From the 8+ years I’ve been working with youth, or people in general, the leading cause of suffering in direct order is lack of awareness, and lack of purpose.
For lack of awareness, one must step outside their conditioned comfort zones and excavate their conditioned boundaries and make an effort to consciously realize that what holds you back is making up comfort zones and boundaries from the self. You are unlimited potential. Act like it.
As far as lack of purpose. In order for one to wake up motivated and excited each and every morning, one must fight for a cause bigger than themselves. For me, I try to set an example to teenagers across my social cloud feed and in my community. I’m also helping Wes Soto with Stockton Rox, helping Middagh Goodwin with The Plea for Peace Center Stockton, and helping Tama L. Brisbane with Hip Hop You Don’t Stop Reading. Now I am in the works of creating my own very foundation to do just that, help others realize their true potential and guide them into where they’d like to be seen in the world.
Once you have conquered these two aspects of actualization, you can work towards what I would personally recommend that if one isn’t mystical, Benjamin Franklin’s 13 virtues that is systematically characterized as what he believes to be the best sensible ideal to become, simply, a better human being.
Those 13 being:
Temperance. Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.
Silence. Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation.
Order. Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.
Resolution. Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.
Frugality. Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e., waste nothing.
Industry. Lose no time; be always employ’d in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.
Sincerity. Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and, if you speak, speak accordingly.
Justice. Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty.
Moderation. Avoid extremes; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.
Cleanliness. Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, cloaths, or habitation.
Tranquillity. Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.
Chastity. Rarely use venery but for health or offspring, never to dullness, weakness, or the injury of your own or another’s peace or reputation.
Humility. Imitate Jesus and Socrates.
“I propos’d to myself, for the sake of clearness, to use rather more names, with fewer ideas annex’d to each, than a few names with more ideas; and I included under thirteen names of virtues all that at that time occurr’d to me as necessary or desirable, and annexed to each a short precept, which fully express’d the extent I gave to its meaning.” – Benjamin Franklin
@evolve, You define grace and equipoise, Hawaiian’s call it Pono (balance) In balance is cessation of samaras (suffering). Compassion and magnanimity.
You’re planning on implementing these 13 aspects in your foundation?