kidvisions) 10 years, 1 month ago ago

Updates: things are much better now, only I still feel deeply hurt.

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