Im confused

Cherish McCann (@Cherish-McCann) 5 years, 5 months ago

So recently I have really been confused with what makes me happy. How do I find happiness within myself when I am always influenced by others?

I also have been struggling with being single; it is not like I miss my last love. but I miss what we had (the feeling of being loved). Recently, I have been not stop looking for someone, it is draining, and its starting to make me feel worthless. Any suggestions? BECAUSE IM LOST

June 18, 2016 at 2:58 pm
Taryn (0) (@Taryn-Bonner) 5 years, 5 months ago ago

Your primary deciding factor of what you want is your emotion, which is always in accordance with you Inner Being. If you feel good about something, then do it. If you don’t feel good about something then move one. Focus your attention on the things that make you happy and you will attract happines into your life. It doesn’t matter what other people like or see in you, as long as you see the highest and greatest version of yourself as something to strive for! Can’t really help with the other thing as I have been single my whole life but I hope this helps! <3

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Cherish McCann (1) (@Cherish-McCann) 5 years, 5 months ago ago

Thank you Taryn, ill try all of the things you suggested! 

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Romi (0) (@Romi.S) 5 years, 5 months ago ago

Hi, I know exactly these feelings of missing the point.
 
What helped me was going abroad. I went studying to the new country, far away from home, where nobody knew me, nobody judged me and I could be myself. Then you start appreciating small things, I enjoyed the cup of coffee, the sunny day, just good song on the radio or whatever. The happiness comes so easy, when you are surrounded by unknown. If you have any chance to travel, or change your environment, do that! However, I must admit that returning back is not easy, it´s difficult to deal with bringing your “new yourself” to old environment; difficult but not impossible :)

Well, and about being single I do not have much advice as I´m single too, and struggling sometimes as well. I guess we should practice self-love, be honest and gentle to ourselves, take your time to make up your mind before you meet somebody; so then you can tell your prince I don´t need you but I want you :))) 

Much Love,
Romana

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Cherish McCann (1) (@Cherish-McCann) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

I actually travel all the time. Im currently in the Philippines for 2 months for an internship and I live in Germany.. (with my mother) but im american.. anyway i still feel distracted. I came here alone but the organization i went through grouped us all up .. so im not really as alone as i wanted. When im truley myself i am judged by those who dont get me. 

It sucks :(

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Farquaad (1) (@FatFat) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Are you me? haha no really, that’s a post the i could perfectly match me… I’m still finding myself, i’m trying to love my dark side, exposiing my bright side… What i have found in this adventure of loving myself is that actually happiness comes so easy once you do different things you nearly know before. I mean, i barely know the experience of getting a coffee with an old friend. if you need to go to the super, ask a friend to accompany you, go see a movie you know anything about it. Then, the other side of the pancake, i’m single since 10 months or a year ago, i don’t miss her but i miss exactly that of being loved, what people has told me is that love comes and goes, love will come whenever you aren’t expecting it, make changes just for you to love yourself. Maybe, just maybe your love is that one near you who makes you blurr when he/she see’s you, you just have to say YOLO and talk to him/her. Just Focus first on you, you are WORTHY ENOUGH to get whatever person you want, but you need to discover how worthy you are to yourself. I don’t who you are but this post makes me care about you so YOU ARE AWESOME and you deserve someone and is looking for you.

Also “You shouldn’t be sad because sad spelled backwards is das, and das not gud” :) <3

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Cherish McCann (1) (@Cherish-McCann) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Haha I loved your response!! thank you so much. You’re completely right, I need to discover how worthy i am to myself. I feel like I’m thinking too hard about it and I just need to live!. 

Also, are you german? 

Best, 

Cherish :) 

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Farquaad (1) (@FatFat) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Exactly, you got the point! I knew you would like it, your soul is described in your words above and seems like mine :)
And not. i’m not german, i’m actually from Costa Rica :)

Stay Positive, Stay great!

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niki (2) (@majchalajdu) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Sometimes we all need to be alone/single for a while and do some things by ourselves. That give us strenght and show that we can do thing without people around. I realize that after breakup and to be honest i feel happier than in relationship. I know it is not for a long term cause we all need someone next to us but maybe focus on things you would like to do, achieve, try new things that you couldn’t do with your last love. I am doing that slowly…still bit struggle but it is just beggining. Good luck and fingers crossed :-)

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Cherish McCann (1) (@Cherish-McCann) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

 I feel as if I’m rushing it, you know? I have to take my time, do things my way and let it FLOW. 

Best of luck to you as well and thank you so much for the advice!

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Anonymous (0) (@) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Me to. At 70, there is little time or chance to change anything.  Rather simplistic but a line from a Steve Winwood song says it- “If you see a chance, TAKE IT. Find romance” The one you reject just might be THE ONE. 

For you, wipe the slate clean, start anew. Lose the baggage, it holds you back.

You will always have the memories and they will improve with time. 

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Cherish McCann (1) (@Cherish-McCann) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Thank you jim :) I will wipe my slate clean and start fresh.

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