Alright, so every time I hang out with a group of friends, I notice 90% of conversations are related to matters dealing with other peoples personal lives through social media, or topics that involve social media. Basically, social media has become a way of life for them and many other people.
I notice this with the majority of people I meet in person. I do own a smartphone (which I plan to get rid of) but I do not have any social media platforms. When I am up and about, I turn off my phone, and search for awesome, authentic interactions with other people. There are many instances where I’ve had the most random, profound conversations with strangers. There are also many, many, occasions where I am talking to a person, and suddenly a smartphone is pulled out of a pocket. I find that very odd and awkward when someone pulls out there phone mid conversation. And when I walk around my college, the parks, or my community, peoples heads are down, with eyes fixated on their device.
*or when people are out in nature, family gatherings, parties, and concerts they pull out there device to “capture” their experience.
And that is one of the biggest reasons why I do not own any accounts is to experience and feel life. When I used to be a social media owner, my first response to a great experience was to “capture” it in my device and to share it with other people. The odd thing is, I wouldn’t “feel” the experience because the experience was sapped into a device. When I looked back into my device for the captured experience, I notice it lacked any feeling. It’s like trying to relive the past. Honestly living in the moment kicks living the the past’s ass.
My question is; does anyone out there who have no social media at all? In a world where social media has spread like a wild fire; how does one cope? To join, or not to join?
You know, everything in moderation. Facebook is a good tool to create events and gatherings (as most people are on facebook and therefore it is a common medium). Also, sharing your experiences with friends is a fun thing to do. It also gives you a common ground for conversation, what can be a good thing. But I also agree that it keeps people from properly interacting with each other and also takes away alot of actual experiences, if you decide to capture it / tell someone else about it.
It is your choice, whether you want to look down on your smartphone all of the time or not, or if you want to pull it out during a conversation, or if you want to use it in nature, etc..
Do what you want to do. If you feel like it is bad for you, don’t do it, and if you feel, like your friends rely to much on their smartphones / social media, either tell them (in a kind way) or look for new friends that share your values (much more fun to hang around with such people). Obviously, be fair, it is easy to get caught up into these things sometimes, even if you don’t want to.
My friends and I have a little ‘game’, whenever we notice that some of us are a bit occupied by their phones (e.g. at a bar): everyone puts their phone in the middle of the table and the first who gets it back to check something has to buy everyone a beer (except when someone calls you). This usually reminds everyone, why we are actually together. :)
@andropar, Honestly, I feel pretty happy without it. Using Facebook to create events and gatherings is not a bad idea at all. I think I was over generalizing social media and looking down at the negative sides a bit too much.
And that is an awesome game right there! I will definitely try out that game with my friends.
I recently deleted all social media for the exact same reasons you wrote. I have to say it is the best thing I have done and I feel so much better I’m enjoying life more. Sure it took some getting use to but being more aware of what’s going on around me has changed my perspective on what’s really important to me in my life. I would much rather have a hand written letter be given to me over a text message or a message on Facebook.
@curiositykilledme, Speaking of hand letters, my mother sent me one while back, and it probably touched me more than the thousands of text messages she sent me combined! It’s just more personal because of how human it is to see the other person’s unique handwriting.
* How long have you been off social media?
Its been about a month and I don’t regret it at all. My friend told me about this site as good alternative for social media a couple days ago. And hand letters are the best I save all of mine it just makes you feel so special that someone took the time to write something positive or just to say they miss you.