living simply?

millie (@twowoodenbirds) 8 years, 10 months ago

In the last 2 years i have really turned my life around on so many levels, still trying to keep growing and learning every day and live the life that I love. I am currently living in a garage with my fiance and although we live comfortably we do have a small amount of possesions in comparison to most people I know. But the thing is I always have this feeling of guilt! I can’t stand how i feel every time I buy or recieve new clothes and possesions. I have started a new system where every time I buy new clothes I give the same amount of my own to charity, this has helped a bit but am still finding it hard with just day to day living in general.. I try not to take things for granted but I just have this massive feeling of guilt for having my small amount of possessions. Anybody got any advice on this? has been troubling me for so long now!

January 23, 2013 at 3:41 pm
coxy (3) (@coxy) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@twowoodenbirds, does your fiance share your feelings towards possessions?

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Nature (67) (@stefan) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

You are feeling guilty for having such a small amount, as in you want more, or you feel guilty for having possessions in general?

Forget the idea of possession. You don’t really ”own” anything. I suggest you stop feeling guilty and keep the things that you may find useful and if you want to help out donate what you don’t need to people who would find it useful.
There is nothing wrong with having a lot of ”possessions”, i have no clue why you feel guilty. Why do you? Stop doing it if you don’t want it. There is nothing to be guilty about.
Why do you donate to charity? Because you want to help people out or because you feel guilty? It’s great to give, but it seems as if you are not giving for the purpose of simply giving, but rather because you feel guilty for having them.

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millie (7) (@twowoodenbirds) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@stefan, just having any luxuries (like the laptop I’m using now) that wouldn’t be considered the bare necessities.. That feeling when you can see a homeless person laying in a doorway across the street whilst your sitting in a restraunt eating a nice meal Thats the kind of feeling im trying to explain.. Perhaps guilt is the wrong word to use.. Thanks for replying :)

@coxy, yes he does in the sense that he lives simply and doesn’t attach himself to material things, but he doesn’t feel the guilt like I do if that’s what you mean? (:

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Andy (15) (@a1993h) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@twowoodenbirds
It’s great to hear you’re adopting a more frugal and honest lifestyle. You shouldn’t feel guilty though. I think having luxuries in moderation is a good thing. As long as we value what we recieve I think it’s quite humbling and there’s no shame in improving yout quality of life.

Unfortunately, the nature of this reality isn’t ‘fair’ and that’s just a negative aspect we have to live with. All we can do is strive to show love to others help balance things out. I understand how you feel too, it’s really hard to see the kind of thing you explained and know that they’re worse off and that’s the way it is. Donating in that way is a really kind thing to do too, don’t be so hard on yourself!! :)

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millie (7) (@twowoodenbirds) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@a1993h, thank you for your post it has made me feel a lot better.. Just makes you feel so useless sometimes seeing all the corruption in society and those people who can just turn a blind eye and not give a thought to those all over the world who are suffering! Keep inspiring :) bless x

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Taciturn (16) (@saging) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@twowoodenbirds, I agree with @a1993h, you should not feel guilty nor punish yourself for having these things, if you earn it the hard way, you deserve it.

It is sad to see those people roaming in the streets with barely nothing, but for me, what had happen to them is the result of the action they have made or a choice they did not take.
I don’t know, it’s just confusing to dig deeper.

Just live with the NOW and continue what you think is GOOD.

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