I need advice on moving…to travel or go back home

 dearlydeviant (@dearlydeviant)6 years, 7 months ago

Here’s a little backup to my story: I’ve been living in a gorgeous, tiny, desert town for two years now. Originally came out here to be with my boyfriend and with hopes of getting a job with a nearby State Park. Well, the state park job never worked out and boyfriend broke up with me at the beginning of the year. I’ve been living on my own in a small trailer and my lease is up in February. I have a decent job and I hope to couch surf until May, when the busy season is over so I can continue my job and save up money to move.

But, my main dilemma, I don’t know where to move. I’m from San Diego, my parents and siblings all live in San Diego and all want me to come back, very badly. I was born and raised there so I’m familiar with it, could probably find a part-time retail job easily and stay with my parents until I can get my own place. But, I’m resisting wanting to move back home, I want to have adventures, explore, go somewhere new. I have a friend who wants to go to Portland, Oregon or anywhere new, really. But I’m not sure.

I’m sure there are plenty of adventurers on here who can give me some advice, is it better to move to a completely new place or to go back home? I’d love to go somewhere new, but it’s a big leap, I also want advice on how to go about moving somewhere new.

Please share advice, tips, experiences.

October 29, 2014 at 6:39 pm
Cody Russell (15) (@GimmeTheMic) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

Follow your heart!!!!!
You say you want to have adventures but you’re already having them!
Personally I moved from Illinois to Rhode Island after I dropped out of school for no reason but insanity.
If the only thing holding you back is FEAR then NOTHING is holding you back.
I would say follow your heart and leap. All we have is NOW!!
its all love its all good.

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dearlydeviant (1) (@dearlydeviant) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

Awesome, thanks for the response! That’s really inspiring.

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Alex (551) (@hollowinfinity) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

Advice: You know as well as I do, the more you question this the more you will just move back home. Stop worrying, and just do. Let go, and live.
Be fearless and play.

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dearlydeviant (1) (@dearlydeviant) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

That’s great advice! Thank you :)

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Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

I would travel if I were you. You’ve already lived in San Diego and have an idea of what it has to offer. You can always settle down and get your own place, but being unattached is the time to explore new places. No relationship, no lease, and wanderlust.

You could use the money you’re able to save until May to travel around, and then figure out what you want to do. It sounds like you have a pretty solid place to go in SD when you’re done traveling. If you’re afraid that things might go wrong (I assume you might have this fear since you’re hesitating) it’s good to know you have a safety net with your family.

My current experience is I moved somewhere with my boyfriend out in the Midwest and we just broke up about a month ago now. Now I am also living in a desert town, saving money until April or May and then the plan is to travel around (I have always wanted to but always made excuses and kept putting it off) and road trip and camp a lot, I think mainly in the pacific northwest (so it’s funny you mention Portland). I don’t know for sure what will happen after that but I have vague ideas of settling down (at least for a bit) near the Northern CA coast.
It sounds like we have similar experiences and desires. :) To repeat what Cody said, I say follow your heart. It won’t steer you wrong.

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dearlydeviant (1) (@dearlydeviant) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

Wow, so funny that we have similar situations! Thank you for that encouragement, I think I need to go for it and travel. I’m young and there’s nothing to be afraid of, it’s just doing it. Thanks again :)

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