I don't know myself

John “Avy” (@Avernus) 9 years, 2 months ago

basically the title. I feel like I know nothing about myself, who I am as a person, or anything of the like. I am not sure of anything at all.

If I can try to put this into words… I feel I’ve come a long way in self discovery, changing and improving myself, loving, etc. but at the same time all these beliefs and things that were once clear as day are GONE. poof. It is slightly unsettling, especially seeing so many people who appear to have a grip on themselves. Makes me feel kinda hollow even though I’ve never been more full of life. Metaphorically, my trying to understand myself is like trying to grab water. I slip through my own fingers constantly.

Do any of you guys feel the same?

I think If I could identify more about myself that further learning will become more clear and I will be better able to apply things in my life. It would be grounds for further improvement but I just can’t seem to get a good footing.

Tips? Those of you that think you know yourself well, how did you learn about yourself? There are probably some questions I could ask myself but where to start? I’m feeling kinda stuck

July 30, 2013 at 12:15 am
ashtonbrainwavelove (23) (@ashtonbrainwavelove) 9 years, 2 months ago ago

What you are experiencing is perfectly normal – the road of self-discovery is slow and long, and it goes through various phases. At times you feel enlightened, at times you feel like it’s all darkness and you know nothing about yourself, your true purpose in life, or the world around you. Don’t think of getting to know your true self as a one-stop destination that you are going to reach within a few years, or even a lifetime.. Just enjoy the journey and embrace these experiences with gratefulness and full acceptance :)


Abood (1) (@razabo) 9 years, 2 months ago ago

Hey John,

you’re experiencing a very positive and important realization, a realization that helps motivate towards self-development however do not fall into the trap of being too absorbed into self-development because it is essentially self-diagnosis and we start telling ourselves that there is something wrong with us which needs fixing, a balanced approach is the healthiest. Technically speaking, to know everything about oneself, one must have experienced everything there is to experience in order to understand how one would react to them, we learn about ourselves through experiences outside our comfort zone which usually educate us about our weaknesses, wage war against the weaker thoughts that have crept into the palace of your mind. They’ll see that they’re unwanted and leave like unwelcome visitors.

Majority of people appear to have a grip on themselves, but they really don’t, otherwise current affairs nationally and internationally wouldn’t be as bad as they are now. This reminds me of a quote by Lincoln; “Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt”.

Also, don’t seek to be like others, rather, seek to be superior to your former self. Don’t race against others, race against yourself.

khandero (532) (@khandero) 9 years, 2 months ago ago

i think almost everyone in today’s world gets this type of feeling at some point when they’re honest with themselves, the feeling of being lost and stuck, the feeling that we don’t have what we really actually want, and i think this happens because we’re taught to view life in a faulty way

i like the way ken robinson describes this problem, he says that life is organic but we’re taught to view life from a principle of linearity, here’s a quote:

“We’re being brought up with this idea that life is linear. This is an idea that’s perpetuated when you come to write your CV — that you set out your life in a series of dates and achievements, in a linear way, as if your whole existence has progressed in an ordered, structured way, to bring you to this current interview.”

Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 9 years, 2 months ago ago

@Avernus, the more new experiences you have, the more you will learn about yourself. This means visiting new places, interacting with people you usually wouldn’t, reading a lot, testing out new theories or hobbies, etc. Be creative with it! Also keeping a journal helps you uncover a lot of things about yourself you never would have without it!!! Start writing even if you don’t know what to say at first.

Dom (78) (@dominickjohn) 9 years, 2 months ago ago

You are love. If you want to see yourself in action, do things that cause you to feel that.

Megan (32) (@fearlessldr) 9 years, 2 months ago ago


You need to watch this:

John “Avy” (57) (@Avernus) 9 years, 2 months ago ago

@tangledupinplaid21, I’ve actually been journaling since April to some good results. I don’t have the best memory so jotting down whatever comes to mind once in a while is pretty awesome to review later. I just wish I could remember every thought that pops in my head :P

, thank you :)

, I completely agree. Just gotta be me.

Thank you guys, I was kinda feeling down and overwhelmed last night – that was a lot of much needed reassurance <3

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