I'm stumped by this question

Anonymous (@) 8 years, 7 months ago

I’ve been thinking about a lot of things happening in my life recently and I came up with a question that I have no answer to.

‘If you have something that you don’t feel entirely fulfilled with, how can you tell if it just isn’t something you truly want or if you simply refuse to see the potential in.

The two main applications of that question in my life are my relationship and my job. There is fantastic and promising potential in sticking with both. But I can’t seem to feel that deep connection of commitment to either. But I still strongly enjoy both. I know I’m way over analyzing but anyone else’s input would help greatly. THANKS :)

April 13, 2013 at 6:40 pm
Anonymous (78) (@) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@chic9009, It is a genuinely profound question. Whatever choice you make I am supremely confident that everything will work out. That you will have a peaceful and blessed life and that whatever decisions you make will, in the end, positively affect the lives those whose path you have crossed or walked partway on the path with. Your light shines bright. Peace.

a Lotus Blossoms. (140) (@ancientmystic) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@chic9009, Trust your gut.

Anonymous (26) (@) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

the answer my friend is blowing in the wind , the answer is blowing in the wind

Woodsy (30) (@woodsy) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

Ok, brace yourself because I have a ridiculous way of explainging things. In short, the core of what I will try to express is simply to ask yourself a lot of questions and collect as much new information from it as you can, at different times and situations/ states of mind. Another important thing is to listen to yourself over common opinion of others (for example, mom can think this is the perfect career and I’m silly and immature for not wanting to continue… when in reality it is slowly drifting me away from who *I* want to become). I think it would be important to really analyze and feel if refusing to see the potential in something is forced or is out of one’s inability. Its easier to make sense of which one it is when one looks at the motivation or reasoning as to why you’re not seeing some potential or why you should be paying more mind/ attention/ effort to something. Sometimes it could be just waiting for something to wrap itself into being exciting. If you consider what your gut is telling you by making you question if you’re not seeing a full potential of something, it becomes a bit more clear to figure out if the apple tastes just okay because you actually don’t like apples anymore or because you should like the apple… or because you’re not hungry… uhh

Anonymous (78) (@) 8 years, 7 months ago ago


‘If you have something that you don’t feel entirely fulfilled with, how can you tell if it just isn’t something you truly want or if you simply refuse to see the potential in.

If it doesn’t ring true on both counts, then it will never be fulfilling.

Even if you feel you didn’t give it your all. That you think that maybe if you try just a little harder or take a different perspective than maybe it will feel right, just know that it won’t.

If you have to ask of the ‘something’ the question in the first place:

“Does this something fulfill me?”

Then that ‘something’, by definition and natural law, will never be fulfilling.

Breaks your heart and all love and blessing on your way, but perhaps you need to move on, and may the next stage of your journey….the next ‘something’ be the ONE.

Your light is already magnificent and you radiate it beautifully.

Be at peace.

Sandy (115) (@sandman) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

I’m in the same situation with my girlfriend currently. Not entirely happy, but hard to imagine life without her.

I don’t think anyone can answer this for you.

The only thing I would say is that from my experience, I’ve often been afraid to make a change because it seemed like it would be painful, I would hurt other people, I would be embarrassed to explain the change to my family and friends, or I was uncertain where the change would lead. I was frozen because of my fear. However, when I finally did make the change and everything exploded into a big mess, it eventually all settled out into a much, much better place. That positive result was impossible to imagine from where I stood before.

So, one helpful question is, “Is this a person or situation I want to work on, to live with, to grow with? Is this good for me? Are we good for each other” Or “Am I hesitating because I am afraid of change, afraid of the unknown?”

Maybe that will help clarify your feelings.

Andrew Wylde (9) (@bewylde) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@chic9009, you have to ask yourself if you feel the way you do about these things because they are comfortable and/or familiar to you. Sometimes you can get lulled into situations you may not necessarily want to be in because its easier than going out and getting what you want. If you aren’t feeling connected with them right now ask yourself a few simple things, do you feel like the fullfilment you will get in the end from them both is worth your effort, do you have some sort of nagging need to accomplish something in these roles and the times are just getting tough/strained, how in your past have you handle situations that deal with adversity and what steps have you taken to over come it. Hopefully what ever decisions you make are right for you :)

Anonymous (177) (@) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@chic9009, “But I can’t seem to feel that deep connection of commitment to either”. you have answered your own question.

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