i know hah:)

 Chelsea (@cambria) 10 years, 6 months ago

ok so i need some advise..

my parents divorced when i was like 5 got back together at like 9…had my sister when i was 13 then separted again in like 8th grade…

so theres the back ground history,
last night i came to the conclusion that ive pushed my feelings under the rug because ive never talked about them(mind you im trying to become more enlightened and i feel like this is holding me back), but i also never really knew the whole story other than my mom "thought" my dad was cheating…

well i have started talking to my mom about her feeling about everything and about my dad..mind you i dont have bitter feelings im worried for them…(and i understand my mom but i also dont want my little sister going through the same games my parents play with eachother)
they have grown to hate eachother with so much passion you could call it love..

After talking to my mom, shes upset because of all the things she wanted for me, that if my dad would have helped out then i could have had a better life..
i told my mom how i truly feel, im not upset i feel like everything that happened has made me the person i am today and i love who ive became and becoming..that im not sad or angry that i didnt have the things she wanted for me..
and one of her concerns really is that im going to be like her who didnt live her life (or lived it for my father) and isnt where she wishes she was in life…
ive told her how i am living my life because sooo many people around me are unhappy and wish they could start over, that i dont want to turn 30 and wish "man why didnt i do this or that"…. but i am doing "this or that" now and shes not getting that…

well i guess i need advise as how to get that through to her because i feel like the bitterness she has for my dad is because of things she thinks would have made me happy but i am happy hahaah

i know this might be a little out there but if anyone can relate or maybe have advise because im at a brick wall talk to her lol i just want her to be at peace with this so my sister doesnt have to go through the same sadness…

April 12, 2011 at 7:11 pm
mario (12) (@mario82) 10 years, 6 months ago ago

the older people get the harder it is to get through to them, all you can do is share with them how you have resolved things in your own mind about the situation and that will help them some.

Pavel (3) (@pablinov) 10 years, 6 months ago ago

Hmm, to me it seems like the thing you have to get through to her is that life goes on, and she has to trust herself and you to make the best decisions. I would just PERSISTENTLY,GRINDINGLY try and cheer her up. Bring flowers, say i love you in a cheerful way, joking, teasing, hugging her, what do you want her to be? happy?

Alex Eastman (71) (@alex) 10 years, 6 months ago ago

Be happy around her :) if anything can show her that you ARE happy is BEING happy.

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