I don't want to grow up.

Hitomi (@kidvisions) 9 years ago

Today, I started my very first real job.
I am 24, almost finished grad school (working part time on my thesis and working in this job full time) but I don’t want to grow up.
My boyfriend got his real job last year and ever since I’ve been missing the times when we were younger We’ve been together 4 years now) and we were together all the time at college. Now, he has to work and I can’t see him as much.
I will be working too and we won’t see much of each other, but we are doing this so we can afford to rend a house and get married in 1 or 2 years.
The thing is, as much as I want to live with him and get married I don’t want to grow up.
I just want to get married because I love love him and want it, but not because I want to subscrib to this social practice.
I want to earn money, but I don’t want to be a grownup who goes to work and sells his/her soul to the devil. I want to keep my innocence, I don’t want to grow up. I want to
work without becoming a grown up… Is it even possible?

May 20, 2013 at 1:22 pm
Anonymous (512) (@) 9 years ago ago

@kidvisions, You say you do not want to subscribe to social practices, yet you appear to adhere to social constructs pertaining to age maturations.

Growing old is not necessarily growing up.

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Hitomi (67) (@kidvisions) 9 years ago ago

@optimystic, I know, and that’s the point. I am saying that I am 24 so I am supposed to grow up in society’s eyes but I don’t want to!

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Anonymous (512) (@) 9 years ago ago

@kidvisions, You don’t need to.

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Subwoofer Stevens (246) (@jakehay) 9 years ago ago

“I want all the benefits of being grown up but none of the responsibility”

I’m a year older than you and this is my 6th year in community service/social work. There are ways to work and earn money without selling your soul to the devil.

My grandfather was already 4 years in the Pacific Islands fighting the Japanese at your age. He didn’t have a choice when it came to keeping his innocence. Some of the people I meet through work have stories that will make you count your lucky stars every single day. Be grateful that you’re a beautiful girl with a grad degree in a successful relationship who whose biggest problem is not wanting to grow up.

Sorry if it sounds harsh, but I’ll call a spade a spade.

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Hitomi (67) (@kidvisions) 9 years ago ago

@optimystic, How?

@jakehay
, I live in Tunisia man… I can’t even live with my boyfriend outside of marriage and don’t have the money to get married. 4 years…

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Anonymous (512) (@) 9 years ago ago

@kidvisions, “A man is not old until regrets replace dreams.”

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Subwoofer Stevens (246) (@jakehay) 9 years ago ago

@kidvisions, Well go get a job, make some money and marry him. It’s not the biggest drama, is it?

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Hitomi (67) (@kidvisions) 9 years ago ago

@optimystic, I feel that way. @jakehay, Yes…

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Subwoofer Stevens (246) (@jakehay) 9 years ago ago

@kidvisions, Unrelated, I met a taxi driver from Tunis. He couldn’t stop talking about how great a country Tunisia was and how he can’t wait to get back.

You seem to be genuinely at a crossroads so I’ll quit being judgemental and give you some proper advice. First things first, what are you studying?

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Hitomi (67) (@kidvisions) 9 years ago ago

@jakehay, haha! he said that? That’s because he doesn’t LIVE here anymore!!!!
I am studying linguistics — I studied English and now I am starting research in applied linguisitics, Second Language Acquisition.

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Subwoofer Stevens (246) (@jakehay) 9 years ago ago

@kidvisions, Is it possible to use your skills and research to teach children English? Teaching is a noble career path, relatively decently paid, you are not working for the man or selling your soul, and the hours aren’t fairly taxing so you could still make time for your boyfriend?

Tunisia was part of the Arab Spring? Did the revolution create opportunities? If so it may be best time for you ‘grow up’, as your country is growing too you may be able to do it on your own terms.

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Hitomi (67) (@kidvisions) 9 years ago ago

@jakehay, Right now, I can’t get a job as a teacher of English unless I get a certification for it ( it seems that a Master’s degree is not enough) so I am going to start this job for the following year and maybe the one after it until I save enough money to get married and then I can start saving for the CELTA -certification to teach English- which is very expensive here.
Yes , the so called Arabic spring started in Tunisia, but I don’t have a lot of hope for this country, I want to leave.

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Subwoofer Stevens (246) (@jakehay) 9 years ago ago

@kidvisions, Do you have opportunity to leave?

Be like the taxi driver and come to Australia :)

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Hitomi (67) (@kidvisions) 9 years ago ago

@jakehay, I don’t have the money for it now… but I want to leave… I want to be a musician and a children book author…

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Subwoofer Stevens (246) (@jakehay) 9 years ago ago

@kidvisions, Awesome :)

What music do you play?

I’m a singer/songwriter by hobby.

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Hitomi (67) (@kidvisions) 9 years ago ago

@jakehay, I used to sing in a symphonic metal band, now I am switching to jazz/ blues/ soul!
Cool! you sing! I sing too!

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