I need love advice..

I-need-answers (@Jarrod1098) 7 years, 6 months ago

Right now i feel broken..My heart is crumbling in my chest and all i want is for it to stop. I dont want to feel like this ever again. WHY? WHY? Whats the problem with me? Why doesnt she like me? Why doesnt she want to be with me? Ive spent every hour of my life with that girl on my mind. I dont want to do this anymore. I want to be free. Free from love, hate, saddness, and heartbroken. I dont want the life I have anymore. I wish I could start over and never feel like this again. I just want out.. The girl I love does not love me back. She does not want me. I feel like she just keeps talking to me out of pitty. Someone please help me. Ill be gone in a few months to another place wherever the military takes me. The Marines tell me where to go. I have 2 years left in and for those next 2 years I have to watch the girl I love be happy with other men and I cant fight to win her back. I had her love once..I could feel it and I know Its there. I cant look at other women and not see her. She is everywhere..what do I do?

June 6, 2014 at 7:31 pm
Inspire (0) (@Space) 7 years, 5 months ago ago

Just live. Don’t be afraid to be sexual with other women, but don’t burry your sorrows in their pussy…if that’s understandable. If you really love her, peruse her but don’t be intrusive. .who knows…anything could happen :p

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I-need-answers (1) (@Jarrod1098) 7 years, 5 months ago ago

@space Thank you for the time you took to reply. This is the first time I have talked about this to anyone. I want to pursue her, but I don’t want her to feel like she must talk to me out of pity. We had a connection for a long time. At one point she thought about me the way I do her.

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Ray (4) (@brainofmorbius) 7 years, 5 months ago ago

Love in a sense is a mental illness. This is what you are going through right now. Its a psychological symptom of being rejected. You have to focus ON OTHER THINGS. Focus on your career in the Marines.

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I-need-answers (1) (@Jarrod1098) 7 years, 5 months ago ago

The Marines is only a short part of my life but its a HUGE part of my life right now. Every decision I make with this job I always think of how I wont see/hear from her.

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Ray (4) (@brainofmorbius) 7 years, 5 months ago ago

I understand that Jarrod. I’m not saying make a longer term comittment to the Marines. Just use it as a distraction. Do your best and come out of the Marines in an honorable way instead of just doing the minimum.

Almost everyone goes through what you are going through right now in their lives. Its part of the human condition to seek out love and to be rejected. There is no real way of finding consolation while its happening to you. You just have to get your mind off of it and focus on other things.

I’ve been where you are, and I can tell you that in a couple years, you’ll look back on this time and realize it was a good thing that the relationship ended. You’ll find someone that respects you and really wants to be with you.

Good luck.

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Animal lover (1) (@Kristinrs7) 7 years, 5 months ago ago

Okay this might sound a little harsh but sometimes the truth is what the Dr. ordered. If she wanted to be with you she would. Women hold a power over men and we know it. We play the friend card for as long as we can before the men we call friends (which we never have any intention of dating) get sick of this and eventually either proclaim their love for us or get so heartbroken they run as far away from us as possible. I hate to say this but I have done the same thing many times. And it isn’t right by any means!! But when a woman feels a connection with a man she doesn’t wait for the perfect moment we pounce on it right then.

The feeling that you are feeling right now will pass I promise. There is a woman out there that will be everything and more to you. But this woman is not that woman for you. Any woman who sees you suffering and chooses to make you endure her endless dating scene is not someone who has your best interest at heart.

She wants her cake and eat it too. RUN my friend. It is going to hurt like hell and you are going to think about her constantly but she does not deserve you!!!

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Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

That really is the end-all-be-all answer to all the trouble boys have with flaky girls, friendzones and mooching bitches.

What these guys do wrong… is that they trust women. May sound harsh, but that’s the truth.
Women aren’t reliable, at all, it isn’t in their nature. Trusting one is like trusting a wild animal, may seem cool for a while but you’ll regret it soon enough.
Women are dishonest, opportunistic, insecure and easily distracted. Most are also incredibly irrational, which further worsens the situation.

Gather a thousand girls/women, and you’ll only find 3 or 4 that have the slightest sense of honour and responsibility. And unlike men, women don’t enforce each other, don’t discipline each other, so it’s not like you’ll find out which ones are crap by checking with the others.

Women biologically gravitate toward this toxic behaviour, just like men biologically gravitate toward dominating their surroundings with muscle and logic.

Here’s the thing though, these mind tricks only works on the weak and the fallen. These bitches are bottom feeders, opportunistic scavengers… and so are the guys that go for them. No offense to anyone.
And if they can exploit your weak spot, you can do the same to them, and use your natural intimidation to either get rid of them or flip the script to your advantage. Doesn’t make you less of a gentleman or anything, what you give is what you get and that’s what manipulative cunts need to learn.

Society has never encourage greatness in women, and more importantly they never punish shitty behaviour. Bitches do what they do because they get away with anything.
Great people, male or female, feeble or wise, have learned greatness by exposure to consequences.

I am not excusing or defending this bitch behaviour though, and I don’t tolerate it in my life and would never sink to such levels.
I’m just explaining how it works and WHY they do it. And how to stay clear of that shitstorm in the future.

Most people are vile, selfish, useless and full of shit. Falling for their lies is a choice. Don’t give them the slightest opportunity to fuck things up for you, until the’ve proven their worth.

There are lots of good women out there, great women, fantastic women, they’re just rare. Keep your eyes open, and don’t hesitate to initiate, but don’t hesitate to deflect the duds either.

Love isn’t an innocent thing. A man’s love for a woman is possessive, a woman’s love for a man is parasitic. Conscious, honourable people can do great things with this love, but in its unchecked natural state it is just selfish desire that hurts the target and often the source as well.

Peace and love
//Elion

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Lau :) (2) (@lauramaciax98) 7 years, 5 months ago ago

oh dear… it’s very difficult to loose the person you loved, love and will love. But in all relationships, one loves more than the other, people use to say. I think you were that one, but I think I’m that one, too. I’m with my boyfriend, and i love he more than everybody! I know he loves me, but i’m usually suffering for his fault. I’m very in love with him, but I think he doesn’t love me like i do. But what can we do? I’m so sorry about you… but you must be happy! go out with friends, meet more people! You need to get distracted! Lots of hugs from spain! :) xx

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Ray (4) (@brainofmorbius) 7 years, 5 months ago ago

Lau:

They say that “all love is unrequited” – meaning that its not returned instantly. That’s the curse of being human is it not? Every time you express love for someone there’s a pause, a waiting period, and you don’t know if it will be returned at all or in kind…

I think this is why there are so many more single people now in Europe and the US than there used to be in say the 1950s when we were all taught that marriage is what everyone must shoot for. People understand better now that a marriage can be just as loveless as any other kind of comittment.

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Overspill (5) (@Overspill) 7 years, 5 months ago ago

@Jarrod1098

First of all, cudos for asking for suggestions from a bunch of strangers on such a personal issue. As some of the others have stated, this is something that most people at one time or another have to deal with. I am also one of them.

That said, i cannot possibly start to imagine what kind of relationship you and the now ex-misses have had. Alot of relationships end because the guy settles down and becomes a pussy for the wrong woman. When they have played with their pussy long enough, they eventually get bored and crave some more action. There is a reason alot of girls are attracted to men who treat them like shit. Men who treat them like shit are, at least, emotionally exciting. Loverboys with nothing but their women on their mind tend to get suffocating after the initial “Crush phase”.
I cannot overstate this: FIND A PERSONAL PASSION THAT DOES NOT INVOLVE YOUR MATE!

If you have the feeling she is talking to you out of pity that is a warning sign that you really do not respect yourself enough. And, not to be a complete asshole, but she probably talks to you out of guilt (Many people feel guilty after dumping someone) and has some inner conflict as to what her move should be. Leaving someone who loves you dearly is like giving away your most valuable and unique toy (Cynical, Yes.). If she respect´s you and you respect her, you should let each other go.

All this said, i would encourage you to not take any of it personal, as i do not know the circumstances of your relationship. Hell, for all i know you are an abusive cocksucker with a tremendous ego and jealousy issues and you fucking deserve to be stringed along.

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Jane Sara (0) (@BeMine) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Dear Jarrod,
Well I am not going to sit here typing out saying how sorry I feel for you or pitying you here. She might have been once been your soul mate, the women who you tell everything to because of how much you means to you and you trust her completely. Alright why does she want to be with you anymore? There might be a reason or a chance of why she decided to leaves you might be because she can’t stand or handle of you being so far apart away from her. Without the connection it might not mean strong to her to the relationship you both used to have. But if she does truly loves you the way you love her she will wait for you cause its only 2 years (but of course anything could happen) Faith is very important as much as keep your head up high, be positive about everything that is to come in life. I do really understand the feeling of someone leaving you especially someone whom you felt like once who was your true soul mate because I have met my soul mate before in just a particular online app. There’s so much to tell and writing this actually reminds of me and him so much.. (quite the emotional) we did indeed had our history together a lot of happened. Guess I really do miss him but of well its life and things will happen eventually we just can’t really see it now but it is gonna happen one day. One day. You know what the more times I read your message above the more you seem like my soul mate. But of course I know who exactly is my soul mate or should I say used to be soul mate (not you). Anyways till then when you get this message I shall write more.

God blesses you,
Jane

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YHVH (462) (@spaceghost) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Your answers are in the reason she left you.

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Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 7 years, 6 months ago ago

Dafuq?

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