Is everyone this way?
Well, it’s kinda hard for me to explain what I mean, but I’ll give it a shot. Basically, a lot of thoughts go on inside my head, and I consider myself to be aware of the world and myself and stuff. Whenever I see someone staring off into the distance, I just think that they’re thinking about stupid little things. However, earlier I caught myself staring off into the distance, and thought to myself “to other people, I appear to be thinking about what I’m going to have for dinner, or something trivial like that”. Maybe everyone is like me, but we all try to hide it… in fact, that makes me wonder: are any of you lot like this? I can’t really explain what I mean by “like this”, but I’m sure if you are then you know what mean.
I believe people are generally the same. I think everyone goes through a “deep thought” moment or have a daydream. It’s what makes us us. But there are differences in our similarities. We all think but on different levels of complexity. @wetlemon,
@wetlemon, every human being is a deep well of thought and emotion whether they know it or not. Who is to say what that person with the glazed over look is thinking? It could be some trivial matter or they could be working out the new theory of relativity. It seems that you are looking for common ground to stand on. And the answer is yes, we humans are more like each other than we care to admit sometimes. We all have genius inside of us. We all have pain and joy. We all have the capacity to know peace. What I find more interesting is that person you see on the street or train who looks intensely present. With crystal clear eyes like deep, still lakes and a slight smile on his or her face. Those are the people I like to talk to.
@xetado, Um, to be honest I don’t really understand it myself fully. I feel like nobody would be able to ‘get me’. I feel like I’m separated from the world. I feel like I’m not actually me… which reminds me of a crappy poem I wrote a while ago. I think my mind was broken when I did it. If any of you can relate to this, please tell me. I know it’s terrible, but it makes sense. To me, anyway.
I woke up again this morning. I still haven’t awoken.
I’m here, I know that much – but where?
I don’t know why I’m still here, just that I’m waiting.
I’m waiting. What am I waiting for?
Am I fake? Am I me? My mind is broken.
Do I care? Of course I do.
Should I care? Probably.
I don’t think I care about anything anymore. But is that thought ‘mine’?
What do ‘I’ think? I think I need professional help.
Do I really? I don’t know what’s me, and what’s me.
There are too many layers. It goes unsaid.
I’m lost in my own head. I’m writing this now, but am ‘I’ writing this now?
I don’t know anymore. I never did, truly.
I’m waiting for an answer.
I don’t know what I want to be answered. I don’t know if there’s a question.
Is it something I need to answer myself?
I don’t know. There’s not a lot that I do know.
Just that I’m waiting.
@wetlemon, I believe I can relate to you, and how you have been feeling haha.
The reason i say “believe” is because there is no way I could know for sure. I can’t feel or think what you do,, but from what you’ve said in this post, it seems we share a similar experience :P
Of course, but we all wander down different paths when we drift off into our minds.
However, reality is better than getting lost within the thoughts that parade you deeper down that road you are traveling through when you day dream. When your mind decides it’s time to question things you assume others may not be thinking.
But I can assure you the man that stares off at the clock is pondering things deeper than you may ever imagine.
And instead of getting caught up in what is and what couldn’t be your mind continuously throws your way, come back to reality and ask them how is their day.
Crossing similar mental roads opens doors to brighter things than the gloom you’re portraying.
@osaka, @wetlemon, i have felt this same way alot in my life, the only way to snap out of it is to set yourself goals you really want to achieve in your life and do everything you can to move towards them, I use to spend alot of time thinking about all the problems in the world and how they could be fixed, or why the world is the way it is, why were here, whats out there in the universe. I realized that by doing this i wasnt putting any thought into the relastionships i was forming with people i was meeting. I came across as detached and boring like an empty vessel.
I figured theres no point going over stuff i will never find the answers too and instead concentrate on family friends and finding a job i enjoy, travelling and learning.
The way i see it, if you have nothing the aim for, no goal insight you think you can actually achieve your destined to sleepwalk through life. Which is i think Religion is still such a huge part of our society, it gives hope to people who would otherwise think there is no point.
@wetlemon, “to other people, I appear to be thinking about what I’m going to have for dinner, or something trivial like that”
How do you define trivial? Thinking about what to have for dinner is actually interesting to think about if you really care what you put into your body.
Any simple thing can have endless depth to it.
“Maybe everyone is like me, but we all try to hide it…”
I’d say I agree with that. People don’t think they’ll be accepted for who they are. We teach them that from childhood. Parents do it, other kids do it.
So what do we do? We create a character for every type of person we meet in order to either make them like us more or to leave us alone.
We feel vulnerable if we can’t control how other people view us.
I frequently contemplate what human nature is without pressure from others.
@danfontaine, yeah, it’s like everyone is trying to be like someone who is trying to be like them. We’re all aiming to be like other people so much that no-one is themselves, and it really sucks. When I’m friends with someone, I don’t even know the ‘real’ them, just one side of them which they choose for me to see. I don’t understand why people can’t just be themselves.
@wetlemon, im totally like this. everybody are like this. because you see in other people what you want to see. you can never know what they were thinking even if they tell you. because their words means different thing to them than they mean to you. thats why you will always hear your version and never fully understand people. :P
@wetlemon, just know you aren’t alone in how you feel, so continue to reach out and seek answers. I’d say to take up daily meditation and journaling for starters. Get to know the real you and how you’d like to contribute towards this life. It’s all a process, just know that we’re in this together; – the HE community is exceptionally supportive as you’ve noticed!
@wetlemon, I think everyone is that way, just to different degrees.
I find when people look the most stupid -as in they have that look on their face that makes you think “I can’t believe how stupid that person looks”- that’s when they’re thinking of something really mind-blowing.
Whenever I see someone who looks like that, I walk over to them and ask what they discovered.
@wetlemon, contemplative? Look up Alpha brain waves and beta brain waves. That being said, yes we are all like this. As human beings our brains can operate on different levels of functionality.
When engaged in the Beta brain waves you are focused and can get things done very quickly and thoroughly. When engaged in the Alpha brain waves you can be relaxed and reflective. (zoning out like you mentioned)
Hope this was helpful. You are not alone ,
@wetlemon, I know exactly what you mean. At least I think I do. I tend to think I’m a fair sight more self aware than pretty much everyone I know, just from interacting with them. Then I think every once in a while, how do I seem to them? They might feel the exact same way about me. And there’s sonder, which hits you like a cannon blast. But, whether it’s encouraging for you to know it or not, you’re not alone in that.
I just wish there would be more of us, so we can find each other in real life. So instead of feeling weird and out of place, wondering ” What’s wrong with me”, or “Where do I belong”, we can join together and have that wondrous feeling of reassurance that “I’m not the only one.”