Laughing at a Funeral
Hello everyone. Uncontrollable laughter is no joke, but it could be funny. Do you laugh hysterically for no apparent reason? I do sometimes. It’s therapeutic. But then I read this article:
http://bodyodd.nbcnews.com/_news/2010/04/14/4380063-uncontrollable-laughing-or-crying-is-no-joke?lite – And noticed 3 specific things:
1. Humor is a mystery;
2. True laughter and most crying are never voluntary;
3. It’s unconscious.
So I asked myself how come I could make myself laugh when I just change my mood completely, am I redirecting my anger or am I just escaping or distorting reality? Am I insane and what does a SENSE of humor mean? I figured that I can provoke laughter easily. It’s not unconscious. It’s not a mystery and it is voluntary. It happens when I am really vulnerable, I can make myself cry too. But who wants that? Well, laughter and crying are therapeutic and it’s actually really helpful. When I make others laugh, I make myself laugh. It’s like an ego-boost, except I’m not proud of myself, I’m glad that someone laughed, I made them feel comfortable with my embarrassment. Lovely.
I learn from laughter and crying about my realest and truest feelings, not only about myself but also about human nature – about others – and it kills the damaging fear, it releases it. So maybe I am a little insane, but that would mean that no one is not at all. Natural laughter from the heart happens when it is good-natured, sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference, but the laughter itself is more important than the words said, they’re usually a truth meeting irrelevance.
I can make myself laugh because I can face my fears. Some may call that insanity, I call it self-inspiration. It is “the best medicine” for a reason, it leaves you at ease. Laugh more everywhere, don’t scare people with uncontrollable laughter, keep it inside you so it could reflect from your eyes, you’re going to shine and your smiles are going to look more authentic. If a situation gets too serious, don’t laugh but keep in mind that seriousness is the awareness that fear exists too, it’s your friend to remind you that you shouldn’t give it power, but to keep the light that hides behind your eyes. It’s what makes you human.
Why is it that we rejoice at a birth and grieve at a funeral? It is because we are not the person involved.
“Perhaps I know best why it is man alone who laughs; he alone suffers so deeply that he had to invent laughter.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
“Seven days without laughter makes one weak.”
“The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” – E E Cummings
“A day without laughter is a day wasted.” – Charles Chaplin
“Everybody laughs the same in every language because laughter is a universal connection.” – Yakov Smirnoff
“You can’t deny laughter; when it comes, it plops down in your favorite chair and stays as long as it wants.” – Stephen King
“A good time to laugh is any time you can.” – Linda Ellerbee
If you are too busy to laugh, you are too busy.” (Or busy being busy)~Proverb
“Laughter is an orgasm triggered by the intercourse of sense and nonsense.”
“It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the poser to choose either.” – Wayne Dyer
“Laughter on one’s lips is a sign that the person down deep has a pretty good grasp of life.” –Hugh Sidey
“The ability to laugh at life is right at the top, with love and communication, in the hierarchy of our needs. Humour has much to do with pain; it exaggerates the anxieties and absurdities we feel, so that we gain distance and through laughter, relief.” – Sara Davidson
I won’t mind if someone corrects me if I’m wrong. I won’t laugh, I promise.
Well I love the post! And it made me laugh. But, E.E. Cummings’ name always makes me laugh. I’m so immature.
I love to laugh and I love to cry–it’s mostly out of happiness these days. I personally have trouble forcing myself to laugh or cry, so it’s always involuntarily. I know I’m alive and I live for the moments I laugh with friends. Does random laughing make people insane? Well, does talking to yourself make people insane? Personally, I say no because both are, like you say, therapeutic. I just agree it makes us human, unless we’re all insane. But, I guess I wouldn’t mind that.
“Laugh more everywhere, don’t scare people with uncontrollable laughter, keep it inside you so it could reflect from your eyes, you’re going to shine and your smiles are going to look more authentic.” Love that, too. :)
Oh Sasho, this is wonderful. laughter and tears are indeed therapeutic in their own right, and I’ve toyed with the idea of laughter at funerals. they are almost exclusively 3 hour long ceremonies of grief synthesis, with varying degrees of hysteria, save the one person who is choosing to celebrate the life of the one that died. More often than not it seems that this person is attacked or is accused of being detached from that death, which is true of everyone to a certain extent.
I guess it all just depends on the situation, some might cry when they find out they have a terminal illness, some might break out in hysterical, nervous laughter. to each their own
I’ve done some work at a funeral home. I can safely say that funeral directors have some of the best senses of humor of any profession. You just need it in order to cope with all the heavy emotions and bodies, etc. They’ll never laugh at the deceased or the families but everything else is open for business. They rail on each other constantly and its funny to watch.
Plus I found myself in all kinds of ‘funny’ situations. I would just find myself thinking “Wow. I’m driving around in a van with 2 bodies in the back. How did I get here? What would it be like if I got into an accident right now?” Or, we would show up in full suits to the hospital to pick up a body. Two men in suits are bringing a body on a stretcher out to their vehicle. A little girl is looking at the whole scene in shock, so I say to her “Don’t ever take up smoking.”
I didn’t even work there that long, but in that short time I found myself in all kinds of strange and funny situations.
Very wonderful indeed. “Laughter on one’s lips is a sign that the person down deep has a pretty good grasp of life.” -Hugh Sidey was my particular favorite quote of the above.
I think a comic or somebody, no idea who though said something like “We’re all just a bunch of monkeys floating on a giant rock in outer space…don’t take things too serious.”