Just another 20 year old..

Nicole (@nicccolllee) 8 years, 9 months ago

That’s completely lost and has no clue what to do with my life. Anyone else having the same problem? Because I’m on the edge

February 19, 2013 at 1:54 pm
Des (31) (@descarron) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@nicccolllee, I am 20 as well, and I feel the exact same way! I’m going to class and going to work and going on predawn runs and hanging out with friends but I don’t know what I’m doing either. I don’t know what it’s supposed to all add up to.

But I think that’s sort of the fun of it, ya know? I think it would be bad if we did know what we’re doing with our lives, it would all be planned out–and where’s the life in that?! (Super cliche, I know)

But I definitely feel your frustration. I wish I could just get a glimpse of myself and my life as it will be 10 years from now…….

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djax10 (7) (@fnpepe) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@nicccolllee, tell me about it. All I can say is do what makes you most feel alive, get lost in the fun.

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Isaiah (2) (@thatoneisaiah) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@nicccolllee, You’re not the only one! I just turned 20 last month and am in the same boat. I recommend finding natural, simple, and or faceted crafts and hobbies to take up your time. Music, video games, movies, TV series, …a job (haha) Basically anything that can fill up your extra time! I’d recommend things out in nature, under the sun shades of tree’s it’s all helpful; especially if you’re on the edge. Good luck!

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Anonymous (364) (@) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

It’s only needs saying once.

Step 1: decide what do you really want to do? Forget what society wants, or your parents want, or what you think would be a ‘steady’ job, decide on the one thing you really really want to do.

Step 2: Go and do it.

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Nicole (31) (@nicccolllee) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

The problem is money, I go to one of the top culinary schools in the U.S and its what I wanted for the longest time. Now that I am here I’ve never been so happy. Obviously like everyone else I just want to travel and be in nature and all that but I need money to travel. The last thing I want to do right now is work at a place that pays minimum wage. Thank you everyone for your input.

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Stoney Baloney (614) (@adamm0ss) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@nicccolllee, What made you decide to go to culinary school, and more specifically, one of the best ones.

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Dan (890) (@danfontaine) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

Freaking clueless 20 year olds dood

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Nicole (31) (@nicccolllee) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@adamm0ss, I tell people it’s because I enjoy cooking but being honest here I think there’s something out there that I’d enjoy doing more than cooking for a career, I just have to find it. It was also the only school I applied to and I got in

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Edward Bernays (131) (@edwardbernays) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@nicccolllee, don’t go through life thinking there’s something you’d rather being doing-that’s so pointless. Why must people think there’s something better/more out there? Also why must you know the end right now? I don’t go reading the last chapter before I start the book. The unknown is a beautiful destination, you should visit it sometime, after you’ve saved up the money of course.

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E.C.F. Doyle (346) (@chekovchameleon) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@nicccolllee, Don’t worry about it. Most people go through the same thing. The problem isn’t money, by the way. Something new won’t make you happy. Happiness/inner-peace is an active choice a person makes. It comes from within.

Do what you love to do.

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MarkII (71) (@mwinship13) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@nicccolllee, I am! I’m in college, not very good at it, and have no idea what to do. I don’t really have any will to do anything.

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Kyle (131) (@kyle) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@nicccolllee,
Might be an odd question, but would you consider yourself charismatic?

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Nicole (31) (@nicccolllee) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

Thanks again everyone

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Nicole (31) (@nicccolllee) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@kyle, I’d like to think so, yes

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Eric (59) (@eric0127) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@nicccolllee, ” but being honest here I think there’s something out there that I’d enjoy doing more than cooking for a career, I just have to find it. It was also the only school I applied to and I got in”

This is exactly how Ive been feeling recently. It feels like Im being forced by my parents to do something because I liked the idea 2-3 years ago, but I dont think they understand that times change and that I have changed

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Kyle (131) (@kyle) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

Maybe start a small business based around your skill of cooking. It will hep get you the money to travel and potentially expose you to new people and things that you might want to do. School and work is hard because your only narrowed down to one task at one place. Business allows you to get out there. Just start through your family and friends. I know a few people who have been posting blogs about what they cook and posting it on fb and have just got jobs based on that.

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Manuel.V.P (1) (@manick64) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

All we should do at this point is take every opportunity we possibly can. Some people stand there waiting for the pieces to come at them and thats just not how it works.

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Anonymous (119) (@) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

I’ve spent the past couple of years totally unlearning all the bullshit that I’ve learned all my life. I’ve learned that almost the entirety of my ‘education’ and ‘schooling’ was simple indoctrination. I’ve been finding myself and who I truly am regardless of all the repetition that has been hammered into my head over the period of my years. It’s been rough and hard but my eyes are slowly opening and I’m beginning to become more awake and aware.

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Anonymous (512) (@) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@nicccolllee, @descarron, @fnpepe, @thatoneisaiah, @mwinship13,

Oh my. I can sympathize with each and every one of you. I too am 20-years-old, enrolled in school, and wondering what I’m doing with my life. What’s ironic is that I’m actually writing a book right now “Reflections at 20” detailing this particular problem that we all seem to be plagued by. It’s just too universal of a struggle not to be chronicled I know that people will be able to benefit from hearing a story they can instantly relate to. That’s why I’m writing it. You guys (and girls) are too similar to me not to be offered my assistance. So I guess what I’m saying is to give it a year until I can try and get this thing published. I promise it’ll help ease the burden :)

“If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will get you there.”
-Lewis Carroll

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cHappiness (351) (@lachychap) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@nicccolllee, people can say chase your dreams, do what you want, buck the system etc etc. Although they aren’t realistic options. I am 20 also, went through a fair bit of down times, depression/stress and so forth and do you know what I found?
The best weapon we’ve got as humans is our mind, it’s power can spread beyond boundaries. I have not changed much about my life since feeling depressed, still working irregularly, barely scraping by financially and being faced with the same issues over & over everyday.
The real trick is taking control of your state of mind, happiness isn’t as much a feeling as it is a decision, you will only ever be as happy as you decide to be. Learn to take stock in the very littlest things in life, smile all day everyday; even if there’s no reason to! Don’t take things to heart, don’t let money control you or how you act day to day, it will come and go. You must thrive and feed your mind with positivity and in lamens terms, just keep on keepin’ on! :)
We control our thoughts and emotions, no one or nothing else.

After all, “Some people are so poor, all they have is money”

There’s much more to life

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cHappiness (351) (@lachychap) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@danfontaine, I’m sure you were young and clueless once upon a time. Mocking growth is illogical and the height of hypocrisy

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Alex (345) (@staylucky) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@edwardbernays, Every once in a while there’s a post on here that makes me nod my head in agreement. This is one of them.

Listen to this post.

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Anonymous (24) (@) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

I’m 20 years old too. There’s definitely times where I’m not sure where I’m going. I feel as if I balance between the feeling of fear as I think to myself that I haven’t done enough for my future, yet and that life is just a ride, nothing is to be taken seriously. Right now I’m just going with the flow of things, with a specific vision in mind, staying positive and just getting an over all feel of what I truly love to do. I’m pretty sure a lot of people our age feel this way and even the ones that are set on something may end up changing their minds in the future.

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MsKisa (20) (@mskisa) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

I kinda wish I still had 20 year old problems, it *seems* complicated but it’s like the easiest set of problems to overcome. It’s all about super-high expectations. The world says College is the answer to all life’s problems, makes jobs magically appear, makes the family and the cars and the retirement that much easier to get to. It’s just not true, and then later you find out that all those things don’t really make a life, it’s just a mirror for the majority of society.

Also bad expectations about relationships, sex and love. Virtually everything that’s pumped into society just isn’t how human sexuality or loving relationships happen. 20 is a really great time to be able to break that all down for yourself and start to form an idea of what you want out of a career and love and any other major life area you wanna work on.

I’d just recommend research, you’re in college to learn anyway. Focus on your culinary stuff, sounds like you really really wanted that at some point and maybe the stress is only related to the ‘being 20’ stuff. But also, study the hell out of everything that interests you, learn for the sake of learning.

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Dan (890) (@danfontaine) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@lachychap, Such a chivalrous knight, you are, sir.
Dood. Get a sense of sarcasm.

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