Life without Mastubation is great, with it it's unlucky/sad/unsucessful?

Shady Giorgio (@giorgioknolege) 7 years, 6 months ago

So i was able to stop masturbating for the edge of 3 months; within this 3 moths my life was great, great grades, happier social life, girls loved me, i had no worries,etc.. it was incredible, also because i had allot of motivation which flourished my inner true self, reader(when i used to be a regular porn watcher i couldnt focus on reading a boo), player, someone who always goes forward in life with no fear; Now i broke a few days after i graduated and it feels bad, i feel depressed, i couldn’t pass my driver’s test, life in the house i feel it became sad-ish and with my parents fighting(while i was “sober” i never saw them stressed to much or fighting), and feeling under stress and i link it to me destroying my great new habit of not masturbating, i have an exam in a few days and i cant sit still and study as i could have before.

My question is, could it be that when you don’t masturbate you alter you perception of life and reality?

I hope i can leave this depressed state soon because i have so many important thing to do, if you have any advice i wouldn’t mind hearing it.
Take care HEthens!

July 6, 2014 at 3:57 pm
Animal lover (1) (@Kristinrs7) 7 years, 6 months ago ago

I actually think this makes a lot of sense!! I have heard that men specifically become more focused when they in a sense shut down their sexuality. It sounds like you refocused your brain when you stopped watching porn. You found other things that made you happy that use to be filled with porn. You refocused all that sexual energy into positive acts of kindness and activities. However I do believe you can have a sexual drive and still live a focused energetic life. It does not have to be one way or the other. Yin does not exist with out yang…you have to create a neutral ground in which you exist. Every person is different and must make decisions based on how their own bodies respond. If you feel that masturbation is affecting you in a negative way then you should really consider giving it up and putting all your extra energy into making you life a more positive place.

As women I feel like with out sex and masturbation I become more depressed and honestly dumber lol. So I really hope this helped.

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Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 7 years, 6 months ago ago

Could be the weather, not sleeping enough, the lack of doing fun activities. Depends what you mean by altering perception. Masturbation itself doesn’t exhaust your total restfulness drastically. I think for that to happen you have to masturbate quite often. In fact, it relieves stress unless you already perceive it as bothersome and are on a sappy guilt trip, which in combination with stress and anxiety stumbles your drives. For example, masturbation doesn’t bother me personally, but the missing of positive emotions towards people understandably lowers my mood. You can socialize, not worry, love (seriously, need to fucking distinguish that being loved isn’t your feeling but someone else’s) if you’re attracted, more accurately – driven.

The bottom of your problems isn’t sexually related from what you’re sharing, it’s from having a lot of things you don’t love but consider important doing.

Your parents don’t fight and stress a lot because you masturbate…

You’ll feel better after all is done.

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Shady Giorgio (30) (@giorgioknolege) 7 years, 6 months ago ago

I have been a regular not worrying masturbator, and i never used to think about it afterwards.
haha i dont think my parents fight or argue because i masturbate, but i just feel it never used to happen when i didn’t masturbate, which confused me. I will think deeply about what you said about the problem being something deeper than just guilt and all. thank you, and take care !

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Zykanthos (4,757)M (@chodebalm) 7 years, 6 months ago ago

“My question is, could it be that when you don’t masturbate you alter you perception of life and reality?” — Yes, if you believe it does.

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Shady Giorgio (30) (@giorgioknolege) 7 years, 6 months ago ago

You got a great point my friend, i shall reflect on this. thank you for replying!

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Derek (11) (@wailingmoonman) 7 years, 6 months ago ago

It sounds as though you carry a negative stigma around with you regarding sex and/or masturbation. This is rather common, although it doesn’t need to be. We create barriers of all kinds – social, personal, physical – for many reasons, generally due to our social upbringing.

There is nothing wrong with sex. There is nothing wrong with porn. And there is nothing wrong with masturbation.

Having said that, I do have to call on that saying, ”too much of a good thing.”

It’s all about moderation. In effect, moderate your habits. Control urges. Use masturbation as a reward for being social, being active, for studying, etc. It doesn’t, nor it shouldn’t, have to be something looked down upon.

It can be used in many positive ways – even meditation. There’s no need to assign guilt to something we were literally born to do.

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Shady Giorgio (30) (@giorgioknolege) 7 years, 6 months ago ago

Humm, i understand what you are trying to say here. Yet after i masturbate i feel anti-social and i dont have the drive, and i have to wait for about a week or so to regain my self, i try not to link masturbation with my life, but it does naturally have a link. What are you thought on this?

Thank you for your reply, have a great one!

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Aaron (4) (@aevans8) 7 years, 6 months ago ago

I agree with Zykanthos, seriously, whatever you hold in your mind will become your reality. If you think masturbation is preventing you from living the life you want to live, it will.

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Shady Giorgio (30) (@giorgioknolege) 7 years, 6 months ago ago

As i said to Zykanthos, its a great point, it does make you think, and thank you too for replying :3!

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Shady Giorgio (30) (@giorgioknolege) 7 years, 6 months ago ago

@aevans8, @wailingmoonman, @chodebalm, @shoeopener, @Kristinrs7, Thank you allot for whoever replied, made me think allot of how i understand my “problem”, yet i can’t shake from my head the idea that me abstaining from porn/masturbation is in fact the drive/motive to all thing in my life. I have read on forums and site about people who quit porn/masturbation and scientifically it was proven by studies that these people found a happier life from quitting porn, Its a whole story of how dopamine is released in your body after you orgasm and/or watch porn which becomes a substitute to other activities which normally dopamine is when doing them, so doing these activities when “regularly watching porn/masturbating” they don;t feel as good when doing them; i apologize if you didn’t understand what i just wrote, tried to explain it as easily as possible.

Any thought about this idea?

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Shady Giorgio (30) (@giorgioknolege) 7 years, 6 months ago ago

@Kristinrs7, I like the idea of the yin and yang, i never thought about it. And i was surprised you being open about your own “masturbation experience” not many ladies are open about it. Thank you about your replying, i will take in consideration what you said.

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Animal lover (1) (@Kristinrs7) 7 years, 6 months ago ago

Well I don’t see the point in hiding who I am any more so I pretty much talk about everything lol! I hope all our responses helped! Life is too short to be unhappy:-)

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JonH (1,139)C (@IJesusChrist) 7 years, 6 months ago ago

“i broke a few days after i graduated ”
You don’t think it has anything to do with the fact you left an incredibly social setting, filled with people, activities, responsibilities, and possibilities? Rather, you think masturbation is the cause?

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Shady Giorgio (30) (@giorgioknolege) 7 years, 6 months ago ago

Hey John, i see where you are getting at, but thing is i ended up stuck at home with nothing to do and i felt i had to cope with the fact of going into the adult world and i think that’s why i ended up masturbating; plus, i had a drive to go out and hangout with my friends and friends from school, but now after i jerked off, i have no problem being a lazy high school graduate at home all day.
I hope this makes you understand better my “problem”.
Take care!

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JonH (1,139)C (@IJesusChrist) 7 years, 6 months ago ago

What this tells me is masturbation is just a symptom of your depression/laziness, not a cause. It’s something that you do to cope. I’m not saying you should, but you could just as easily masturbate, then go do something fun with friends. I don’t think you should blame one activity for an entire socialogical shift in your being!

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