In love with a married woman

antitesiz (@antitesiz) 8 years, 9 months ago

Hello there, I’m writing this because I need to hear others opinions.

Three months ago I met a married woman with a child. Don’t get me that wrong, when I met her, she and her husband were separated, they were separated for more than one year. So we can kind of say she was not cheating on him. But last weekend they came back together. She says she doesn’t love him anymore, the reason is that he cheated on her with her bestfriend and that’s why they got separated. But now they are coming back for the sake of their child.
I cannot say I truly love her, but somehow she is the kind girl I could fall in love with. I know this is crazy, but I still hope we can get together someday. She says she feels something for me and even that she thought she could redo her life with me.

I have no questions, just wanna hear your opinions.

February 20, 2013 at 8:52 am
Luigi (1,453) (@luigiblue) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

She’s gotta realize that getting back together just for the child isn’t going to make anything better. You can’t hide this from your child, they will find out and in the long run it will hurt them even more to know that their parents had this fake arrangement for years. Eventually, In my opinion, it will hurt the child’s view on relationships and love.

I don’t know if there is much you can do because this is something she “thinks” she needs to do…until she realizes that it’s unhealthy.

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antitesiz (0) (@antitesiz) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

Thank you, that’s what I think. I also believe her family had a lot of influence in taking this decision.

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Kyle (27) (@kylerbbrowning) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@antitesiz, you think thats crrray? im a 19 year old male based in south africa, i met a 28 year old russian female who came to this country to sort of help out her husband, who im friends with by the way, what happened next was completely unexpected, i fell for this russian and she fell for me, she endid up leaving her husband and so on blah blah…Love is a craazy thing,,,forget about all the other distracting bullshit, like her having a husband and its against the rules to fall for a married women…If it’s LOVE anything goes! if she wants to be with you and you with her,,, just pursue it man, save that man the hurt of being with a women who doesn’t love him,,and whilst your doing that,, make yourself and that lady of yours happy!BAM Its a win win win situation my friend! no matter how you look at it.

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ALEC (25) (@ALEC) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

I don’t know the full circumstances of your situation or anything, but it kind of sounds like this woman is prone to drama and chaos in her life….if you and her got together, what is keeping the same thing from happening again? but to you.

on the other hand, maybe you and her getting together would fix everything, and sort of straighten her life out, and her ex-husband’s life too. Who knows man, I’ve never been in love.

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antitesiz (0) (@antitesiz) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@ALEC, I think you’re right when you say she’s prone to drama. But I say again, the one who cheated is her husband, not her. So at least I have no reasons to believe she would cheat on me, while I have reasons to believe her husband will cheat on her again.

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yoinkie (1,498)C (@yoinkie) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@antitesiz, treat others how you wosh you were treated. Put yourself in the shoes of the husband and more importantly the child. Ask yourself then what you feel is the right thing to do and you will have your answer.

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ALEC (25) (@ALEC) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@antitesiz, Honestly, I’d say if you feel like you can love and care for someone else’s kid, along with her, you should go for it. I maybe wouldn’t rush to get married or anything drastic like that, just have a long-term relationship in mind and see how things turn out

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Tine (366) (@tine) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@antitesiz,

when they got back together over the weekend, what was the status of you guys? friends? fuck buddies?

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antitesiz (0) (@antitesiz) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@tine, our status was in the limbo, we were “nothing”.

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Kyle (27) (@kylerbbrowning) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

i would just try an focus on the positive things how she smiles when i give her the look, how she smells.. all that kind of women beauty stuff,,ive caught my self being ignorant a few times…thinking she wont cheat on me..im wrong if i think that.

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Kyle (27) (@kylerbbrowning) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@antitesiz, that was to you mate

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antitesiz (0) (@antitesiz) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@kylerbbrowning, Yeah, in that you’re right.

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