Living in the moment vs. executing desires

Anonymous (@) 8 years, 10 months ago

Does anyone have insight to help me understand the idea of not allowing your mind (thoughts, beliefs, insecurities) to control you while still getting things done?

It seems to me that the way that I execute things that I want to do is by allowing my mind to regulate me with commands that might be fear driven. Like you HAVE to workout, you SHOULD meditate, you NEED to clean.What is the alternative?

If you only act upon intuitive impulses of living in the moment how can you achieve anything or execute the things you have decided to work towards? If the answer is that achievement is not necessary at all, then what is? I hope that isn’t the answer though… lol

January 28, 2013 at 5:29 am
Anonymous (359) (@) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

I guess looking back I posted a similar thread that was basically asking the same question…
reading through that it seems like maybe I can answer my own question with knowing that the perspective you cultivate during an activity dictates whether it is fear based. I can start guilting myself into doing something I have set out to do, realize that I am doing that activity from a negative place, and reverse my thoughts to see it from a positive motivation.

The struggle is in the times where my instinct and intention to be gentle with myself conflicts with my instinct and intention to improve myself.

Maybe you have to be fully content with yourself before you can begin to change yourself in order to have a peaceful life. This just contradicts the whole self- improvement mindset- you don’t like something about yourself, you do something that takes away from your peace, and so you makes plans to change it. But then your motivation is self-denying… is it really a matter of perspective?

This has become a diary entry. Sorry…. if you have any thoughts I would love to hear them!

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thePinkMyr (24) (@thepinkmyr) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@anjelica, Remember my Triforce bacon post? ;)

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Anonymous (2,654) (@) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

Not letting your emotions steal away precious time.

Have you tried… planning? I thought I can’t procrastinate today but I did pretty well.

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Ray Butler (1,423)M (@trek79) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@anjelica, Rather than demanding yourself “Do better!” try asking yourself instead “Can I do better?”
The goal is to do your best and generally I find it counter-productive to my additude to tear down my esteem when I fail to hit that best. being all Gestapo on myself conflicts with my “Don’t tell me what to do” mentality, even if it is myself telling me. I suppose you could call it passive promting, make suggestions with no pressure, just like you would with anyone, and you find yourself more receptive.
But saying that, some people actually work better when they are oppressed and motivated by fear, to each their own.

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Anonymous (359) (@) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@beyond, I am the planniest planner

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Anonymous (359) (@) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@trek79, I think I am one of those people but only because that is how I have learned to do things. I could probably train myself to be the other way, passive prompter. Thanks : )

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