What are some of the biggest lies/misconceptions you had/have or were told (maybe as a child) about life? Indirectly or directly.
If you don’t go to college you won’t be able to make anything of yourself.
You can’t do anything without money.
Once you generate enough money to get everything you want, then you’ll be happy.
The law system puts away bad people, and keeps the good people free.
That’s just the way it is and there’s nothing you can do about it.
Once you die, that’s the end.
Well, the big one growing up in the Midwest, and its hidden pretty well, is that all artistic pursuits are impractical as a career (writing, music, painting, sculpture, dance, you name it). There is a tremendous bias in the US overall against the arts, there is no support for people who want to make a career out of the arts.
I have always been a creative and artistic person. But just to give you a personal example, everyone else in my extended family would not step foot inside an art museum if their life depended on it. The only novels they’ve ever read are ones they were forced to read in college to complete papers…. Their idea of ethnic food is a burger without the pickle at McDonalds. Yet on the surface they are all loving, well adjusted, successful people. I love my family, but I am not like them. And because of this, there has been an insidious pressure on me since childhood on into adulthood to just “get a regular job, keep it, and raise a family.” I don’t think they even realize they are exerting this kind of pressure any more… I spend more time at the library in one week than they spend in an entire decade of their lives.
This is such an intrenched bias in American culture… The only exception is that when your kids are little, you are expected to buy them crafts and artistic things to do, because little kids love to do this stuff. But when they start to reach teenage years they pull away from it and are pushed away from it as being childish and impractical. Far better to spend your time on the school football team. You might be able to get a college scholarship there.
So I feel this has really robbed the American culture and suppressed many Da Vinci’s in the works out there that ended up being factory line workers or accountants.
That I would never get anywhere in life with my attitude. I got told this most recently only a few weeks ago. By a tutor who assumed I was 18. It’s actually hilarious that her attitude has changed since she found out I was 27. Mind boggling shit that she thinks she can go around saying that to people she assumes are kids.
Oh just remembered this excellent snippet of advice from my highschool psychology teacher – ‘it’s dangerous to dream’. Hahaha, wow.