so basicly i met a girl while back and wanted to ask her out but im a shy guy and missed my chance then she was telling me that she thinks im cute and she would of like to dated me and she was gonna ask me the same night we met. we have been hanging out for while now and getting extremely close we have had sex multiple times and enjoy each others company alot we have heaps in common that its insane we have told each other we love each other and that we have liked each other since we met but neither of us made a move she is saying that her relationship with her bf has been going down hill very bad and that he never has time for her anymore and just makes excuses to dodge her basicly she has told me there sex life is incredibly bad due to the fact he lasts for over an hr compared to me 20 mins ( not a stud i know but average sex time is 6-8 mins so dont judge) and he has never cum from her he basicly does it himself and he never helps her achieve orgasm when we have sex it is not just sex its insane and she wants to break up with her bf but she says she needs some time to do it cuz hes such a nice and innocent guy and she doesnt want to hurt him or me even though knowing she is still with him hurts me alot to the point where if i get a text from her deep down i feel its her texting we cant see each other anymore i have even considered making a fake fb and just messaging her bf or just asking her to choose but i love this girl so much that i dont wanna ruin wat we have and i need some advice
I understand that you may have deep feelings for this girl, but she is playing you (not intentionally). She wants the both of you. That’s why she won’t break up with her boyfriend. She both loves you AND her boy. She’s being selfish and is just going to keep it that way. Be careful with her because she might not choose you.
As a woman I can totally agree to this opinion above. It’s just natural selfishness – she likes both of you – with one she has relationship, with you she gets what she doesn’t have in her relationship which is sex. I’m not saying that she doesn’t like you. As mentioned, she likes both.
Perhaps she doesn’t want to dumb her boyfriend, because he has more qualities on what she is searching for in a relationship.
I’ve been in this situation, but I don’t like to fool people, so I just chose to get things clear and stay single then, if I can’t choose. For me it is not acceptable to have two men at the same time. But it depends from the person, if she is one of those ladies who can’t stay alone and always need someone next to her, then this can continue very long till one of this triangle finish it.
Man, I’m sorry if this could bring you down but she’s not respecting either of you. I won’t buy anything she said, those things she told you, why would you trust her when clearly her boyfriend has all the reasons to distrust her with her acts? Same could happen to you if she becomes your girlfriend. You see her cheating, you’ll fear that in the future and that won’t bring you any calm. It’s not because I’m a moralist, every couple builds different relationship with diverse norms but trust and respect are always necessary and in this case, the scenario is pretty dark and tainted. For what you said, in my opinion, that relationship is not meant to last, you need to heal and find a woman that makes you happy, and this girl needs to find some clarity and stop being a coward with everyone and with herself.
I wish you the best of luck.
(english not my first language)