I Love You

Andrew Bazley (@andrewbazley) 10 years, 9 months ago

I LOVE H.E. AND ALL OF YOU!!!

I ESPECIALLY LOVE THOSE OF YOU ON THIS DISCUSSION TODAY AND THOSE WHO HAVE BECOME FRIENDS ON OTHER DISCUSSIONS.

In later years, my Mom always called us her "luvs". It ws a term of endearment that is so missed now that she is gone. I try to use it but it doesn’t feel the same. I’m not her. It will forever be her signature expression. Interestingly, growing up there wasn’t alot of hugging and verbal "I love yous". I made sure my children were hugged, told "I love you" and also "I’m sorry". My Mom began expressing herself more with the grandchildren and my Dad when my brother was about to go into surgery. The story goes like this: My brother is being wheeled down the hall to surgery. My mom hugs him but Dad went to shake his hand. In front of all these doctors and nurses my (Italian) mother slaps my Dad across the upper arm (very out of character for mom) and says out loud, "Hug him and tell him you love him". Dad did, and hugs ever since. Good thing since the ratio of male to female in this generation is 12 males to 5 female (grandchildren). They all hug and express their feelings easily. My nephew Sam tells his Aunt Ro-Ro (me) that he loves her everytime we hug…and our family does the Italian "hello and goodbye" that takes an hour coming and hour going. My kids and I text and say "I love you" everytime. It’s tradition but not taken for granted. We also always wave "so long" as people leave. No one ever departs to a closed door or alone. Someone always waves them off.

In Light, LOVE, & Laughter, Rosie

February 27, 2011 at 7:12 pm
Andrew Bazley (0) (@andrewbazley) 10 years, 9 months ago ago

I am a person who almost never says “I Love You”
If I do, it’s to about five people, and not always seriously. I’ve never said it to anyone that I’ve dated. I take it really to heart.

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Syn.Ther. (46) (@luna) 10 years, 9 months ago ago

do you like when people tell you?

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Anonymous (2) (@) 10 years, 9 months ago ago

What about your parents, siblings? Do you say that you love them?
Trying to get a feel for what you mean by this post…
=)

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Jamie (0) (@jamerz3294) 10 years, 9 months ago ago

Love means so many different things to so many people! I use a friendly Luvya with my buddies, and thye know it’s not romantic, but that it’s real. I do tell my wife that I love her, and mean it in the romantic sense as well. It just boild down to what *you* as a person are comfortable with?

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Syn.Ther. (46) (@luna) 10 years, 9 months ago ago

True, there are many Lvu’s but saying it is great, and I love to hear it…. don’t you?

I mean to the love of my life, I tell everyday I love you, and I mean it, and it feels great.

I love mankind to, it is just people which are annoying …. ;)

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Jamie (0) (@jamerz3294) 10 years, 9 months ago ago

“I love mankind to, it is just people which are annoying …” Aye yup! Well said! =)

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Jordan Lejuwaan (23,445)A (@jordan) 10 years, 9 months ago ago

I used to be very closed about saying ‘I love you’ too. I even thought it was weird to say it to my siblings. But now I actively look for opportunities to say it to everyone. Saying it aloud feels great for both parties! If anyone ever gets weirded out, you can always say ‘I just care about you.’

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Jordan Lejuwaan (23,445)A (@jordan) 10 years, 9 months ago ago

P.S. It feels even better to say it to people you think are annoying or dislike in general :) If that’s a stretch, an honest and meaningful ‘How is everything going with you?’ feels just as good. Your feelings towards someone else is a choice! Why not make a choice that feels good for both of you?

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Syn.Ther. (46) (@luna) 10 years, 9 months ago ago

@Jordan, I catch myself sometimes going out of my way to tell someone my opinion, and I recognize what you experience. Even in cases of annoyance , of course a little judgment is necessary , on how well the person would react to constructive criticism, but certainly in when a compliment is in order, even when I see someone with just a great outfit, .. or hear a musician in the streets, just take some time to enjoy, what you enjoy, these people put a smile on my face, so why wouldn’t I try to do just that. When it comes to criticism, sometimes it is just necessary, but always make a consideration if the energy you are giving, will be put to efficient use, in other words, spend your time wisely, and on those who deserve it. (everybody deserves love, but…. you know what i mean ;)

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Alex Eastman (71) (@alex) 10 years, 9 months ago ago

I don’t tell too many people that either. I tell my close family and 2-3 of my cousins and friends that, thats about it.

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chris de vera (4) (@yogini) 10 years, 9 months ago ago

I used to feel awkward saying “i love you”s as well…it’s something I rarely heard when we were growing up. And I kinda felt sad about that, too…because I myself found it difficult to say it…I feel so much love for people I know, but could not express it verbally…so there was a bit of a disconnect. It bothered me not letting people know how I feel so I worked on saying those words. I worked my way into saying it more often by calling and addressing my friends and family, “love”. At first I found out that it makes people un-easy when I respond with, “Yes, love.”, or ask any of my friends, “How are you, love?”…but the more I use it to address people and the more they hear it from me…it just takes on a positive energy on its own. =) Now I feel less awkward…less scared…and more willing to say “I love you” to people I know.

I think it’s like most things we’re not used to doing or saying…it takes practice!

BE love and be loved. =)

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Alex Eastman (71) (@alex) 10 years, 9 months ago ago

@chris I might have to do that :) I’ve always had a loving family on both sides, so i dont know why I can’t say it. :b

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tami (0) (@skin) 10 years, 9 months ago ago

To say I Love You to people other than close family members was not socially acceptable growing up in Detroit. Most are raised by parents who care way too much about what the neighbors think. I have broken that “LoveThy Neighbor…but not really” belief with my own offspring. I watch them love their neighbors with hearts as big as a house :)

Question: How many of us here can say I Love You to our own selves (in the mirror, perhaps?)without that twinge feeling in the gut?

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Lovely de la Cruz (0) (@babylove) 10 years, 8 months ago ago

a boy told me before “if i say I LOVE YOU, wat will you reply?” and i said “if i say I LOVE YOU TOO, are we going to be together?” he said ‘i love you’ to me and i answered back ‘i love you too’..but then he left me with a broken heart.. LOL

>>the essence is do not use that word if you dont really mean it coz u might hurt her/him unintentionally.. :)

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rosemarie (0) (@roesplace) 10 years, 8 months ago ago

CAN’T SAY “I love you” out loud (all the time) then a written code I use with friends and family and new people I meet is: “YAL”…YOU ARE LOVED.

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Bee (0) (@beee) 10 years, 8 months ago ago

Saying “I love you” can also be a cultural thing. My mother (who is American) says “I love you” almost every time we talk on the phone before she says goodbye. My father is German and never says it. I’ve noticed it also with my American friends and their families, they tend to say it a lot. My (Dutch) boyfriend never says “I love you” (except to me) and his parents have never said it to him. (But he does write “kisses” after text messages to his (straight) guy friends…go figure :P) But I don’t think German or Dutch families love each other less, they just…don’t say it.

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Sheila (1) (@shebreezy) 10 years, 8 months ago ago

I think it’s important to tell people you love them and I think it’s even more important to hear. Everyone needs to know someone loves them. :)

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Pelinga…. (8) (@mateamkalib) 10 years, 8 months ago ago

E.L.E- EVERYBODY LOVE EVERYBODY—- Jackie Moon, semi-pro

I always say “I love you” to the people I do whenever I am parting with them, even if I am going to the grocery store or something as simple as that— That way if something ever happened (ex. i died in a car crash) the last thing i would have said is “I love you”

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iamjimmy (27) (@iamjimmy) 10 years, 8 months ago ago

I dont say i love you. The words just don’t seem right coming out of my mouth. even with my parents, Im 20 and i have probably said “love you” (without the I) to my mom maybe once or twice in the past year and even less to my dad. I honestly borderline cringe if i try to say it, like my tongue wasnt meant to move in that way, it just feels so awkward. I care about people a lot, but love just doesn’t seem like a word to describe my feelings.

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iamjimmy (27) (@iamjimmy) 10 years, 8 months ago ago

I dont say i love you. The words just don’t seem right coming out of my mouth. even with my parents, Im 20 and i have probably said “love you” (without the I) to my mom maybe once or twice in the past year and even less to my dad. I honestly borderline cringe if i try to say it, like my tongue wasnt meant to move in that way, it just feels so awkward. I care about people a lot, but love just doesn’t seem like a word to describe my feelings.

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iamjimmy (27) (@iamjimmy) 10 years, 8 months ago ago

that made me sound heartless, but i am no where near. I am not against the whole i love you thing. I just dont get along with the words. I like seeing people say “i love you” to eachother.

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